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Miscarriage w/out knowing

yagerismydogyagerismydog
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About 2 weeks ago, I woke up cramping and bleeding (tissue). I went to the OB right away, he did an u/s and the bleeding wasnt coming from the fetus. He told me to take it easy, so I did. My husband and I decided to take a urine pregnancy test last night to confirm we were still pregnant. 3 negative tests resulted. We went to the hospital and after a blood test and ultra sound, there were no signs of a pregnancy. I didn't have a big pool of blood like my Doctor predicted ever. Now I have to go to Thanksgiving (where I was going to tell my family) and act like nothing ever happened. Any words of advice?? T&P ARE APPRECIATED :)

We will TTC ASAP, any advice on that also?

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  • dana1318adana1318a
    I am so sorry for your loss ((hugs)).  I don't have any advice because I had already told my family about the baby.  So I'm prepping myself for a different kind of awkward  :  Hope you're still able to enjoy a little of your holiday.
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  • yagerismydogyagerismydog
    Thanks
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  • eec129eec129 member
    That is tough...I already told my parents and some of my family, so I don't have any advice for you there. I will say my doctor advised me to wait 1-2 cycles before trying again. I think we will start after 1 though. It might be good for you both mentally and physically.
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  • PenguinHillPenguinHill

    I'm sorry for your loss.  You're in good company (if you want to call it that) with other ladies having to face Thanksgiving after a loss.  I don't have grand advice, since I haven't been through it yet either.  But you certainly don't have to pretend like nothing ever happened.  I think you can approach it a few different ways.  If you have any family members that you are particularly close to and you know you will want to tell them what happened, you could call or get together with them ahead of time, or even send a thoughtful email.  That way you won't have to tell 20 different people 20 different times what happened in the span of about 3 hours.  Or, you could just see how things go - you're not obligated to tell anyone what happened, but you're not forbidden from telling your family either.  Do what feels right for you and that will get you the support you need.

    As far as TTC, I don't know how far along you were, but most Obs usually recommend some amount of waiting to TTC again, at least until after your next AF, and sometimes longer (we were told 2 AF's, and we're going to TTA until then because as much as I want to be pregnant again, I'd never forgive myself if we tried too soon and then miscarried again).  Of course talk to your OB first, esp since I'm not sure you have a great explanation of what happened.  Regardless make sure you've processed this loss before going forward.  Good luck, and again I'm sorry for your loss.

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  • leelee725leelee725

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  We had also planned on telling our families on Thanksgiving (I would have been 12 weeks).  I don't really have any advice, but I hope you are able to enjoy the time you have with your family at least a little bit.

    As far as TTC again - My doctor said we can try again after my first AF post d&c, but we have decided to wait another cycle after that just to make sure my body is healed and I have some time to make sure I am ready to jump back in to charting and everything.

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  • emeraudecephiroemeraudecephiro member
    Talk with your doctor of what he suggests you do - Usually 1-2 cycles is suggested. Try to find things to be thankful for - family, friends, shelter, food.... It makes it a little easier to try to focus positively and I know very well how hard that is! Give your body and your mind the time to heal - otherwise it is harder. Best of luck and lots of hugs, T&P.
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