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Alli923 · February 2011

cinema_goddess:
Alli923:
cinema_goddess:

Alli923:
I agree with Jaxy here. When people come in here to post and are replied to with the "I hate's" and called names, it doesn't bode well for this board. One should be able to post a bit of happy news without being crapped on by others or being called out based on what someone else assumes by reading the post.
1st bolded: Where did this happen?
No, seriously. I haven't seen this happen in ages.
2nd bolded: Again, where did this happen?
I'm not trying to be snarky here. I've been lurking more than I've been posting but I haven't seen anyone get crapped on for a post in a couple of months and before that it was years.
I'm really confused as to where this is coming from.
Um, all of the above are in this very post. You even quoted one.
I called Jaxy a "bit of an ass" because before she explained herself, if you read the thread then read her confession, it would be incredibly difficult to not assume she was talking about something from earlier in the thread.
I've read the thread several times and I have not seen one person crapping on another person's happiness. Which post are you talking about specifically?
Also, if you go back and read the "I Hate" post I think you're referring to again, I think you'll see that the person who made the original post explained herself. I concur with her explaination.

Actually, there are several "I hate" posts. And, I didn't say that jchaynes explanation wasn't totally valid, I understood once she explained that wasn't what she meant. But, her's wasn't that only one here, perhaps you should re-read.

doublem · February 2011

I've only done the deed with my H once since E was born. It hurt a lot (NOT his fault!) and traumatized me so much that I'm afraid to try it again. The man is a saint and I am being selfish.

I feel badly when people find out what a good baby E generally is, but part of me feels like I've worked SO.****.hard for everything that I've done in life (pay for college, get married, pass National Boards, live, get pregnant, etc. etc.) that for once I feel like I deserve something to go easily.

braveangel2 · February 2011

doublem:

I've only done the deed with my H once since E was born. It hurt a lot (NOT his fault!) and traumatized me so much that I'm afraid to try it again. The man is a saint and I am being selfish.

I feel badly when people find out what a good baby E generally is, but part of me feels like I've worked SO.****.hard for everything that I've done in life (pay for college, get married, pass National Boards, live, get pregnant, etc. etc.) that for once I feel like I deserve something to go easily.

I don't think you're being selfish at all. I wish someone would have told me how much it can hurt. I thought you just had to make it to the 6 week appointment and then voila! Even my 6 week appointment hurt. If it makes you feel any better, I didn't feel physically sound until 9months pp. Even with lots of lube, it was still touch and go.

And please enjoy your good baby for me, guilt-free!

Nancy_Drew · February 2011

I have more....Caldwell...I have you beat.

when both DH and I are home to do bedtime...we fight over who gets to do Rye. He is so easy to put to bed. Read him is 4 books of choice. (he throws a fit if one was NOT on his list for that night) turn off light and lay him down, cover w/blanket say good night and wave and shut the door on your way out. Not another word until morning out of him.

then there is Audrey.....5 or 6 books, 3 or 4 songs. 2 bathroom trips, drink of milk downstairs. One more hug and kiss for the other parent. Another bathroom trip. In bed. Leave the room. Out she comes to ask what we are doing tomorrow. Repeat 5 x. Back to bed. Up again to get a band-aid for an imaginary Boo-boo. Back to bed. 2+ hours of this EVERY night. It was 10:45 last night when she was still coming out of her room!

so yeah, we fight over who "gets"to put her to bed.

CinemaGoddess · February 2011

Alli923:

Actually, there are several "I hate" posts. And, I didn't say that jchaynes explanation wasn't totally valid, I understood once she explained that wasn't what she meant. But, her's wasn't that only one here, perhaps you should re-read.

I see what you mean now, but I didn't read any of the "hate" posts as true "hate" posts. The word "hate" was used, but I don't think it was meant in a hostile way. More a frustrated/jealous way, like jc explained.

I can appreciate hating split-levels because it does get wicked crowded at the doorway when you have more than one or two people trying to get in the house at once. That's annoying as hell, especially when you have to pee and people won't get out of your way. Stick out tongue

jcyahne · February 2011

Alli923:
cinema_goddess:
Alli923:
cinema_goddess:

Alli923:
I agree with Jaxy here. When people come in here to post and are replied to with the "I hate's" and called names, it doesn't bode well for this board. One should be able to post a bit of happy news without being crapped on by others or being called out based on what someone else assumes by reading the post.
1st bolded: Where did this happen?
No, seriously. I haven't seen this happen in ages.
2nd bolded: Again, where did this happen?
I'm not trying to be snarky here. I've been lurking more than I've been posting but I haven't seen anyone get crapped on for a post in a couple of months and before that it was years.
I'm really confused as to where this is coming from.
Um, all of the above are in this very post. You even quoted one.
I called Jaxy a "bit of an ass" because before she explained herself, if you read the thread then read her confession, it would be incredibly difficult to not assume she was talking about something from earlier in the thread.
I've read the thread several times and I have not seen one person crapping on another person's happiness. Which post are you talking about specifically?
Also, if you go back and read the "I Hate" post I think you're referring to again, I think you'll see that the person who made the original post explained herself. I concur with her explaination.

Actually, there are several "I hate" posts. And, I didn't say that jchaynes explanation wasn't totally valid, I understood once she explained that wasn't what she meant. But, her's wasn't that only one here, perhaps you should re-read.

I don't know if it is because it's a slow day at work or what, but this triggered me to do a search of the FFFC post to see all of the places where people initially mentioned the word "hate". Other than my post there were the following:

- Somebody hates that they create to much work for themselves

- Somebody hating their MIL

- Somebody hating other preggos because they themselves really want to get pregnant soon

- Somebody hating the taste of glucose drinks

- Somebody hating split level houses.

Am I missing something? Because IMHO these all seem pretty innocuous to me. The only other posts you called out were mine and Jaxy's.

Maddimom · February 2011

nykola:
*I think Trophy Cupcakes are way overrated. Cupcake Royale is WAY better.

WORD!!!!!!

CinemaGoddess · February 2011

jcyahne:

Am I missing something? Because IMHO these all seem pretty innocuous to me.

This is exactly why I was confused.

tfarabians · February 2011

Maddimom:

nykola:

*I think Trophy Cupcakes are way overrated. Cupcake Royale is WAY better.

WORD!!!!!!

See now I think both of these can't even compare to the frosting at new york cupcakes : )

tfarabians · February 2011

I have one more too, I had a glass of champaign at Cruz's playdate today and really enjoyed every sip of it!

StellaZ · February 2011

I admit I took the "I get annoyed when people equate unprotected sex with the ability to get pregnant easily. It's not easy for everyone." as being kind of a direct rant against the girls who mentioned that very thing on this thread. To me they were just being hopeful that it might have done the trick. It's not "hate"...but "annoyed" can hurt too.

Alli923 · February 2011

cinema_goddess:
jcyahne:
Am I missing something? Because IMHO these all seem pretty innocuous to me.
This is exactly why I was confused.

I don't really see hating on pregnant women or people who are discussing their babies on a Babies board as harmless.

And, if you don't mean to say you hate someone, then don't. If you are frustrated, or jealous, or sad, I can completely understand and respect that. But stating that you "hate" someone because they are sharing a bit of news that they were asked about or are happy about is uncalled for in my opinion.

pixelvixen · February 2011

I like puppies and rainbows.

doublem · February 2011

Maddimom:
nykola:
*I think Trophy Cupcakes are way overrated. Cupcake Royale is WAY better.

WORD!!!!!!

I disagree. I don't think that CR's cake is moist enough and the frosting is too dense for my taste. However, I will never turn down a cupcake from either establishment!

EllaB_04 · February 2011

1. I've wasted half of W's afternoon nap reading this post, instead of doing laundry and prepping dinner.

2. I'm guilty of under-dressing DD when going in/out of the car. It's definitely due to the carseat. I'm much more comfortable with DD being cold for a few minutes than having too many layers of padding between her and her carseat. I actually secretly judge moms who put their kid in the carseat with big puffy coats on.

3. I was going to start my diet this past Monday, but when I heard that Girl Scout cookies are out today, I decided to wait and gorge myself on Samoas for one weekend, and will start the diet promptly on March 1st instead.

4. Went to target today and officially starting buying stuff for DD's birthday in May. I feel like I unleashed a monster....let the planning and shopping begin!

5. I'm feeling kinda jealous of all the maybe-pregnant ladies, which is absolutely crazy, as DD has only STTN once in almost ten months and I'm way too exhausted to even think about a second!

CinemaGoddess · February 2011

Alli923:
cinema_goddess:

jcyahne:

Am I missing something? Because IMHO these all seem pretty innocuous to me.

This is exactly why I was confused.

I don't really see hating on pregnant women or people who are discussing their babies on a Babies board as harmless.

And, if you don't mean to say you hate someone, then don't. If you are frustrated, or jealous, or sad, I can completely understand and respect that. But stating that you "hate" someone because they are sharing a bit of news that they were asked about or are happy about is uncalled for in my opinion.

We'll have to agree to disagree, then. I still think you're overreacting about this entire thing and taking certain aspects of these confessions too deeply to heart. Nobody is hating you because you might be pregnant, C. Truth.

MrsEditorJax · February 2011

StellaZ:
I admit I took the "I get annoyed when people equate unprotected sex with the ability to get pregnant easily. It's not easy for everyone." as being kind of a direct rant against the girls who mentioned that very thing on this thread. To me they were just being hopeful that it might have done the trick. It's not "hate"...but "annoyed" can hurt too.

Actually, it had nothing to do with that. My comment was regarding another comment that -- to me -- looked like the inadvertent guilting that I mentioned in my second post.

CinemaGoddess · February 2011

pixelvixen:
I like puppies and rainbows.

KNemo · February 2011

jcyahne:

Whoa, whoa, whoa! I'm sorry if the tone of my post didn't come through in my sleep deprived state. By "kind of hate you" I meant insanely jealous of you.

I will bite, since mine was the very first "I hate..." Like jcyahne said, I am insanely jealous, and there are a lot of mitigating factors to why I am not pregnant yet. I don't actually hate anyone, but my insane jealousy of those who are able to get pregnant, or are pregnant right now is eating me alive along with my baby fever.

Trophy sucks

Andplusalso, my kid didn't sleep through the night until he was 18-months. Even that is touch and go. If you've never had a poor sleeper, you don't understand this. It sucks ballz!

Seattle_JiLLn · February 2011

Honestly. Do you really think people are "hating" when they say "I hate you for your hot body" or "I hate you who get to STTN"?? Give me a break. People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience. I'm not sure where all of the crazy backlash hate is coming from today. There are always FFFCs that are actually more like hidden? flames and usually everyone just shrugs them off. But today people are all bent out of shape an it's not fun. Take a breath. Relax. Remember that no one here hates anyone else. It's Friday. It's sunny out. And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

iheartstuart · February 2011

I HATE when my college team loses. I don't react particularly well. I have never heard of these cupcake places you are all talking about other than Trophy, but I've still never been there.

Oh, and I LOVE my school Smile

U of A, U of A!! Stick out tongue

mrssmith717 · February 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
Honestly. Do you really think people are "hating" when they say "I hate you for your hot body" or "I hate you who get to STTN"?? Give me a break. People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience. I'm not sure where all of the crazy backlash hate is coming from today. There are always FFFCs that are actually more like hidden? flames and usually everyone just shrugs them off. But today people are all bent out of shape an it's not fun. Take a breath. Relax. Remember that no one here hates anyone else. It's Friday. It's sunny out. And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

I call BULL $HIT! CR beats Trophy ANY day!

Let the cupcake wars begin!

However, I do agree with the rest.

CinemaGoddess · February 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
Honestly. Do you really think people are "hating" when they say "I hate you for your hot body" or "I hate you who get to STTN"?? Give me a break. People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience. I'm not sure where all of the crazy backlash hate is coming from today. There are always FFFCs that are actually more like hidden? flames and usually everyone just shrugs them off. But today people are all bent out of shape an it's not fun. Take a breath. Relax. Remember that no one here hates anyone else. It's Friday. It's sunny out. And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

Them's fightin' words.

Alli923 · February 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience.

Jill, I agree with you for the most part. Perhaps I read into people's comments more than I should have. Just seems that some of the posts today were a little more intense than the usual friendly banter or talk here and after several of them, it really got under my skin.

braveangel2 · February 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

Now that's the best thing I've read today!

MrsH_08 · February 2011

Seattle_JiLLn:
Honestly. Do you really think people are "hating" when they say "I hate you for your hot body" or "I hate you who get to STTN"?? Give me a break. People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience. I'm not sure where all of the crazy backlash hate is coming from today. There are always FFFCs that are actually more like hidden? flames and usually everyone just shrugs them off. But today people are all bent out of shape an it's not fun. Take a breath. Relax. Remember that no one here hates anyone else. It's Friday. It's sunny out. And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

Thanks, Jill! I guess I don't get why others are allowed to say they're hopeful and excited, but I can't say I'm jealous. It took me 2 years and a loss to get here, too. And I can't expect anything easier next time. My being "jealous" shouldn't make anyone feel any worse than it makes me feel to hear how TTC-ing *should* be for all of us. I know the hopeful ladies didn't mean to make anyone feel badly and I didn't mean for them to feel badly, either. I hope to be seeing a lot of BFP's soon! And I would love to be announcing a 2nd one for myself, when we're ready.

FutureFung · February 2011

cinema_goddess:
Seattle_JiLLn:
Honestly. Do you really think people are "hating" when they say "I hate you for your hot body" or "I hate you who get to STTN"?? Give me a break. People say they "hate" as a figure of speechsaying they re jealous or envious. Everyone knows that. And no one was saying that anyone who doesn't do IVF has it easy. Lexi was saying she was jealous of the three? Women who all said they had recent unprotectd sex and are hopeful that try could be pregnant. Being envious of women who can be so hopeful after a well times roll in the hay is completely understandable and takes nothing away from anyone elses TTC experience. I'm not sure where all of the crazy backlash hate is coming from today. There are always FFFCs that are actually more like hidden? flames and usually everyone just shrugs them off. But today people are all bent out of shape an it's not fun. Take a breath. Relax. Remember that no one here hates anyone else. It's Friday. It's sunny out. And trophy cupcakes are way better than cupcake royale even if you're sitting in the entry way of a split level house trying to make the incredible decision of up or down.

Them's fightin' words.

Word.

And I think I got pregnant after reading about all the unprotected sex, you dirty girls... Stick out tongue

ChubbyCheekiesMom · February 2011

Good lord.

I seriously don't believe there is any TRUE hating going on...the word is being used loosely.

I haven't had a cupcake from the fancy places that taste all that great, I won't spend $30 on a dozen for any reason.

I was a serious FROST lover for a long time, until I had their holiday doughnuts and then I lost my faith. I tried Top pot and fell in love. I don't HATE frost.

Purvalicious · February 2011

My confession is that I think this whole thread has been ridiculous. People are getting their panties in a bunch without taking the time to look at it from any other perspective. Women who get pregnant easily can NOT relate to how frustrating and emotionally draining it is to have T-TTC, And honestly, most people who haven't experienced it don't try to understand because its painful to imagine.

Back to this thread, when people say that they're offended of a comment meant to convey jealousy of other pregnant women, that is really narrow minded. This board could use some serious sensitivity training...dealing with IF is so SO SO hard, and I'm sorry if its upsetting to you ladies who can sneeze and get KTFU - but when I read 4+ people say that they had unprotected sex and they're probably pregnant I get sad and jealous, and yes, I even hate a little. But until you've walked a mIle (or two years) in my shoes you can't begin to understand.

None of us should feel bad about sharing good news, every baby is a blessing. But when someone who has struggled with IF expresses their pain, it would be nice if there was understanding and compassion instead of finger pointing and getting offended.

That was Flame-FULL and I own every word of it.

newmommy74 · February 2011

My IL's annoy the heck out of me. It has been 5 months since we have seen them (they live 4hrs drive away) & they can't even pick up the phone to ask how their grandson is. My parents MAKE excuses to see Coop and are forever interested in what is going on in his life with swimming/daycare etc. I just wish they would make an effort.

Something happened at work yesterday & I know come Monday I am going to be in my bosses office talking about the situation and all I can think is "You guys need me more than I need you" - I hate confrontation but I am ready to walk if I have to!

MrsH_08 · February 2011

Purvalicious:
My confession is that I think this whole thread has been ridiculous. People are getting their panties in a bunch without taking the time to look at it from any other perspective. Women who get pregnant easily can NOT relate to how frustrating and emotionally draining it is to have T-TTC, And honestly, most people who haven't experienced it don't try to understand because its painful to imagine.
Back to this thread, when people say that they're offended of a comment meant to convey jealousy of other pregnant women, that is really narrow minded. This board could use some serious sensitivity training...dealing with IF is so SO SO hard, and I'm sorry if its upsetting to you ladies who can sneeze and get KTFU - but when I read 4+ people say that they had unprotected sex and they're probably pregnant I get sad and jealous, and yes, I even hate a little. But until you've walked a mIle (or two years) in my shoes you can't begin to understand.
None of us should feel bad about sharing good news, every baby is a blessing. But when someone who has struggled with IF expresses their pain, it would be nice if there was understanding and compassion instead of finger pointing and getting offended.
That was Flame-FULL and I own every word of it.

Thank you, Purvy! I'm very sorry you are also dealing with IF and having to look at comments from that perspective, too.

I think a lot of this thread has been a little less than flame-free, anyway.

nykola · February 2011

I am sorry I said I hate split level houses. I just intensely dislike them :-/

Alli923:
Perhaps I read into people's comments more than I should have. Just seems that some of the posts today were a little more intense than the usual friendly banter or talk here and after several of them, it really got under my skin.

Girl, maybe you really IZ preggo! :-)

HayHay · February 2011

preston18:

There is a woman at my gym who has the most incredible a$$. She always gets the elliptical in front of me so it?s just right there. I want to ask her what she does since tushies like that are not from the elliptical, but that would be weird.

Then I noticed the Lululemon logo on her jacket. I?ve always heard great things about their yoga pants so I?ve convinced myself dropping $100 on yoga pants will make my size 16 tush look as good as her size 4 or 6.

They will! I evangelize those pants!!

HayHay · February 2011

coribecca:

I'm finally getting the tummy tuck I've been wanting since G was born. It's scheduled for April 6. Yes, I really am vain enough to endure (and pay for) major surgery to get my body back.

Good for you! There is nothing wrong with a little work to get you where you want to be. Especially after you've sacrificed your body to have your babies. Wink Let us know how it goes!

brwneyedgrl · February 2011

Re: FFFC

Sometimes I wish I was religious. Specifically, sometimes I wish I was Mormon. There is community in church that is difficult to find or foster in other areas.

I know exactly where you are coming from with this. I can relate.

brwneyedgrl · February 2011

know exactly where you are coming from with this. I can relate.

I am also a lurker and a spaz and have no idea how to update/erase my ticker. My son is actually 10 months old. Whoops.

cari12 · February 2011

tfarabians:
Maddimom:

nykola:

*I think Trophy Cupcakes are way overrated. Cupcake Royale is WAY better.

WORD!!!!!!

See now I think both of these can't even compare to the frosting at new york cupcakes : )

AMEN!! haha

I was totally going to make that my confession! I love NY cupcakes. I didn't care for Trophy, Royale is hit or miss for me, but I'd drive over to Bellevue every.single.day for that frosting. SO delicious.

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