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May 2011 Moms
Why must showers be torture?
I hate how some people view showers (baby or bridal) as a chance to embarass the couple/parents-to-be.
I had a shower on Saturday and DH was invited because husbands were going to watch basketball in the basement. DH is a bit shy/reserved and doesn't like being in front of groups and this group of women at the shower were women from my hometown and DH has only met them 2 or 3 times so he came with the promise that he wouldn't have to do anything with the shower in front of these women he doesn't know.
We get there and all of the men are sent to the basement but except DH. The hostess sat him in the middle of the circle of women, put a bib on him, and made him guess the baby food flavor. Then they made him stay for the rest of the shower while the men were in the basement.
I felt so horrible for DH! I was telling my friend this story this morning and she got a little sassy with me and told me that we should just be grateful to get the gifts and that is certainly a small price to pay for presents. She told me that seeing people get embarrassed is the only thing people get out of attending showers and it is our job to go with it.
Really? That is the only purpose of a shower? If that is the case then let's skip the shower because I can afford those items on my own without having my husband being ridiculed the whole time!
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Wow, I have never heard of such a thing....that is NOT normal for showers. You are supposed to have a fun and enjoyable celebration with your friends and family. Putting your husband through that just adds a whole different tone to the party...what a shame. I can't believe he sat through it all!
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I completely disagree with your friend and I think it was incredibly rude for her to say that. There is no way in the world my husband would have sat through that and there is no way that I would have allowed it.
Give your hubby a hug for being such a nice guy.
My DH would not have sat through that either. He would have given me a kiss told me to have fun and gone down to watch basketball with the guys. Your DH certainly is a trooper, especially if he is shy! I would have felt terrible for him.
DS, May 2011
DH wouldn't have had the courage to get up and walk away; I would've been the one dragging him downstairs and giving the hostess a very nasty look. That's so rude!
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
This was on the top ten lists of reasons I told my mother/friends I would not be having a shower. I can and did pay for all the items and didn't have to "be thankful" or be made fun of.
People like to lure you into the baby/bridal shower under the guise of a celebration, it's just an opportunity to make fun of you... ritual hazing imho
Well we know exactly what to do for HER shower.
Lets play the guess how much weight fatty has put on game.
Daddy gets dressed up like a baby and made to eat baby food.
HUGE naked baby (or just generally embarrassing) pics of mama and daddy to be.
And just for added fun lets make a list of ways they will probably ruin their LO's life, unintentionally of course.
Oh FFS. That's ridiculous!
Sorry your DH had to be embarrassed like that.
Yeah, there is no way my husband would have sat through that. I dont mind people measuring my belly or whatever, but thats ridiculous!. I'm so sorry for your husband. A shower is not there to embarrass the pregnant lady/couple. They already feel crappy enough.
I love you.
I'll bring the scale.
F that! She's nuts.