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pinkcallalily
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Horrible NT scan results (long)
pinkcallalily
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We went for our NT scan on Saturday and it was absolutely horrible. The ultrasound was so bad the doctor didn't even bother with the blood test. The measurement was 6.6mm, but in addition to that there is swelling around the baby's entire body. The doctor said there is a good chance the baby will die in the next few weeks, but it may not. He said it could be chromosomal, a heart defect, or a drainage problem. We are scheduled for a CVS tomorrow, which I swore I would never do, but I just can't not know what's going on. I never even planned to do the NT scan, but our perinatologist talked us into it and we decided it would give us a little more confidence before sharing our news with everone.
I haven't felt good about this pregnancy from the beginning. Our first ultrasound measured 2 weeks behind where I thought it should be, but no one else seemed very concerned especially once they noticed I had a tilted uterus. Our second ultrasound moved us ahead by a week so I started to think things might be ok. I don't even know what to think or do right now.
I feel horrible thinking this, but in a way I think I would prefer this baby die on it's on in the next few weeks before I start feeling it kick. I don't think I could ever terminate, but I don't know how I could continue carrying a baby until it is born knowing it will never live. The doctor said with results like ours it is unlikely the baby will survive. Of course, there is still a chance that things could end up somewhat normal if the swelling goes away, but he didn't sound very optimistic when telling us that. It's getting pretty tough to hide my pregnancy so I know I'm going to start getting comments from people and I don't know what to say or how to keep myself composed when talking to them. I already talked to my boss and plan to work from home for a few weeks so I can avoid dealing with everyone in my office, but there are things like daycare as well. I know my son's teachers are going to notice I'm pregnant and I don't know how to respond without breaking down if they were ever to bring it up.
It also sucks because I was told I can't pick my son up for 5 days after the CVS. He doesn't even walk yet so and isn't going to understand when I don't pick him up when he reaches for me. I wish we could get through this without affecting him at all, it's just not fair to him.
I know there are so many people that have it worse than us and I don't know how so many of you handle it. I feel like everything is falling apart, but I try to keep remembering that we are so lucky in what we do have.
It took 3 1/2 long years, but we finally got our little miracle!
IVF #1 - BFP (6dt)
Unassisted Pregnancy #2 - lost at 15w6d due to T21, severe heart defects, and fetal hydrops
IVF #1 - BFP (6dt)
Unassisted Pregnancy #2 - lost at 15w6d due to T21, severe heart defects, and fetal hydrops
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Re: Horrible NT scan results (long)
Because we're fancy like that.
TTC since 6/2003. m/c 9/14/03 8 weeks, 5 chemical pregnancies, mmc 6/04 12 weeks, Michael born sleeping 5/25/05 at 22weeks always our angel, fought ovarian cancer and won, m/c 4/06 5.2 weeks and 7/07 6.6 weeks,Our Miracle baby girl born 4/8/10,mc 12/18/11 at 5.3 weeks, BFP 10/26/12 dating u/s on 11/8/12 showing a strong heartbeat!EDD July 4,2013. RCS on 6/27. Baby boy in NICU for 8 long and scary days before he was able to come home. We are now a happy family of 4
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After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I am so very sorry......it is all so unfair.
I hope you get some answers from the CVS.
(((HUGS)))
Amber
TTC since March '06
MFI, LPD, possible PCOS
3 chem pgs * m/c identical twins at 9w 10.06
IVF w/ICSI #2 - beta - 187! (9dp5dt), beta - 367! (11dp5dt)
IVF w/ICSI #3 - it's a girl!
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there are no words. I'll try with "I'm sorry" and such, but this just hurts my heart you have to go through this.
I know of at least one gal that carried a terminal pregnancy full term, and has a blog. Let me know if you need/want that info. (she's an active Bumpie).
I can relate in a tiny little way - we lost a pregnancy at about 10 weeks, and ends up the baby had Trisomy 13. While it's easy to say what I would or wouldn't have done AFTER the baby already decided it for us, I did feel some sense of relief that WE didn't have to make any decisions. I've always been thankful (is that the right word?) in the fact *I* believe our baby made the choice for us, so we didn't have to.
You have support in us, I hope you feel that. Regardless what path this journey takes you.
I'm so very sorry. I know the feeling all too well. I hope the CVS results give you the answers you need. FWIW, the day after my CVS I was carrying dd around because she was only 10-months-old and she couldn't walk. I will keep your family in my prayers.
If you want to talk please e-mail me laura.dan05@gmail.com
Clomid M/C 8 weeks 2/08 *IVF #1-DD born 3/09
*Surprise BFP-T18 baby lost at 13w 1/10 *FET #1-DS born 2/11
My heart aches for you. I'll be thinking of you over these next few weeks and I know that we are all here to offer support and love no matter what happens and what you decide.
I am so sorry.
I am so so sorry.
((((Hugs)))
wed, I'm so, so sorry. I've been there almost exactly. Please feel free to PM me. The CVS wasn't too bad for me and the restrictions weren't as onerous as you're facing, so definitely ask questions - I had only to limit picking Sam up for ~48 hours. (((hugs)))
also, sending you a PM.
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
TTC since 2005
missed miscarriage nov 2006- 4 failed clomid cycles-
3 failed femara iui cycles-
moving on to IVF oct 2011
ER nov. 7th
tansfered 2 blasts on 11/10
lots of +hpt!!
beta #1 on 11/21= 50.4
beta #2 on11/23= 90.8
another miscarriage 12/23
moving on to Round 2 of IVF with an auto immune dx
ER 4/23-retrieved 12 eggs
ET 4/28 3 transfered
Beta #1- 356
Beta #2- 870
LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
I am so sorry. ((((((((((((big hugs)))))))))))
I am so very sorry. I feel like you need something to come over you to give you peace. You are such a strong woman, you will get through this. No one should be asking you regarding your pregnancy and really you don't need to explain to anyone. If anyone is to ask you can reply with a stock answer that you are comfortable with "there are complications that I would rather not discuss". This is between your family and your faith so please do not worry yourself with trivial things such as other people getting into your business. Your son will want you to take care of you, so do just that. This isn't about being fair - as this is not fair to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there and hold onto hope; I hope for peace for you.