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ShannonSky
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Davez (and other early PTers) come in, please!
ShannonSky
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So after today's nap (DD woke up halfway through to remove her diaper and poop in the crib), I'm definitely convinced it's time to make another crack at going on the potty. We have a trip planned in May, but once we get back, I'm thinking I'll quit the diapers cold turkey as recommended. She's pooped on the potty a few times, but it always seems to scare her a bit. Is that normal? Just work through it? Or should I take that to mean she isn't ready? Also, if I just cut the diapers, will she wake up if she wets the bed? Any other tips/hints?
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Re: Davez (and other early PTers) come in, please!
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
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won't hurt to try, she certainly sounds ripe for it. I def say cold turkey, pullups just confuse them. (IMO) Ava fought the poop toilet thing for a while, in fact, she'd hold it until she went to her nap, THEN did it. So frustrating. (at least she told me right away, lol) I also did the "psssstttt" sound when she goes, she still makes it once in a while to get herself going, ha.
Start now with the phrase "poop goes in the toilet!" whenever you change her and dump it in there, or she actually goes. Just keep saying it, and praising wild when it goes in there. We did 1 M&M for pee in the toilet (minis, lol) and two for poops. But she shared one of them with me, and that got the whole "teach them to share" thing checked off our list, too. lol. I never asked her to go, we just DID it every hour or two, then at normal times like pre-post naps, home from shopping, etc. She used the regular toilet from early on, or sometimes the cheapie "Bjorn" ones for $3 at IKEA so she could "go with momma".
As for accidents, initally a couple in her bed, at nap time (she was night dry LONG before any major PT'ing, lil'freak, lol) so I would line the mattress with two towels, and put jeans on or something that would soak it up. Just cuz I hate doing laundry.
Most accidents seemed to happened as she woke up, as they were always very warm ;-) She's cry and confess she "got her Dora's wet" (her currency was having nice character undies to wear, and keeping them dry.)
After the inital "no more dipes" 2-3 week period, the only accidents she had would be when she was busy playing, and either forgot or didn't want to take time out to go to the bathroom. I kept a pair of legging and change of panties in plastic bags in my car, purse, stroller, etc. which worked well for us.
GL!
1. When PT'ing young I wouldn't do sleep training. That came much later for us. Put her in a diaper or pull up for naps/bed IMO. Once she's strung together a couple of days waking up dry - THEN yank the diapers and go for the sleep training.
2. If she's scared of pooping in the big toilet try a toddler stand alone toilet so there's no splash. I think it's a weird sensation and it's not uncommon for them to feel uneasy about it. Do what you can to normalize it, celebrate it, let her see you doing it, etc. For poop training try upping her fiber - dried apricots taste like candy to them and get them nice and loose. I think it's much easier to start with it coming out easy than to need to push hard.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I'm not completely convinced she's ready to go cold turkey. Just because she knows she has to poop doesn't mean she can control it.
Anyways... when Lucy was having dry diapers regularly we started putting her in underwear, just for a few hours here and there. I'd put her on the potty every 30 min or so and then eventually stretched it out longer and longer. We'd give her treats after poops since she was still usually doing that in the diaper right when she woke up in the morning or nap time. We still did a diaper at nap and bedtime, she was potty trained by 2yrs, poop trained by about 2yrs 5 mos and didn't drop the nap time pull-up until 3rs and she still does an overnight pull-up but is dry most night now.
GL!
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DS was not what I'd say is an early PTer but I tried to follow his cues. He showed a very early awareness of when he needed to go. He was about 16 months when he started indicating via sign that he needed to get up from bed and go potty. It drove me nuts but he was right -- once he went he had an easier time sleeping. We tried to get those trips into or on the potty and had some success. He pooped on the potty for hte first tme at 18 months and it terrified him. He wouldn't go near hte potty again for months.
He was still aware of his needs and hated being dirty so he frequently asked for diaper changes as soon as he had done his business. We tried doing undies (SEsame street in our case), but he didn't fully get it and we were working on a lot of other things at the time (including speech therapy), so I never pushed it.
Fast forward a whole year of attempts to meet him where he was (sure you can wear undies, sure you can sit on the potty, etc), and he was at the point where he would say he had to poop and that he would go in his diaper and say, "you'll change me later." I was done with diapers.
We put him in underpants, told him to keep them clean, instituted frequent trips to the potty, and he went! He was 31 months old. Very few accidents, mostly due to inattention on our parts. He wore a diaper for naps at first but we ditched them quickly because he didn't need them. We kept the diaper at night for about two months but finally ditched them because he only woke up wet twice in two months. I'm too cheap to keep putting diapers on him that get thrown away totally dry.
So yes, I think it's normal to be scared to poop in a potty at 18 motnhs or so, adn that can linger. But eventually she'll get over it.