I got a call from one of my good friends before I went to work yesterday afternoon letting me know she's pregnant, and due 10 days after I was supposed to be. I was brave on the phone and assured her I was excited for her, which I am. I'm just so sad for me. I hung up the phone and bawled for a good 10 minutes, and then had to go to work. I adore my friend but now every time I see her I'll have a constant reminder of what I lost. DH doesn't understand what the big deal is, which frustrates me even more. I've been doing pretty good emotion-wise for the last week or so and this news totally blew me out of the water.
Re: Another punch in the gut
I don't know your story, but my condolences for your lose.
It can be hard when no one has a clue how much something effects you (I couldnt possibly imagine your pain, I'm just a guy, but as a soldier who's deployed, and a father whos lost a child, I know the feeling when no one really gets whats going on.)
11.10.10 from my belly to my heart at 11wks 5days
I have 3 friends that are due in the same month as I would have been. It kills me every time.
And I understand the DH's not understanding part. Every time I give the side-eye, or make a snarky remark about someone being pregnant, he always says "what's the big deal?". It's like COME ON!
Just know, we are always here and we'll always understand.
::hugs::
Yeah the sucky part is that I would read posts here and on TTCAL about this same thing and go "Well, at least I don't have to deal with THAT too, that would be really tough." And BAM, now I am.
I really worry that it will affect our friendship, which would really hurt me. I really hope I'm strong enough that it won't. I feel better this morning, and she and I made plans to go out to lunch on Sunday, so hopefully I will be feeling more secure about it by then. I'm glad you guys understand, but I wish you didn't have to go through this too. :-/
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
One of my closest friends and I found out we were pregnant one day apart and are due one day apart. I found out yesterday that our baby girl has Trisomy 18 in addtition to a host of other life threatening anomolies and no chance for survival after birth (if she even made it that far). I just scheduled my D&E for next week and since I have been dealing with this from the start (at my 12 week screening) all I have thought about is how when her baby is born I will be so sad knowing that my baby should've born then as well and everytime I see her now I just think that I should be that happy and in the same place she is and it just breaks my heart
I'm so sorry for what you are going through and I understand...I hope you find the strength you need to cope with all of this.