I am pregnant with my first child, very excited (and nervous!) about it, and don't have a problem sharing the news with people. However, once people ask me if I am having a baby shower, and I tell them I don't particularly want one, they give me this incredulous look like I am depriving my unborn child of this event! I have just gone to so many showers, and just don't want to sit through one that I can prevent. I have told people that if anything, I would like a nice, informal, BBQ or picnic with board games, cards, and the like, preferably at a park (I am due in the summer), and it is OPTIONAL for people to bring gifts. Some people that I have told this are all for it, others think I have gone nuts. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
Re: I'm getting criticism for not wanting a baby shower!
People probably just thinks its strange that you don't want a "formal" shower...but theres nothing wrong with the BBQ/picnic idea. That's what I hope to have when DH & I finally get KU lol
I didn't particularly want one either, but had one thrown for me anyway.
Just roll with it. Maybe no one will offer to throw you one.
I know how you feel. I don't want a baby shower either. If anything, I'd rather do something simple with close family and friends.
I say, don't listen to anybody who is giving you crap about it. It's your life, your baby. You do what YOU want, not what other people want and expect you to do. Let them have a baby shower when they have kids or their kids have kids.
I can't stand when people always interfere in other peoples business!!
Why don't people understand that it's okay not to be in the norm! Times are changing. We are not obligated to do things in a traditional way all the time.
Just don't let them get to you. Focus on yourself and your baby. (:
If someone wants to host a shower let them know you just want a BBQ get together at a park. Othewise just host your own meet the baby BBQ after your child is born, especially since it will be in the summer months.