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September 2011 Moms
amandaloren
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*Flame Free Friday Confessions!*
amandaloren
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Re: *Flame Free Friday Confessions!*
(My fffc applys to tb as a whole as I have been on many boards....)
I think is is stupid when people sign on to tb and post a good morning post every single day just to let people know they are on....And on the same note I think it is even more ridiculous to make a post to let us know you are signing off
Last night I didn't want to cook so I had chicken fries and cookies for dinner, then followed up with a big glass of green tea. I wasn't really in the mood for anything so I just gave up lol.
Also, I secretly pretended to be tired so DH would vaccuum the house. I felt bad because he already does everything else around the house, but I really didn't feel like doing anything responsible.
I think (for the most part) that keeping pregnancy "secrets" from close family members is selfish. Especially when the reason given is so that you and your DH/SO can experience the joy for just the two of you. Sharing the joy with family members that are also going to love and adore your LO is not going to take away from any joy or excitement that you or YH have together. It's not like there is a fixed amount of excitement to be had and sharing any means less for yourself.
(Of course I know there are exceptions to every rule...)
I judge my friend for telling her husband she doesn't ever want kids after they got married. I think it's shitty that he may never be able to have kids now and I think she's being incredibly selfish for not bringing it up before and giving him a chance to change his mind.
I agree with the hello and goodbyes, it is a message board, just come and go as you please. If I posted every time I left or showed up, the entire page would be me saying hello and goodbye.
My FFFC: I judge women who only drink fruity alcoholic beverages, only have designer purses/shoes, and/or won't leave the house unless they are in full on hair and makeup. ::shudders:: I seriously just don't want to be around people who are that high maintenance.
I love tb. I really do. This has been such a great place of support, and I have really enjoyed connecting with all of you. Seriously, there are a couple people I butt heads with from time to time, but I can't think of a single one of you that posts regularly that I just straight up don't like.
BUT...sometimes coming here is mentally exhausting for me. Having all these different strong opinions flying around can really overwhelm me sometimes--it's like I can't hear myself think because there are all these other voices floating around in my head. I think I'm just getting to the point in my pregnancy where everything is getting real, and there are all these things we're trying to figure out, and seeing all the back and forth about why this is right or that is wrong can just get to me sometimes. So I've been backing off a little, for my own sanity.
I have been to many NSYNC and JT concerts and if JT ever went on tour again, I would be getting a babysitter and going. I have one friend that would go with me and we keep it a secret from all our other friends so we don't get made fun of.
That shiit will fill you up to quickly
Just pass me the shot of liquor that was put in it lol
LOL, too funny
I've seen N'sync and backstreet boys in concert before. I used to be obsessed with the backstreet boys back in middle scool:)
I do not like most bubblegum pop music, but I have always thought that NSYNC and JT were very genuinely talented, and I would never flame you for this.
Last night DH and I ordered Papa Johns for dinner and I ate the whole box of chicken fingers. I felt like a kid but my gosh they were good
I'm kinda guilty of this. When I used to drink I would only get the flavored smirnoff drinks, they had like no alcohol and were like flavored sodas. I would drink one and get wasted lol. As for the purse thing, I used to get generic no-name purses and they would always break so one day I broke down and bought a name brand one and I have had it for like 5 years now and looking to get another one soon. I don't have designer shoes or anything and I'm a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl. So I guess I am only maintenace with my purse lol.
I think its hilarious when people get so uppity and defensive about their issue/choice on here. Hey, there is going to be someone who doesn't agree with you, roll your eyes and get on with your life. You are not going to argue someone to change their decision by telling them "their future child will thank you for that" (and yes I'm refering to the circumcision post)
Also, if you don't have a kid already you really need to STFU about how labor is going to be. Even if you have had a kid, EACH ONE IS DIFFERENT and don't set anything in stone.
Agreed! (See post above) I deal with these "I don't really drink so I'll pick the fruitiest, prettiest, least amount of booze, most expensive, but not tip you drink" every day. My favorite is the ladies that order Cosmos because of Sex and the City, and once they try them the return them because they're pretty strong and don't taste that wonderful! It's pretty much all vodka lady...I don't know what to tell ya!
I can't stand the one-liner stupid posts. I don't care that you just ate cereal or that your next appointment is 2,473 hours away. It just jams up the board.
Naw, it's more a mentality that is high maintenance. Like, I will only ever wear designer and drink $20 drinks because I wouldn't be caught DEAD wearing purse from Target or drinking a beer! I totally get that designer purses and shoes are good quality and an investment and I see nothing wrong with owning them. It's the attitude that some people have that I can't stand.
And shiiiiit, those flavored Smirnoffs will knock you on your @ss! Way more alcohol than beer!
Haha ITA with both of you! And the liquor thing...I never got mixed drinks for that reason...you can't give me less than the shot I paid for when it's just in a shot glass by itself!
Pina- I went when JT toured with Christina A. I haven't been to many concerts, but let me tell you, I would see him perform anytime!
My FFC: I really have issues with people who use misfortune as a trump card (I think I am using the right phrase.) I think when you go through strife or hardship, you should learn from it, and when you speak of it again, it's to show what you have learned or how you have grown. Not, "I had cancer, and thus I am stronger than you." Or "I went through IVF and so I'm a better mother and deserve this child more." All these things that happen to people are so hard, I would never wish them upon my worst enemy... so why use it in that way? How about just say, "I've been through this, and I learned this about myself. How can I help you work through your issue?" Does this make sense? I hope it does.
And also, mini-FFC, I cried while putting on my makeup while watching the wedding, which made me cry more. I am such a sucker for fairy tales.
I totally agree with you on both. People need to chill the eff out. It is not up to you to save all the poor innocent babies from being circumsized or from suffering the hardships of drinking formula. If I end up formula feeding and circumsizing, it really is NONEYA, get over it. People are such twatwaffles.
!!!!! Couldn't agree more! That's why when there is a hot topic post I don't even open it 80% of the time. It's just too much to digest and try and remember who's stance on what to get involved properly. My job and IRL issues are enough to exhaust me after a full day so a lot of the time I stick to the more simple threads without moral, political, or debatable topics.
Personally I would rather eat a slice of chocolate cake than drink those sweet drinks. Bartender, please get me a vodka soda with 2 limes por favor.
DH is uncircumsized and I honestly didn't even know until he brought it up after we had been dating for 6 months. When its, um, "excited" you can't tell a difference at all. Even now when he gets out of the shower, it doesn't really look different to me.
I had to call poison control not once, but TWICE this week.
On Wednesday, we found DS eating my TUMS (I stupidly left them out in the family room)
And today, I went to the bathroom and came out and he had climbed up on the chair, got into the diaper bag, opened the Pepcid Complete and was happily chowing down.
I feel like such a bad Mom.
FWIW he's absolutely fine... Only had 1, maybe 2. And poison control said it's fine.
Really?! I didn't know this. LOL. I really don't understand what they look like at all. DH has tried to explain to me. But yeah, not interested enough to google it.
I don't understand why in a circ debate, people doing it for religious reasons get a "free pass". If you are against it, and think it's a horrible thing to do to your child, why does it matter if it's being done for religious reasons? It just makes no sense to me. Throught history, and to this day, people do awful horrible things in the name of religion. Do you give them a free pass too? I just don't get the rationale. It just irritates me that as soon as someone says they're doing it for religious reasons, the subject is dropped (with that person).
FTR - I am pro-circ and DS is circ'ed. I just get irritated by people's inconsistent logic.
yeah, that irked me as well. But, I do have to say, that I am glad the post didn't get out of control, because I have seen many circumcision post get ugly (not on this board though).
My FFFC is that I am really bummed that I have been diagnosed with GD this early. Don't get me wrong, I will do everything possible to control it and have already adopted a low-carb diet before meeting with my doc, but I just don't want to have to deal with this for 20 weeks when mostly everyone else only has to deal with it for 10-ish weeks.
Not flaming, more of a question, but what do you consider a secret and when do you think people should tell? I told my mom at 9 weeks but didn't tell the rest of my family (dad, sisters, FIL, MIL, SIL etc) until I was over 13 weeks. Is that the same thing?
For us, we choose to keep it a secret until we were 1) sure the pregnancy was viable and 2) that we would have a healthy baby. It was nice having something between the 2 of us, but that was not our main motivating factor. I just couldn't deal with the thought of having to tell and then untell people.
I felt like I hijacked the UOT thread yesterday, and I had no intention to do so, but I wanted to clear up my original statement.
I love the UOT thread, and I might have ruined yesterday's.
Another FFC: At 9:30 AM, I was eating a Snicker's ice cream bar...we get ice cream every Friday if there was not a safety incident.
Ok,I have absolutely no experience with this but one of the reasons I heard that boys should be circumsized is because when one of my friends dated this guy who wasn't and she said it was hard to give him a BJ. She had to keep pulling the skin back to get to the head. LOL. That's not why I'm choosing it but I always remember that story and how much she said she hated doing it because of that. I think the cleanliness is the best reason.
Haha yep...I didn't know before DH either, b/c every other guy I dated was circumsized. The extra skin kind of stretches out evenly so it looks circumsized...if that makes sense?
I have a friend who desperately lacks common sense. I posted on Facebook last week that I had scheduled my childbirth classes. She comes back with a post, "Well, I never took any classes. Good luck though."
I wrote back explaining that I am planning on a natural, no medication delivery. She responds with, "Oh it doesn't hurt, I would think the contractions would be the only painful part."
HELLO CAPTAIN OBVIOUS!!!
So I asked her if she had her baby naturally, her response, "Yes, but with an epidural."
UGH! I SEE STUPID PEOPLE!
i have a couple..
i told myself i wouldnt have any caffeine while im pregnant and i did pretty well.. until 2 days ago when i gave in to my coffee craving. i've had it everyday since! but today is the last day i swear! lol
everytime one of my friends calls themself an aunt (unless i did it first) i want to punch them in the throat. i know thats a bit extreme but the number of people who have done this is extreme.
last one
that girl yesterday who did a ton of posts in a row with the misspellings made my whole day. i read every single one and laughed for a good 30 minutes lol
No, no, not that at all! I totally understand that. I meant more of the not revealing the sex even if you already know (not for just until you see family, but until the baby is born), or... hmm, okay that's the only example I can come up with right now haha.
I had to untell EVERYONE with my m/c, so I definitely didn't mean that at all.