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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
FFFC
And go!
Mine: I'm actually glad SI and I aren't talking because I don't have to see her on Christmas!
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Re: FFFC
(c) Holly Aprecio Photography - Oct 2011
LOL-I would have done the same thing!
I don't feel like a very good mommy these days. E is so sensitive lately and any little thing triggers a total meltdown. So of course, B has learned this and takes every opportunity he can to make him cry. It's driving me crazy. Between telling B not to pick on E and comforting E, I'm going nuts. It sometimes seems like all that E does anymore is whine or cry. I just don't know what to do. I know it's just a toddler thing and that he'll eventually grow out of this, but right now it's killing me. There is nothing physically wrong with him, other than possibly getting his 2nd molars and a growth spurt. He's just so cranky.
The demands on my time outside of the boys are ridiculous and I'm the type of person that can't stand to let anyone down. In the middle of one of the boys' episodes last night, I actually found myself thinking that I was meant to have fertility issues because I wasn't meant to be a mom. It almost feels like my kids are being punished by having me as a mom.
I'm just feeling very, very lost right now. I love my boys to death but I'm afraid that I'm heading toward a nervous breakdown at this pace. It's to the point now when E starts whining, I start getting sick to my stomach. It physically hurts me to hear him upset and not know what to do about it.
Sorry for the depressing FFFC. I just needed to get that out. I tried to talk to DH but his response is always "what do you want me to do about it". If I knew what to do about it, I would have done it already!
I'm a SAHM, so I'm with DD pretty much 24/7. However, DH is really good about encouraging me to go to the gym, so he offers to watch her, no questions asked, when I work out.
So here's my FFFC: About half the time when I go to the gym I'll do a really quick (i.e. 20 minute) workout, and then go to Starbucks and sit and read/surf the net/stare at a wall for an hour or so. But as far as DH is concerned, I'm burning calories on the treadmill.
I feel bad for lying, but honestly I'd rather just chill on my only "time off" than workout, but there's no way DH understands that....
You have no idea how much I relate!! My son is the sensative one and my DD is the "bully". I hate to call her a bully because obviously she is not malicious but she is constantly provoking him.
I dont have any advice - I try to snag breaks whenever I can. I am very fortunate to live by family...
Aw, I am so sorry you are feeling that way. I think it's very, very normal to feel completely overwhelmed, especially with twins! Is there a way you could take some time to read a book about re-prioritizing your life and letting some things go? I have seen so many articles/tv shows about moms who stretch themselves too thin. I also think maybe cognitive therapy (if you have time and $$ for it) would help you put perspective on your life and what is the most important and give you tools to let the other things go. Hang in there-((hugs))
Now that's a confession. I lilke it
I have not adjusted my diet much at all for this pregnancy, and i feel really guilty about it. I was really good last time. I have caffeine on a daily basis, the thought of most vegetables has made me want to puke so I've avoided them, I'm still eating all the no-no foods, and I forget to take my prenatal vitamins pretty frequently. I also don't work out even half as much as I used to.
I'll feel pretty bad if something goes wrong since I went by the book on practically everything last time and had a textbook pregnancy and delivery -like I cheated this baby or something.
How much caffeine? My Doc said one can a day was fine. And I took full advantage
I bet it's not as bad as you think. At least your not eating Taco Bell everyday
Yeah I kind of am. Haha. I have stopped for breakfast at a drive-thru almost every day this week.
And I'm not drinking coffee or anything but I'm being pretty liberal on the caffeine. They said to keep it under 200 mg a day. One coke only has like 35 in it or something. But last time I cut it out altogether for the entire first tri.
Baby #2 will be just as perfect as L
Acia- right on girl!
Tomkat- I will always beat myself up about placental breakdown/low fluid and whether Jacob's low birth weight was b/c by 3rd Tri I pretty much gave up comepletely on my diet. Not to worry you, he is perfectly healthy and smart now, but I beat myself up a lot when people would see how tiny he was (just shy of 6lbs) and ask if he was born early and I had to saw "nope, 41 weeks".
For my confession: I had a dream about Mfran last night. Technically, it was about Debbie Gibson. She was singing to our company party, which was outside at a lake beach like in The Office a few seasons ago, but the whole faceinhole pic made me actually think of Mfran during the dream sequence. It was funny.
Try not to worry. I didn't eat well at all and drank pop everyday when I was pg with DS. I had a great pregnancy and delivery.
I cut out most caffeine the first tri this time but, I haven't been eating the best either. I've just been lucky to eat something that sounds good!
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I lived on junky cereal and pop-tarts my whole first trimester... the only things that sounded tolerable thanks to morning sickness... and DS turned out fine!
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It sounds like you are doing fine-I ate that way during my pregnancy with LO and he turned out just fine!
I told my mom that she couldn't come into my house because there were Christmas secrets going on and I couldn't hide them. In reality, I just didn't feel like spending this morning cleaning.
I hate working. I keep saying it's just my job, but no. I HATE working period. I've been working since I was 14 (summers only while in school) then after highschool I worked full time, and now I can honestly say I'm ready to retire (I'm only 27 lol). I'm just done. I feel like no matter where I go, I'll hate it. I want to be a SAHM so bad, I can taste it! I'm tired of waking up early every freakin day and dealing with peoples BS. AND I want DH to get on his feet already so I can do this..I'm SO fed up with seeing HIM enjoy time with DS..that should be ME not him!
aaaannndd..this has officially become a whine.. (I'd like some cheese with it, yes. lol)
I know i feel bad but its so cold here that i wanted a jacket that will last long and i thought i deserved it. Heck us mom deserve something nice once a year!!
DH: 31, no issues
4-6/2012 100mg of Clomid + trigger + IUI/TI = BFN
7/2012 150mg of Gonal-f + trigger + IUI = BFN
8/2012 Surprise unmedicated BFP!! Due May 8, 2013
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
A long time ago..
DH gave me the password for his myspace (don't ask me why), and one day I got bored and went in and checked it. Turns out he has been private messaging his ex and that pissed me off so bad. I know, I know, it's just an ex and I shouldn't make a big deal out of it.. but I guess I just didn't understand why a married man needed to reach out and talk to his ex, I guess I don't know if they ended things on a good note, but it just bugged me at the time.
Me too Haleymay. I am always hoping for something like "I don't really have any kids" or I am sleeping with my Father in LAW
I have a lame and embarrassing confession
For a long time I had a huge bump addiction because I considered bumpies to be my online friends. Then a bunch of stuff happened in my personal life to make me close off a bit and instead of posting, I've been lurking and reading. I realized my impression was totally off. On one hand I'm sad but on the other I'm glad it broke my bump habit significantly
That would be a good one!
That's not lame at all. Don't be embarrassed either. I used to worry about my e-reputation. Now, I just don't care. I think there are quite a bit of people on here that could use the same wake up call.
Then I have one for u. DH and I have an open marriage. We sleep with who we want, when we want. It's not something we excercise often, but it works for us.
We are hopelessly in love, and recognise that sometimes we just need something different.
Happens more than you think. Not us, but I once had a collegue who had this kind of marriage. She told me this when she was drunk and I was staying at her house out of state for work. (I worked from home for a co in AZ and traveled all over the country). Her H was with another woman one of the nights I STAYED there. She totally didn't care, told me that's how they've stayed married so long, she told me she was sleeping with another collegue of ours, and that she and her H totally are in love. They've been married like 30+ years and you'd NEVER know they did the open thing.
Different strokes.
it actually makes our marriage stronger. It takes away the element of cheating, as it's no longer "forbidden" and less likely to happen.
I thought it wouldn't work, but strangely it does. I feel more secure in my marriage, as we always come home to each other.
It wouldn't be cool for me and I KNOW it would not be cool for MH, but if it works for you, then it works. Sex honestly isn't important enough to me to have it outside my marriage. Nothing to do with vows, or marriage be sacred or me being insecure. Just being 36, being tired, having an almost 2 year old, I'm lucky if I care enough about having sex with myself.
Most people who do this have strict rules anyway and adhere to them. Interestingly enough, most of these people stay together- ie, one does not leave the other for one of the people they banged.
I was just about to say my FFFC is that I've never, ever felt guilty about buying something for myself and not something for LO. He has plenty.