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What's the better option? Flex job or more money?

GrangerWifeyGrangerWifey
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So long story short, I've had some ups and downs in my current job over the past couple months (thought I was getting a huge raise, boss miscommunicated terms, really disappointing, etc etc). During all this happening, I was also pursuing another job because someone suggested I would be really great in the position and I decided to check it out. My current job really wanted me to stay so we worked something out.

Now, things have worked out well at work and I'm pretty content here. I've been thinking A LOT lately about how I could make my current job work when H and I get pregnant. I'm not sure being a SAHM is totally right for me but I'd love to be flexible and maybe work from home.

Now, a family friend mentioned a position opening up where she works (University of Notre Dame) and it is a GREAT opportunity! On top of that, she (family friend) would be my boss, I'd get all the great perks that come with working for ND, along with a HUGE salary increase starting out. The increase in salary would be almost as much as I make total right now.

Here's where I'm torn...should I pursue the opportunity and give up hope of being able to work from home?? Because it is a full time position with way less flexibility than I have now, I would not be able to work a flex schedule like I had hoped. Aside from that, it really is an awesome opportunity and would be great for our future (how nice to think about our children's college tuition being paid!?! What would you do?

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003

    I'd go for the new job. I speak from personal experience that TTC may not always go to plan and may take YEARS (not my case, but for many of my friends it has been) and if you are not happy now it'll only be compounded by pg hormones  Stick out tongue

    Once you get your foot in the door at your new job then feel out the ability to WAH or take compressed weeks, etc.  Since you will have at least 9 months minimum to figure it out, you'll make it work!

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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    For me, it would be dependent on the ages of the kid (s). I'm working part time until my youngest starts 1st grade and is in school full time. Then I will worry about getting a better paying job that might demand more time than I work now.
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  • AngelaD10AngelaD10

    I would go for the new position.  Like PP said, it could take a while to get pregnant.  In the meantime, you could save up money and in time, look for other positions at ND that would have more flexibility.

     Plus, you didn't indicate that you would definitely have flexibility in your current job once the baby gets here.  Just that you were hoping.  It would be really tough if you stay with your current job and they don't allow the flexibility you were hoping for (another possible 'miscommunication').

     Either way, good luck with the job and the TTC!

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  • ShoeFanatic614ShoeFanatic614 member
    imagemadhatter2003:

    I'd go for the new job. I speak from personal experience that TTC may not always go to plan and may take YEARS (not my case, but for many of my friends it has been) and if you are not happy now it'll only be compounded by pg hormones  Stick out tongue

    Once you get your foot in the door at your new job then feel out the ability to WAH or take compressed weeks, etc.  Since you will have at least 9 months minimum to figure it out, you'll make it work!

    From one planner to another, I agree with this.  It sounds like a great opportunity and if you play your cards right, you could put a boatload into savings.  Plus, I bet that ND has an awesome daycare on their campus.

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  • GrangerWifeyGrangerWifey
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    imagemadhatter2003:

    I'd go for the new job. I speak from personal experience that TTC may not always go to plan and may take YEARS (not my case, but for many of my friends it has been) and if you are not happy now it'll only be compounded by pg hormones  Stick out tongue

    Once you get your foot in the door at your new job then feel out the ability to WAH or take compressed weeks, etc.  Since you will have at least 9 months minimum to figure it out, you'll make it work!

    From one planner to another, I agree with this.  It sounds like a great opportunity and if you play your cards right, you could put a boatload into savings.  Plus, I bet that ND has an awesome daycare on their campus.

     Thanks ladies! I guess I just needed that little extra "push" to make sure I was making the best decision. I think overall, it will be a better opportunity for our future long term (benefits, 401k matching, paid college tuition, discounts on tickets and we're huge ND fans). Plus, I realize it could take awhile once we start TTC to I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. It's just so difficult for me to not go into full on "planning" mode and instead just let things progress naturally. I appreciate all the advice!  

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  • madhatter2003madhatter2003
    imageGrangerWifey:
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    imagemadhatter2003:

    I'd go for the new job. I speak from personal experience that TTC may not always go to plan and may take YEARS (not my case, but for many of my friends it has been) and if you are not happy now it'll only be compounded by pg hormones  Stick out tongue

    Once you get your foot in the door at your new job then feel out the ability to WAH or take compressed weeks, etc.  Since you will have at least 9 months minimum to figure it out, you'll make it work!

    From one planner to another, I agree with this.  It sounds like a great opportunity and if you play your cards right, you could put a boatload into savings.  Plus, I bet that ND has an awesome daycare on their campus.

     Thanks ladies! I guess I just needed that little extra "push" to make sure I was making the best decision. I think overall, it will be a better opportunity for our future long term (benefits, 401k matching, paid college tuition, discounts on tickets and we're huge ND fans). Plus, I realize it could take awhile once we start TTC to I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. It's just so difficult for me to not go into full on "planning" mode and instead just let things progress naturally. I appreciate all the advice!  

    Good luck!  It sounds like a great chance to go for. 

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  • duchess0727duchess0727
    I'd go for the new job.  If you aren't already pregnant, go for the new job and hopefully if you get it, you have time to get settled and prove yourself and maybe earn yourself the flexibility when you do have kids.  I tried to move myself up as quickly as possible before I had kids and up until my daughter (2nd child) was born.  After that, flexibility became more of a priority so I've had to make some adjustments.  Good luck!
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  • TikatTikat

    Go for the new job...The university has a childcare program on campus so you can visit DC during your breaks...and College being paid for would sent it sky rocketing to the top of my list!

     

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  • xtencornfieldxtencornfield member
    I agree w/pp's, I would definitely go with the new position. I would never be able to pass up the added benefits and almost double the salary, that's just too good. As for flexibility, you never know. After you've put in some time, you'd be surprised how many employers are more willing to entertain flexible schedules particularly if you've proven yourself a valuable employee. I think there are very few industries these days where some kind of altered, flexible, and/or work-from-home schedule is completely impossible.
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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    imagemadhatter2003:

    I'd go for the new job. I speak from personal experience that TTC may not always go to plan and may take YEARS (not my case, but for many of my friends it has been) and if you are not happy now it'll only be compounded by pg hormones  Stick out tongue

    Once you get your foot in the door at your new job then feel out the ability to WAH or take compressed weeks, etc.  Since you will have at least 9 months minimum to figure it out, you'll make it work!

    Ditto!  If you're a valuable employee and you prove your worth, they will eventually want to make you happy and keep you happy.

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  • jenny1980jenny1980 member

    If it takes you and your husband the average time (6 months for a healthy couple) to conceive, you're looking at a minimum of a year and a half before you will need the "flexibility" you're hoping for.

    On top of that, even if you could WFH, you'd still need childcare for the hours you work and wouldn't be able to spend THAT much more time with your baby.

    Definitely go for the new job!

     

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  • shannmshannm member
    Go for the new job.  You are stating full time, I am assuming 40 hours and no more.  I think this would be worth the mental challenge and financial security.
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