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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
FFFC - Let's Hear Them!
Mine's a doozy. I totally endorse the "hall pass" idea. My marriage is strong, healthy and DH and I love each other immensely. But we aren't always compatible sexually, and love each other enough to realize that. So we have an open marriage. We run prospective partners by each other, and if either is uncomfortable, we don't go ahead. But we have the option if we want it.
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Re: FFFC - Let's Hear Them!
WHOA! I believe in to each his own, but I could never, ever, ever do this!
be either.....!!!! NO way in hell.
Wow... good for you. I couldn't ever do it...
I think about an open marriage, threesome, or what have you sometimes etc.. I'm super sexual and DH is not as much.
However, I had a dream the other night he cheated on me and I tried to stab the girl, I know it's not the same but I don't think I'm evolved enough to handle it. Plus I haven't had sex in forever now sooo that is partly why I daydream. lol
Natural M/c 12/13/08 at 8w5d
that is a doozy! I couldn't do it either! is it appropriate ask questions?? lol!
do you ever get jealous?
I also have a question....do you ever worry that he will leave you for one of the other women he sleeps with?
Also, I just don't understand how you can both say you are in love with each other but want to sleep with other people...my mind can't comprehend that...
Do you ever worry about STD's, etc? (Sorry for the personal question - you don't have to answer - I was just curious because condoms are pretty good at protecting against STD's, but they aren't 100% effective...) Anyway, interesting stuff!
My FFFC: I'm trying to think of something good, but OP, you set the bar pretty high:)
My lame fffc for the day: I make cookie dough, just to eat the cookie dough - not to bake cookies.......
BFP #2: 11/16/11: M/C at 7 weeks
BFP #3: 03/24/12: C/P 03/28/12
BFP #4: 04/26/12: please be our baby
i think this is normal. you share your heart with your husband but your child IS your heart.
no, I don't get jealous. The arrangements are strictly physical.
No, I'm not worried about him leaving me, or me leaving him. We love each other, y would i leave over good sex with someone else?
We use protection, ALWAYS, and routinely get tested for each others peace of mind.
I love that JG! Right now I could auction H off to the highest bidder...but not my baby! Oh, and I KNOW I love LO more than H!
Why be married then? Why not just have an open relationship? Marriage is about two people committing themselves to eachother. If you don't want to do that why get married? Not flaming or judging just asking.
DH loves LO more than me too. I think it's normal. He talked to me last night about how much he loves him.
ffs, who says they're not committed to each other?
I can barely find the time to have sex with my husband, let alone finding someone new. Glad it works for your marriage, but I'm just not interested in that kind of thing.
I can't even imagine saying to my husband, "Um, hun, can you babysit while I go have sex with someone else?"
Her FFC said it. How can you be commited to someone if you are having sex with someone else? I don't see how that is possible.
True...I was so caught up in my feelings, I forgot about H...shame on me!
Here's mine:
I roll my eyes at some of the posts on here, where people are talking about how they NEVER give their LO sweets/juice/unhealthy food, etc. My daughter is a decent eater (the only thing we have a hard time with is veggies) and during the day she gets at least 3-4 servings of fruit and at least 1 serving of veggies. I also make sure she gets enough dairy and whole grain during the day.
However, I am not against her having a treat every once in awhile (sometimes even once a day) and I'm not of the mindset that graham crackers are a treat. On weekends, she gets bites of my sugary cereal, while we cuddle in the chair in the morning. If I'm eating some ice cream she'll get a few bites of my ice cream. The liquid in her sippy cup during the day is always a 2/6 oz juice/water ratio.
I guess, maybe, I didn't grow up eating the way that some of y'all feed your children and I don't eat that way myself, so I just don't understand feeding my child differently from how I typically eat.
PP answered how I would have. I guess I understand people loving eachother but not being satisfied in other areas of the realtionship. I just get why you get married then. Again I am not flaming maybe I am judging a little but you would have to expect posting that would get some judgement.
No, it didn't. This is entirely your interpretation. Can you see how you and the OP are different people entirely?
First of all, I do OCCASIONALLY give DD treats. For example we let her have a couple Christmas cookies during the holidays. But overall the reason I don't give DD "treats" is because I don't see the point. To DD pears and graham crackers ARE a treat and I am not about to disagree with her. She loves plain milk so why would I give her chocolate? She drinks water just fine and gets plenty of fruit so why give her juice? You get the point.
The reason I feed DD differently from what I eat is because I think the way I eat is pretty unhealthy and I work hard to make good choices. There are a lot of health problems in our nation that are directly tied to our bad diets that are getting more prevalent at a very alarming rate (diabetes and obesity for example). I want my DD to learn better and not become one of these statistics.
IMO it's a strange kind of commitment! This would cause all sorts of issues in my marriage. OP, do you ever feel weird about it?
Plenty of toddlers are still breastfeeding at the age your daughter is, so I don't really see it as being any different than that! You should be able to just gradually wean her to a cup by the time the baby comes. I wouldn't worry! I was kind of sad when my son dropped the bottle because it was the only time he would let me hold and cuddle him
First the whole open marriage thing: DH and I are both kind of jealous ppl, I don't think it would work for us, plus I signed up for marriage agreeing that it was the two of us and whatever children we have for our lifetime. It's bad enough trying to keep our extended families from interferring, let alone if we brought other ppl into it.
I second the hating intro posts. Just post when you feel like it, no one is going to remember you from an intro post anyway.
Confession: My kid loves yogurt and sweets. He would rather have sweets than anything else (except for maybe yogurt, but even the all natural yogurt is sweet). And he has a poopy diaper right now and I'm bumping instead of changing it. Now I have to get to it.
Morgan's Birth Story: http://www.fullcirclemidwifery.com/2009/06/morgans-birth/
Chloe's Birth Story: http://www.fullcirclemidwifery.com/2012/04/chloes-birth/
Yes, we are different people entirely. So what do you think commitment is then? When I got married I commited to give myself only to my husband and that is what I do. So, to me, her having sex with other men means she is not commited to her husband
Well, I suppose if you think sex is the sum total of the commitment between two people, this makes sense. Other people see it differently. Jesus.
calm down, just telling you my opinion.
lol - I just can't get over how douchey it is to tell someone that she is not committed to her marriage and her husband. WTF are you to say?
I am Jesus, remember??
I was just telling you my opinion of what I think commitment is, period
I am a food hypocrite! I feed DS organic milk, at least 3 fruits and 2 veggies per day, whole grains, lean protein, and yes, about 1 real dessert per week (NOT a graham cracker, lol...like part of a cupcake!)
Me on the other hand...I ate pringles for lunch. And I'm TTC which makes me feel guilty.
Thank you. DH and I are COMPLETELY committed to each other. We just choose to be open sexually. If we were having affairs behind the others backs I'd see your point, but if anything our sexual choices make us CLOSER to each other, as we have complete trust. Sex is sex. I married DH because I wanted to spend my life with him, raise his children. Not because of our sex life. The physical end of our relationship (and relations with any one other than our spouse) is something completely different.
I guess I'm wondering then- why do you "leave" him/your sexual relationship with him- to search for good sex with someone else- if the love is so strong? I really have a hard time believing that the extra-marital escapades are solely physical and I would probably believe that SOMEWHERE- whether for you or your husband- there's some uneasiness with this arrangement.
Mine for today: I ran 3 miles then ate a hotdog and a coke for lunch
And hope to have some wine with or after dinner (or both) tonight.
I am waaaaay to jealous of a person. This would also negate our vows. It just does not match with my definition of marriage and the spiritual commitment I made to my husband, but that's me. Not trying to put that on you at all. It would also severely affect my selfworth.
My FFFC- I feel guilty having a life outside DD. When I go out with friends or on a date with DH, I have a hard time being okay with myself. Logically, I know this is unhealthy, but logic doesn't always over rule the guilty feeling I get.
Loving this mommy thing!
Me too! I had a diet coke and nutter butters for breakfast
My 20 month old still gets one. I see no problem with it