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July 2011 Moms
FFFC?
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Re: FFFC?
I'll start.
I have a wonderful friend who has been a staple in my life for many years, and I've often said that if I had a brother it would be him. He's great friends with DH, they often go out for beers together. However, he dates this horrible, yucky chick who I can barely stand. I have a mean nickname for her and everything (she calls herself Star, even though that's not her name at all.)
My FFC is that they got engaged on Christmas Day and I was so upset. We are hanging out with them tonight and I reaaaaaally don't want to listen to her gushing and being over the moon. I mean, if she makes him happy....cool. But I'm not going to be buddy-buddy and friendly with her.
Also, just to add fuel to my flame-worthy fire....she fancies herself a gourmet cook, and she most definitely is not. I plan on breaking out my best appetizers for tonight just to show her up.
Go ahead, burn me up.
She sounds like she fancies herself as a porn star as well
ha! my thoughts as well. I don't know of too many "Star"s that didn't work in the porn industry for a stint. Star, Misty, etc....porn name.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
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I still can't stand when someone has multiple tickers for the same pregnancy.
I also don't care for the ticker with the silhouette of a woman, your name and pregnancy count down. I find that ticker so useless.
I don't understand why so many women don't know what medications are ok during pregnancy. I got a list from ob/gyn and one from my RE. There is also Google.
I outted myself a week early on FB. I don't care.
I am so sick of people talking about how the new year means a new start. No, it doesn't. You should live your life as a whole, not a do-over every frikkin year. I am so sick of people blaming their $hit life on anyone but themselves. I can see if it's health related or bad circumstances, but you are alone and bitter of your own doing. FIX YOURSELF!!!!
That wasn't at all directed to anyone here, but at people I know IRL.
My confession--
I've said it before, WHY do people have such huge/obnoxious sigs on TB? You do not need multiple tickers for the same pregnancy; you do not need multiple full size pics of your children/pets/spouse. If your sig fills up my entire laptop screen while I'm reading through a post, there's an AW issue.
In light of the NT scan posts last night, whenever I hear/see the words "False Positive" it makes me want to smack my head against a wall.....again and again. Let ignorance reign.
Oh, and 2010 can suck it. I have never been more happy than to say goodbye to a certain year. I really hope no one goes sentimental at the NYE party tonight about how great 2010 was.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
Oh god, *puts on flame retardant pants*
It really irks me when I see post about being impatient for results (calling the office multiple times a day every day), or people who whine at their doctors just so they can get an u/s that is not medically necessary, or stories about doctor offices that encourage them to lie to get additional ultrasounds.
If you only knew....
Also, since I'm already going to hell....I call her The Slore. Inventive combination of her fake name, and what I really think of her.
6/14/10 BFP; 6/30/10 Dx ectopic
11/16/10 BFP #2; DD born 7/26/11
This. I get so annoyed. Like to the point where I want to make a nasty comment and shame them into correcting their AW-ish ways.
I feel like I am failing at this whole pregnancy thing. Everyone who talks to me about it says how wonderful they felt, how they were never sick, how magical the whole experience was. I have been sick since before the BFP. I have fallen down a flight of stairs. I have been admitted overnight due to dehydration. I spent Wednesday night in the ER due to bleeding and cramping. I keep feeling that I am doing something wrong and I keep waiting for that moment when it all just clicks for me.
P.S. It doesn't help when one of DH's old friends (who we haven't spoken to in over a year) calls up and tells me his wife can tell me what I am "doing wrong" since she had such an easy, perfect pregnancy and he heard I've had m/s.
(((HUGS))) The only things I've found that helps is the mantra "today I'm pregnant and I love my baby!" Also, praying and just praise & worship. Good luck I hope you find a relaxation(sp) method that works for you soon!
::throatpunch::
I hope you told them "thanks, but no thanks." Maybe you can tell him what he's "doing wrong" in the MYOB department.
Oh and to top it off, we'll be seeing them tonight at a mutual friends NYE party. Yippee for me. (I may have to try the throat punch!)
Lol, this. WTF is wrong with people, pregnancy is not an easy dream situation for most people! It has nothing to do with you as a person. Way to have a superiority complex over something that you have no control over!
I'm having a difficult time with people who believe that their approach to pregnancy is the ONLY and BEST way to do it.
Last night, we shared the big news with a group of my older friends. This of course led into multiple discussions about their own pregnancies and advice, which I appreciated hearing. One woman told me that she feels very strongly about natural childbirth, but that she didn't want to burden me with her opinions unless I was interested in hearing about it. I told her that as I got closer to labor, I would be happy to discuss it with her.
So then another woman jumps in and shares that she had epidurals with both of her births. This caused the first woman to jump in and COMPLETELY berate her on how awful epidurals are and critique both of her "medical" births from start to finish. It was awkward, to say the very least! Everyone in the room was nervous and felt totally awful for the poor woman who was just trying to share her experience with me. The other woman, at the end of her tirade, finally apologized and claimed that she wasn't trying to judge. But clearly this is exactly what she had done.
Don't get me wrong, I have strong opinions about things and how I think they should be done. BUT, the key difference is that I know that my opinions are exactly that- MINE - and that pushing them on others does nothing but make me look like a complete a$$hole. I think we can all listen to differing perspectives and then make the best choice for us, our own bodies, and our own pregnancies.
Jess & Adam, married 2009, precious Audrey born in 2011. BFP 1/6/13, 6-wk MMC discovered at 9 wks 2/11/13. D&C 2/18/13, second D&C 4/23/13 for retained placenta.
BFP 8/24/13!! EDD 5/1/14, delivered healthy and sweet Zoey Leanne on 5/5/14 by repeat c-section.
BFP 10/25/10 Brynn Helen born 7/7/11
THIS! Everything about it. Love you.
I couldn't sleep last night so I thought of like 40 FFFC because I was angry but forgot them. The only one I can think of is towards my cell phone company. I screwed up and paid next months student loans before this months cell bill, and they shut off my phone yesterday. I called and asked them if it was okay if I could pay half then (yesterday) and the rest today when I got paid. Normally they'd do that, but because I waited THREE HOURS to call they won't. So I didn't have a phone last night, driving in the snow. I know its my fault, but I'm hungry and sick and angry today.
For anyone that read my post that I DD'd on Monday, I'm still not really talking with my Mom. She attacked my parenting skills which then spiraled out of control to her including issues from the past ten years [which is totally how she fights, dirty. There is no time limit on what is appropriate to bring into an argument].
DH called her and she hung up on him twice. The two times we've spoken she's brought up DH and now seems to be scared of him and acting like he's an out of control person. She suggested our going to counseling, but I can't tell her what I really think out of counseling any more than I could in . . .
My FIL is in town. And is staying with us. FOR A WEEK. We have been planning a NYE party for over two months now and he's complaining because the majority of the party will be in the basement where he's been sleeping. "Where am I going to sleep? What am I going to do? I can't stay up that late! I don't know if I'll like your friends. Can you be quiet after midnight so I can sleep?" GO TO A F*CKING HOTEL! Oh, and he brought his hyper little dog with him who happens to have a disgusting fungus all over its back.
I have despised this man for many, many years. Luckily, he lives far away and I don't have to see him very often. My poor DH is getting snapped at because I'm already at the end of my rope. Sorry, I guess this was more of a vent than a confession, but man, do I feel better.
**Hugs**
I'm just thinking that there are times when a nut punch (can I say that on TB?) is necessary ....
FFFC - Those "Healthy Weight Gain" badges drive me nuts. I hate them. Everytime I see one, I just want to scream!
As someone who has had severe issues with her mother in the past, I feel for you. I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I hope that things improve quickly. I know how painful and saddening it can be. ((hugs)) if you need anything at all, please feel free to PM me
Here Here!!!
Here's mine:
First, The next person who argues with me that my identical twins will be a boy/girl due, I'm going to kick them in their face. DH and I have both read in several places that they have to be boy/boy or girl/girl. If they're boy/girl, apparently the girl has a chromosonal defect. So, yes, if you want something to be wrong with my baby girl, you keep praying I'm going to have a boy and girl.
Second, this is our first pregnancy. I have experience with children in daycares, babysitting and with my nieces/nephews. I know those are completely different than when it is your own, but I've been around them enough to know they don't always STTN, they don't always feel good, they don't always want to eat, and yes, they will throw up/poop on you. I know I'm going to be exhausted. I know I'm going to get big and have pains, I know I'm not going to be able to sleep at night once I get farther along. And the next person who says "Oh, honey, you don't know what you've gotten yourself into." or "You just wait until they're here, you'll see" is going to get hit in the effin face! These babies were planned, they weren't a surprise. We knew what we were doing and we are prepared to have a rough time. Please keep your f'n advice to yourself, unless you're doing it in a helpful way.
OMG THIS!!!!! I have two pregnant friends in my close group of friends and they are both SO opinionated!! Who cares how I choose to raise my child or what I choose to do while pregnant (within reason). NOT your kid, NOT your body! Example: I get my hair highlighted. I read up on it, weighed the negatives and positives, and made the decision to still get my hair highlighted. You would have thought I smoked crack. Seriously?! Also, we're not going to find out the sex of the baby and I got the lecture about how much better it was to find out so you weren't always calling the baby "it" and you could connect more with your child. It's my decision!! Lay off!
Lastly, I'm totally sick of the Working Moms vs. SAHMs. I'll be going back to work after I have our baby because I love what I do and I feel that it's part of my mission in life. I don't need the whole "You're letting someone else raise your child" speech and the judgement from my SAHM friends. I don't care that you've made the choice to stay home, don't judge me for going back to work!!!
This exactly! For the past couple years, the people I work with keep telling me "Just wait till you become preganant" or "Just wait until you have kids". Yes, I know things will change when I have a baby, but this baby was planned and we are as ready as we will ever be to have a baby. It just irks me. It is one of the reasons why I haven't told the people I work with yet. I just don't want to hear their comments.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA....Love it. Seriously.
Oh, and I totally agree.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
This has been the worst f'ing year of my life. I told DH yesterday "i'm so glad 2010 is ending, I hate this year!" and he goes "We have a lot to be thankful for as well, even with the hard..." I wanted to turn around and say "SHUT THE F UP, A-HOLE! I'm allowed to have my own thoughts about this year, regardless of the times it was good. It was 80% a crap year..." instead I just said "yup, you're right." and walked away. He gets in his holier than though, don't think about bad times moods and it ticks me off.
My FFC... We're going to a NYE party tonight (same friends every year, and we dress up in costumes). I don't want to go. This is the 2nd year in a row that I'm pregnant for f'ing holidays, and while I'm ecstatic to be healthy in pregnancy, I'm annoyed that it's the 2nd year in a row I get to watch DH get bombed on liquor. At least he said I can leave after midnight and his buddy will drive him home. Yes, because I can't wait for him to come to bed reeking of alcohol and in whatever state he'll be in. I just can't bring myself to be excited to go... It would be different if it really was just about celebrating the new year, but its more about getting drunk. last year DH barely made it to the 5second countdown because they had to do a shot before coming downstairs. It's not like you can just PAUSE midnight.
OMG, I could probably DITTO most of the FFC today!!!
This is one of the ones that I agree with. Not all OB's do the NT Scan. My doctor does a Quad Screen (b/w) just to check levels and see if they're out of whack. I do this, insurance pays for it. Doesn't make me better or worse than anyone else. It is what it is. If my OB didn't have me get it done, I'd never know about and I'd never get it done.
Also - MrsBaker had something about people telling her "just wait until they're here..." I'd like to punch people in the face right along with you. I CAN'T STAND when people make those comments. We planned to have a baby, I understand my life will change, but I can only assume that it's going to change for the better. If it wasn't for the better than I don't think I'd want kids. And through all the downs, there are more ups. And people that come at me with negative responses such as those can keep them to themselves. Just because YOU were not prepared for what may be, doesn't mean that I am not prepared. And just because you don't allow your husband to do jack squat (you're afraid he might break them) doesn't mean that I'll be afraid to let DH watch the kids and go out for a beer by myself!
Yes, yes, yes! The one I'm so aggravated with right now (because he got mad at me for not liking his advice), his child wasn't planned. His wife got pregnant by accident while they were going through a divorce. He couldn't keep it in his pants one night and BAM! there's his daughter. That sounds awful, but he loves his little girl more than anything, but just because he wasn't ready doesn't mean we aren't. That whole sentence was totally grammatically incorrect!