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2nd Trimester
lulabellalula
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How often do you & hubby have sex?
lulabellalula
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average of how many times a week?
the reason i ask, is because I want to make sure im not the one being selfish or crazy here...
since becoming pregnant, my sex drive has taken a nose dive. a complete and utter free fall dive without a parachute! however....!! i still give my hubby sex/or a bj at least every OTHER day.
AND HE STILL COMPLAINS!
not a day goes by that he doesn't complain about being 'sex deprived'. Seriously?! im about to go hormonal on him!
somebody help me before i kill him. >.<
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Re: How often do you &amp; hubby have sex?
He may get some once a week! And I'm not sure the last time he got a bj.
So I think your hubby is lucky! He best be counting his blessings!
THANK YOU LADIES!!!
geez..i am at my wits end. it's a light teasing/complaining like he's joking, but he does it SO often that its starting to get on my nerves and to the point where it's no longer funny to me and i keep telling him he's getting it WELL above other men (which seems like i was right!).
>.< im just super frustrated and wish he'd be a little bit more considerate of MY needs during this time.
You might want to tell him it could be a lot worse - I've been on pelvic rest since basically the start of this pregnancy. No sex for my hubby.
And since I threw up this afternoon because my Altoid went a little too far back in my throat - no joke, that seriously happened - you can imagine there hasn't been much of anything else either.
(I will add puking in front of your husband often makes these things a non-issue, he's not exactly up for sex after holding my hair back, you know?)
I'd be taking a little nookie vacation until his attitude improved, personally, but maybe that's just me. Either way, you need to tell him in no uncertain terms to grow up and knock it off. You're pregnant and not that into it. It's not for the rest of his life, he can deal for the next few months.
we are at about 2-3 times a week... sometimes more, sometimes less.
i think you need to teach him about being deprived and don't put out or touch him for a few weeks, then he won't complain so much about not getting it everyday!
i hate sex games but he is really being a butt and he should get used to it!
1-2 times a week, sometimes 3 but it was his birthday that week lol.
You have a lucky hubby tell him it could be worse and to stop his whining.
I swear if I didn't know better, I'd say you must be married to MY husband! I tried so hard to do the every other day or every two day deal with him. But sex has become incredibly painful for me. So it was down to once a week, and only because he'd bug me so much that it was "mercy sex" just to make him shut the fvck up! We were seeing a counselor and she advised we not have sex again until my doctor can find an explanation for the excruciating pain I experience during intercourse. So now I just give him a hand job from time to time. He still complains, but I just remind him that it's either hand jobs or nothing. I'm not going to make myself feel any worse than I already do right now just to make him happy.
i still give my hubby sex/or a bj at least every OTHER day.
Before getting PG MH and I were only having sex once a week. Twice was something special. Even now we try to keep it at once a week to keep the romance between us esp since having DS, but lately its starting to be a real hassle for me and last week I was dead sick. If we don't have sex then I at least try to give him a HJ, I don;t travel the BJ route and he understands.
I can't remember the last time we had sex. Seriously. Between having a toddler, working full time and being pregnant, I'm just too exhausted.
2-3 times a week.
I think your hubby is being a baby.
Owen- April 2011
Olivia- Due December 24th
Your dh should consider himself a very lucky man!
Mine gets sex once or twice a month if I am not nauseous and moody! lol
Sex....pffft.
4/20/2011
Esma: I'll turn him into a flea. A harmless little flea. Then Ill put that flea in a box. And put that box inside another box. Mail that box to myself. And when it arrives. ILL SMASH IT WITH A HAMMER. Its brilliant, brilliant, brilliant I tell you. Genius I say.
Or to save on postage. Ill poison him with this.
Wow - I don't think we've been on a consistent every other day routine since college. For the past few years we've been pretty content at 1-2x a week. I've been on pelvic rest since 5w - so nothing for about 3 months! DH hasn't complained once, and I'd have quite a bit to say to him if he did.
I think you really need to talk to each other - on one hand, maybe he needs to step up some game to help your sex drive if you're interested in keeping with the OTD routine; on the other hand, maybe you need to talk to him about other ways to be intimate/close/bonded...whatever. If it's just the physicial release he's looking for and not the intimacy, I'd tell him to head for the shower.
Caitlin 4.17.11 Madeline 10.20.13
He never complains, but it's gone down A TON :-( I'm just too freaking tired, self-conscious, achy whatver
Oh and if anyone wants to see something HILARIOUS on lack of sex.... watch this weeks episode of south park... it won't let you down!
Once Upon a Princess Tutus
My Life as a Future Mom
Heh. We've had sex twice since discovering we were pregnant -- both times on vacation at about 13 weeks.
My husband doesn't have much of a sex drive, and so over the years, mine has damped down, too, to save my sanity. But, I knew this going in, so I don't mind. He has other qualities I married him for.
Before pregnancy? We would have sex maybe...2-4 times a month?
I've heard of this -- I work in publishing, and one of my authors wrote a book about it called Secret Suffering. Might want to look it up (and no, I don't get any proceeds if you buy it -- this isn't a plug).
Frankly, I don't think it really matters what other people are doing.
If your husband's attitude is hurtful, demeaning, annoying, or any combination thereof, you need to explain that to him. It's not really about the sex. It's about treating you like a vending machine. And if he still blows that off, then sex is definitely the least of your worries.