UO Thursday....

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

let's hear 'em ladies......

mizrunzou · May 2011

I'm up early...and I've got an opinion....

I DO NOT think it is okay to ask for money for your wedding or dictate what type of gift your guests should give...example: this new registry zankyou.com - you basically "register" for gifts and guests go online and "contribute" for those gifts -- the money just gets transferred straight into your bank account! Sure, like you are really going to be like, "okay Mr. and Mrs. Smith gave us money for the carafe we want at Crate and Barrel, and then your go out and buy it...yeah right! The same girl who is registered here (mind you, this is her first wedding) requested a "Gift Card" shower - I think that is tacky and how BORING.

Lambie. · May 2011

Apparently mine is that I think it is completely inappropriate to take small children in the room to medical proceedures, and yes this includes ultrasound, although it doesn't stop there.

soulmates04 · May 2011

My Mom and BFF are throwing me a spinkle for the new baby (my kids will be over 5yrs apart and possibly different sexes) and I think its a great idea! I am pretty sure that everyone that thinks it's tacky is jealous! What do you care if someone else gets a second shower anyway?? If your the invite list DON'T COME! Thank you and have a nice day!

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

Lambie.:
Apparently mine is that I think it is completely inappropriate to take small children in the room to medical proceedures, and yes this includes ultrasound, although it doesn't stop there.

i read all of your reasons in the other post but if my DD sits on DH's lap and is quiet the entire time i have an u/s, i have to disagree. we don't have daycare or family or even a neighbor that could watch her and if DH wants to see #2, she has to go. if for any reason she was to act up, then DH would take her out of the room and if the office allows it then why not? i don't consider an u/s a "medical procedure" at all.

lovelylacey08 · May 2011

I hold the opinion that if I open the stinkin' store EVERYday the only other manager should close the store... why the hell am I opening and closing the store? and getting yelled at by the boss when I'm not? what kind of *** is that?

alison2379 · May 2011

I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

LauraLP · May 2011

I believe opinions are like buttholes, everyones got one! I also believe that if your child is too spoiled to do what I need them to do, you have no right to get mad at the child, or me. Be a parent.

SarahOrca · May 2011

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

Ha, I was just thinking that earlier this week! I definitely agree with you! My u/s is two weeks from today...and I already decided that phone calls to the parents & siblings will be how we handle that situation. And I'm pretty sure my friends will be excited to hear, but it would just be tacky to put together a party that they'd feel obligated to come to...when they can get the same results via a phone call, etc. What are people supposed to do...bring gifts?

On this same topic, I find it highly ridiculous when people plan their OWN big 'ol birthday party (i.e. via Facebook invites, e-vites, etc.) I think it is tacky. Also, people who claim it is their "birthday week" and plan events for every night? Sheesh. Most years, I work on my birthday. With the exception of being brought out for dinner or something by my hubby, family, or friends...it's just another DAY, in my book!

SarahOrca · May 2011

somebodysmama21:
My UO is people use pregnancy as a scapegoat way too much. I mean there are times especially when I was in 1st tri where I really could only eat one thing and there are things that Im simply too tired to do but...I think its so ridiculous when people use the excuse of being pregnant to be rude to everyone or to demand they get more of a certain food or the last of something. Don't get me wrong my fuse is for sure very short and I have had a couple of instances where I over reacted but just because youre pregnant does not mean you can run around with no self control yelling and being rude.

Right on! I get mad when people leave me the last "piece of cake" or whatever it might be, just because I'm pregnant. Or when I forget to do something, and people say "Ohh, it's the baby that made you forget!" Yes, I'm pregnant, but it doesn't mean I'm a cow, that I'm a cranky b*tch - and I can just be plain 'ol forgetful sometimes! Last time I checked, my brain is still mine....

karabb · May 2011

My OU is that I think keeping the name you have picked out for your child secret is dumb. So what if others don't like it, I like the names I have picked out. When we find out the gender and narrow it down to one name I will tell whoever wants to know. We have spent a long time looking at names and I know that what we picked will be right and no one elses opinion is going to stop me from using it. Will the negative comments suck? Yes, but I won't let them get to me or make me second guess my choice.

antosh2008 · May 2011

I have a doozie!

I hate it when I get a behavior report home three days straight where my son is fighting with the same little boy. And when I try to get to the bottom of that situation, the parents try to tell me, "I've heard you said this. And my kid is afraid of your kid. And we don't have this issue anywhere else."

Okay. I'll admit it. My son is too hands on (he's 5) for my comfort in a lot of situations. He's not always being malicious. I've watched how often he tries to help others and how he likes giving his teacher and friends hugs. I've taken the blame and made sure to validate with the teacher that he is starting some of these issues. I understand that my child is no angel. I've watched him sword fight with bats with this particular kid. The kid didn't seem very scared of my son at that time. I've also watched them playing in PE when I subbed for that day. My child was across the gym playing with someone else. And yours ran over to where he was playing. But, why can't it be a case that the parents work together instead of against each other?

jessica0602 · May 2011

I loathe maternity pics. I know they are super popular but I just never got it. I remember seeing that cover of Vanity Fair or whatever with Demi Moore when I was about 10 years old and it just seemed show offy to me, even at that age. I just don't see the point. I'd rather spend the money on photos of the baby after they are born.

karinothing · May 2011

Apparently this is an UO but I wish it was possible to discuss out of hospital births without it dissolving into an argument or being full of anecdotal evidence. Actually, I wish it was possible to ban anecdotal evidence from real debates.

rescueddogmom · May 2011

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I completely agree with this and will take it one step further. I think it's weird when people have huge birthday parties for their one-year-old children and invite a ton of people. Outside of family and very close friends, most people would probably rather be doing something other than celebrating your child's birthday that he/she won't even remember.

memo9 · May 2011

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I have to disagree with you. This is the first grandchild for both families and our parents, grandparents and siblings may be more excited to find out the gender than we are. Our families live close and we always do things together so it works for our families. I don't see why you should be rude about something just because it isn't your cup of tea or does not fit in with your family dynamic.

jonnygurl76 · May 2011

rescueddogmom:

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I completely agree with this and will take it one step further. I think it's weird when people have huge birthday parties for their one-year-old children and invite a ton of people. Outside of family and very close friends, most people would probably rather be doing something other than celebrating your child's birthday that he/she won't even remember.

i think if family and friends are excited to find out the gender then go for it--any reason to have a party is a good reason in my opinion!!!!

and as for the 1st bday parties--you may change your mind once you have a LO. the 1st birthday is a HUGE milestone for the baby but also for the parents--it is a celebration of making it the through the first year and all of its challenges. we didn't spend a ton of money but we celebrated with family.

if you personally don't want to attend a 1st birthday party then don't go, no one is forcing you to attend.

wilsontl19191 · May 2011

I think surprise baby/bridal showers are stupid.

alison2379 · May 2011

MegMo10:

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I have to disagree with you. This is the first grandchild for both families and our parents, grandparents and siblings may be more excited to find out the gender than we are. Our families live close and we always do things together so it works for our families. I don't see why you should be rude about something just because it isn't your cup of tea or does not fit in with your family dynamic.

Um, it's not rude if it's UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY. Indifferent

My family is excited too. They'll love the phone call after the anatomy scan.

happylady07 · May 2011

My UO is I can't stand "make it up as you go" parenting, or just lack of parenting in general. I live on a military base right now and I know that a lot of people in the military are young parents (heck, I seem to be an older mom and I'm only in my late 20s having my first!), but I see so much idiotic parenting it drives me mad. Like openly cursing in front of your child. Sure, you can get them to not repeat you when they are younger, but have fun with that when they are being sent home from school as older kids with the worst mouths on the planet!

I feel like so many of the issues a lot of people have is simply because they were not using their brain to think about their actions!! It drives me nuts!

Miss Shasta · May 2011

MegMo10:
alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.
I have to disagree with you. This is the first grandchild for both families and our parents, grandparents and siblings may be more excited to find out the gender than we are. Our families live close and we always do things together so it works for our families. I don't see why you should be rude about something just because it isn't your cup of tea or does not fit in with your family dynamic.

I think it depends on your family. Even though LO is the first grandchild on both sides, my extended family is much more excited than my in-laws. They have requested a gender reveal at a birthday cookout my mom is throwing for me the day after our anatomy scan. We aren't doing anything big, just having some balloons that are blue or pink.

My UO is I think sometimes posters agree or disagree with something based on who posted it. I think it would be interesting to see what everyone would have to say if all the posts were anonymous.

RobotLegs · May 2011

alison2379:
MegMo10:

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I have to disagree with you. This is the first grandchild for both families and our parents, grandparents and siblings may be more excited to find out the gender than we are. Our families live close and we always do things together so it works for our families. I don't see why you should be rude about something just because it isn't your cup of tea or does not fit in with your family dynamic.

Um, it's not rude if it's UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY.

My family is excited too. They'll love the phone call after the anatomy scan.

Exactly. My parents are very excited, too. But, they won't be MORE excited by a blue or pink cake than a phone call.

rkto · May 2011

karinothing:
Apparently this is an UO but I wish it was possible to discuss out of hospital births without it dissolving into an argument or being full of anecdotal evidence. Actually, I wish it was possible to ban anecdotal evidence from real debates.

I wouldnt get involved in questions or comments about an out of hospital birth, unless the topic was "my out of hospital birth is better because xyz" then I am going to argue the other side. (although, I am only anti-home births, not anti-birthing centre births)

but I have to agree that if those having out of hospital births want to talk to each other and share questions and stuff - I have nothing to add to the conversation.

I just hate when either side takes a stand that they are so much better. similar to breastfeeding. No side is right = it is just right for you.

I have to say this, I have been thinking about it since I came here. Everytime I look at Lisasue's avatar, I think it is a lady in a hijab. I guess I am not used to babies in black blankets. ha!

mattandbekah · May 2011

I am sick and tired of seeing people post on Facebook how their baby wont let them sleep! Seriously? You didnt realize babies wake up at night? Grow up, you are a parent now, it's not about you and YOUR sleep needs.

antosh2008 · May 2011

mattandbekah:
I am sick and tired of seeing people post on Facebook how their baby wont let them sleep! Seriously? You didnt realize babies wake up at night? Grow up, you are a parent now, it's not about you and YOUR sleep needs.

Preach it, Sister!

mrookie · May 2011

I think 3d/4d ultrasounds are super creepy. I have seen a ton of them and I just think alien so we will not partake no matter how much my Best Friend bugs me (she's super excited and far far away)!

KindraMc · May 2011

My UO is that I am super annoyed by the people that post a week to week update on facebook of how far along they are. They have these built in tickers that keep everyone up to date on their babies development - with pictures and everything. Similar to the UOs about other people not being as excited as you are - it's true!! I have started hiding all posts from those people. It's facebook - you aren't posting it for your own knowledge - you are posting it for the world to see and unfortunately the world doesn't really care all that much.

PitaBread · May 2011

rescueddogmom:
I think it's weird when people have huge birthday parties for their one-year-old children and invite a ton of people. Outside of family and very close friends, most people would probably rather be doing something other than celebrating your child's birthday that he/she won't even remember.

In many cultures, it's a HUGE deal when a baby makes it to one. I know it's hard for Americans to understand, but there are a ton of different cultures living in this country, with their own unique traditions. That's what makes us so great.

ProcrastinatingBride · May 2011

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

ITA, alison! I don't get the whole special FB reveals, special grandparent reveals, special WORK reveals, etc. I'm just telling people as they ask. No pomp or circumstance.

memo9 · May 2011

alison2379:
MegMo10:

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I have to disagree with you. This is the first grandchild for both families and our parents, grandparents and siblings may be more excited to find out the gender than we are. Our families live close and we always do things together so it works for our families. I don't see why you should be rude about something just because it isn't your cup of tea or does not fit in with your family dynamic.

Um, it's not rude if it's UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY.

My family is excited too. They'll love the phone call after the anatomy scan.

I guess my UO is that I think it's ridiculous that people think it's ok to be rude just for the sake of being rude (or under the guise of an "unpopular opinion"). I see many other unpopular opinions that don't have rude judgements.

PitaBread · May 2011

Here's mine: I'm so sick of healthy pregnant women acting like they are handicapped. You're pregnant, not crippled. Walking a few blocks will not kill you, I promise. I had one pg friend who is 3 weeks ahead of me tell me that she wishes she could get a handicapped placard for her car for the duration of the pregnancy. Really? Get up off your a$$ and move, it's good for you and the baby.

memo9 · May 2011

mrookie:
I think 3d/4d ultrasounds are super creepy. I have seen a ton of them and I just think alien so we will not partake no matter how much my Best Friend bugs me (she's super excited and far far away)!

I have to agree... I just don't like the smushy "guts" aspect of it. But I'll probably have one anyway so I can see LO again...

memo9 · May 2011

PitaBread:
Here's mine: I'm so sick of healthy pregnant women acting like they are handicapped. You're pregnant, not crippled. Walking a few blocks will not kill you, I promise. I had one pg friend who is 3 weeks ahead of me tell me that she wishes she could get a handicapped placard for her car for the duration of the pregnancy. Really? Get up off your a$$ and move, it's good for you and the baby.

On this same topic... I hate it when people act like I can't pick anything up or walk a little bit! I'm pregnant, not an invalid!

Kitty Holland · May 2011

rescueddogmom:

alison2379:
I think gender reveal ANYTHING (parties, gifts, flowers, shenanigans) are ridiculous, self-congratulatory and someone needs to remind the revealer that no one cares even half as much as you. Even my parents would just prefer a phone call. They'll be over the moon, but all the hullaballoo that posters get up to? Silliness.

I completely agree with this and will take it one step further. I think it's weird when people have huge birthday parties for their one-year-old children and invite a ton of people. Outside of family and very close friends, most people would probably rather be doing something other than celebrating your child's birthday that he/she won't even remember.

Yes! This!! I had a friend who in the span of 1 year had a baby shower, birth of baby party, baptism, wedding shower, wedding and then topped off the year with an over the top baby's 1st birthday. That's a lot of presents and time! The 1st birthday party just seemed so unnecessary.

KozieKim · May 2011

I CANNOT STAND when parents say their child (under 18) is their best friend! Get a grip and a life-this is a child if my best friend was my neighbors 7 yr old you would think I was a NUT and CREEP too!

jpeazybreezy · May 2011

First of all, I feel the need to point out the difference between gender and sex. One is psychological, the other is physical...LOL.

My UO is that I wish people would attempt for just a second to think about how just because something works for you, it doesn't mean it works for everyone. There are some things in this world that are common sense, and so we can how if someone said "I'd like to let my baby sleep alone naked outside in an A frame tent for the first year", that there would be some outrage.

However, wanting to spend some money vs no money on a crib is not a reason to call someone dumb on the opposite side. So much stuff on here is a matter of taste and opinion, so I can understand there being disagreement. I welcome disagreement since all the posts like "I felt a twinge in my toenail, is the baby okay", or "Am I the only one who didn't yada yada" are BORING.

I think that there is a better way to say you think someone is dumb. How's about "I'd never", or "What a terrible idea", or "How old are you?". Lol.

Kitty Holland · May 2011

PitaBread:
Here's mine: I'm so sick of healthy pregnant women acting like they are handicapped. You're pregnant, not crippled. Walking a few blocks will not kill you, I promise. I had one pg friend who is 3 weeks ahead of me tell me that she wishes she could get a handicapped placard for her car for the duration of the pregnancy. Really? Get up off your a$$ and move, it's good for you and the baby.

Yes

pennysuedog · May 2011

antosh2008:
I have a doozie!

I hate it when I get a behavior report home three days straight where my son is fighting with the same little boy. And when I try to get to the bottom of that situation, the parents try to tell me, "I've heard you said this. And my kid is afraid of your kid. And we don't have this issue anywhere else."

Okay. I'll admit it. My son is too hands on (he's 5) for my comfort in a lot of situations. He's not always being malicious. I've watched how often he tries to help others and how he likes giving his teacher and friends hugs. I've taken the blame and made sure to validate with the teacher that he is starting some of these issues. I understand that my child is no angel. I've watched him sword fight with bats with this particular kid. The kid didn't seem very scared of my son at that time. I've also watched them playing in PE when I subbed for that day. My child was across the gym playing with someone else. And yours ran over to where he was playing. But, why can't it be a case that the parents work together instead of against each other?

Because they think their child is perfect! My son was one of those that had trouble staying in his "personal space" too. He grew out of it and has always been a great kid, not an angel but none are. He never hurt anyone he was just really "hand happy" liked to tickle, hug, twirl hair, which is a big no no in school.

Fianschneid · May 2011

soulmates04:

My Mom and BFF are throwing me a spinkle for the new baby (my kids will be over 5yrs apart and possibly different sexes) and I think its a great idea! I am pretty sure that everyone that thinks it's tacky is jealous! What do you care if someone else gets a second shower anyway?? If your the invite list DON'T COME! Thank you and have a nice day!

We're having a sprinkle for my cousin who is having her 2nd - a different sex than her first - this weekend. I love the idea.

pennysuedog · May 2011

Okay now for my opinion. I hate it when people who don't have any out of the womb kids yet say I'm never going to let my kid _______. "Oh really " yup and here is the phrase "Just wait and see"

LauraLP · May 2011

KindraMc:
My UO is that I am super annoyed by the people that post a week to week update on facebook of how far along they are. They have these built in tickers that keep everyone up to date on their babies development - with pictures and everything. Similar to the UOs about other people not being as excited as you are - it's true!! I have started hiding all posts from those people. It's facebook - you aren't posting it for your own knowledge - you are posting it for the world to see and unfortunately the world doesn't really care all that much.

Oh my gosh I could NOT agree more! Super annoying. And when there are like 5 posts DAILY how they just love to feel them kick, just can't wait for them to get here... Yada yada yada. I am working hard to keep my posts to a minimum, not everyone is as thrilled as you are!!

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