How long until you will try again

ohiostategal · January 2011

I am now I thinking way far ahead but I have been curious about this. If you are going to try for another LO, how long after having this one(s) do you think you will wait before you start trying again?

I honestly don't think I will want to wait very long, but that might change after LO gets here.

rachel06 · January 2011

We will never prevent again, or at least that is the plan given my dx and etc. As far as doing IVF again I have no idea if/when we will do that again. We would want to make sure that baby #1 is well provided for and that we're not taking anything way from them. I can't see going through IVF again with a baby only a couple of months old. We really have no idea if/when we will do IVF again. We both know we want another child & possibly more but we have no idea how we will go about that just yet. We would not do IVF again unless we paid cash for it because we would not want to go into debt for #2. Or at least that is where we are now.

legaleagles · January 2011

I don't know. DH wants a bundle of kids like 3-5 of them! That is still up for negotiations with me. He is the oldest and his middle sister is about 18 months younger - he really liked that. His youngest sister is 7 years younger. He'd like to start trying when LO is 9 months! I'm not so sure how I feel about that. I was thinking having them be 2 - 3 years apart, but who knows. I'm 31, will be days shy (assuming LO is on time) of being 32 when she arrives and I'd like to have my last by 37...so who knows. And I don't know if we'd keep on with IUIs and injectables since it did work or go to IVF which was encouraged by my RE due to risk of over stim.

Also, we live in a very very HCOL and we want to buy a house. To buy a house in a good school district to avoid private schools will set us back $750k - 1M - that makes it difficult to support more than 1 or 2 kids and save for college. Aaaakk...I don't know!

tketterm · January 2011

We have 5 frozen embies. My RE will transfer 6 months after a live birth.

I am due in June and my idea is to transfer 2 more embies in December of next year - as our insurance deductable should be covered by this one's birth.

I have endometrosis and after my second lap, I know I have a 5-7 month window after each birth, before it will re-grow and prevent me being able to carry.

PinkHope · January 2011

Good question! If we were only having one, we would try again immediately. Since we're having twins, we'll probably prevent for a year until things settle down a bit and then decide. We always said we wanted 3 kids and we'll probably stick with that.

I have no idea if I'll need fertility treatments for the next one, since my ovulation issues were always unexplained and temporary in the sense that I've only had the issues the past few years.

whispergrrl · January 2011

DH wants to try again right away. I'm thinking maybe after this one is a year, then start trying again. We were lucky that our first IUI worked, so hopefully we could just avoid all the trial and error we went through with various meds and TI. I think we probably would not prevent, and if it happened naturally, all the better. If it doesn't happen naturally, then maybe start seeing a doc again after a year or so.

Of course, if this pregnancy turns out to be more than one baby (as DH thinks), we may just be done. DH thinks so, at least! I might have more to say about that down the line, though!

cara-n-steve · January 2011

We were just talking about this the other night. I don't think we would go through treatments again, but we're not going to do anything to prevent it. I"m thinking we're not going to have anymore, but I guess you never know. We may also change our mind once the babies are here. It may persuade us to go in either direction.

*jenjen* · January 2011

We have 2 frozen embies and I want to transfer them sooner rather than later...maybe late summer or fall.

My sister and I are 4 years apart and were never really "friends" growing up...my husband and his brother are only 18 months apart and have always been close and had all the same friends, so I want that for our kids too.

If the FET doesnt work, then I don't know when/if we'd do another fresh cycle again. Since we are both carriers of CF, I plan to have my tubes tied after our LO gets here to prevent any surprise pregnancies....this makes me sad, but it's too much risk.

SweetyPy17 · January 2011

We also were just talking about this. I'm not going back on BCP's and we won't prevent after the muncher is here. I'm 33 (34 when she comes) and my DH is 37. I wanted 2 kids before 35, but we'll see. As for IVF or treatments, I just don't know. I guess we will cross that bridge when we need too. Right now thinking about an IVF cycle stresses me out and makes me shudder.

Yellow_Daisy · January 2011

Hmmm...I'm not sure. For me there is the issue of my RA and if I want to take the chance of being PG again. The odds are good I would go into remission, but there is always the chance I might not. I feel very fortunate so far with this pregnancy and am not sure I want to press my luck. I am also not sure I want to keep going on and off my meds because I feel like it wrecks havoc on my body.

Then we have to consider the cost as there will be no surprise BFPs for us given DH's dx. We don't have any frosties so we would have to do another fresh IVF and I am not sure I feel comfortable spending that kind of money when we will already have a child.

Ultimately we may be one and done. I always only wanted one child, but once we got our IF dx and not being able to have kids I found that I yearned for more than one. I will be curious to see if my original feeling of just wanting one child will return once our LO arrives. With my tempermant it may just be better for us to have one child, as I get frustrated very easily and I think a child may take it out of me :-D.

njohnson1972 · January 2011

I feel very pressured (by myself) to have another baby right away. I will be 39 this summer when I have this LO. I won't be doing another fresh cycle again. DH thinks I should - but I won't put my body or LO through that again.

So, I want to do DE for a sibling. Ideally, I would like to do it January 2012 in hopes of an October baby. LO will be 6 months by then.

My other dilemma would be not being able to nurse very long with LO as I prepare my body for DE transfer.

But between weeks 6-9 of this pregnancy, I really thought LO was going to be an only child.

bjsdshanahan · January 2011

We were just talking about this the other day. If I was pregnant with one, I think we would start trying when the baby is a year. Since we are having twins, we will wait a couple years. We have two frozen embies and will mostly transfer them when the time comes.

We had always said we wanted four kids...but we shall see if that actually happens.

Jill070707 · January 2011

I am thinking we'd like to try another transfer of the frosties we have left maybe 2 years after this baby is born? I feel like around 3 years difference would work for us.

Temp893722312503334 · January 2011

I've been thinking about this a lot lately - don't know why, I think I should just try to be happy with one for awhile at least but I really enjoy pregnancy.

We will not prevent, most B.C. options aren't that safe for me and I honestly don't see the point. We have no embies on ice from either of our IVF's and I don't think we have it in us to do a fresh IVF again. I don't think my eggs are any good anyways.

It makes me sad b/c I always wanted the typical 2 kids but I don't think its in the cards for us. I'll be almost 35 when this little guy is born and DH will be 37.

Maybe a miracle will happen or we will look into adoption but I have a feeling that we will be one and done.

LnR70707 · January 2011

It really depends on how the rest of this pregnancy goes and whether this little one is an easy baby. If all goes well, we don't really plan on preventing except with condoms for the first 4 or so months. We probably won't move to FET until about the 1 year mark, maybe a little sooner.

DrVWife · January 2011

I would love to have 2 children but sadly that will never happen for us. Without IVF it is impossible for us to get pregnant on our own and DH will not agree to spend the money on another IVF cycle for a couple of reasons. One is that my response was very poor to IVF...through 2.5 cycles we only ever had 2 embryos to transfer. (We had a total of 8 eggs retrieved.) The other is that he is not okay with spending money on IVF when we have a child that we need to provide for. I totally understand his concerns and would never try to talk him into something that he was not comfortable with. So we will be happy and feel very blessed with our little Nemo and s/he will grow up very spoiled! (j/k...kinda!)

itsmevkb · January 2011

I've sort of set 42 as my upper limit for having children so I think maybe we'll wait a year before doing a FET. If this pregnancy makes it I don't envision us doing any other fertility treatments or trying on our own but we are committed to using our frozen embryo.

miesl · January 2011

Unless there is a new technique developed in the next few years that will increase our chances with DH's sperm and PGD... these two are it.

If it weren't twins, I think DH would have wanted to try for another at ~1.

nikinikinine · January 2011

we have two snowbabies that I plan to go back for very soon (i.e. within two years)

reasons:

* I don't want to keep trying to get pg, I just want to know what size my family is and move on. We're okay if it's just us and the twins.

* I want my body back. I don't really enjoy being pregnant so I'd like to get it out of the way quickly and then just fix myself up.

* these snowbabies are our last connection to our life as IF'ers and I'm ready to close the door on that chapter of our lives.

If I don't get pg from the snowbaby FET then I will probably put in an IUD, although my husband has offered to get a vasectomy. We have no plans or desire to TTC again on our own.

mdluv21 · January 2011

I don't think we will have anymore...

esperanza123 · January 2011

As long as everything continues to go well with this pregnancy (I'm due in June) we will probably go back for a FET a year from now.

Dragonfly1226 · January 2011

We'll probably do a FET once I am done BFing.

JakesBride07 · January 2011

In the very beginning when we talked about this, DH and I really wanted more kids but DH wanted to wait and see how things went with this LO. Now that we know for sure it's twins and know that they are a boy and girl, while we haven't revisited the topic I am pretty sure we are on the same page about not exploring treatment again, right now. However if it happens on it's own we will be very blessed and excited to welcome another baby and will not prevent that from happening.

We have agreed that in a year or two at the very most we will revisit the topic and see what's in our hearts at that time. But that's not to say that years down the road we won't go back either. Right now I will be a SAHM most if not all of the time until these babies start school. I do want to get back to a career at some point, which is why we agreed to revisit things in a year or two, so I can continue to be a SAHM for a little longer if finances allow.

This also could all change based on insurance coverage as well. We only had to do one IVF and DH's insurance covered most of the expense. If we were OOP completely then this would have been our one and only.

We also always said we wanted to adopt at some point, so we may even be looking into that furthur down the road.

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