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BetchySprout · November 2010

What will you do with your older child while you are in the hospital/after?

My mom has agreed to take DS for a week once the new baby gets here. She lives very close to his daycare and she is a school nurse so she works similar hours to my regular ones. Is a week too much? I will visit most days (if I have a vaginal birth...if I have a repeat C I will be on driving restriction so I don't know.)

Just looking to see what others are planning :-)

Beccaboo0713 · November 2010

While I am actually delivering my FIL will be watching DS. After delivery my mom will watch DS during the day and DH will be with him at night.

Once I am out of the hospital (hopefully only 24 hours and no more than 48) DS will be back at home with us. I don't want to throw off his routine too much by having him at his grandparents for more than a day or two and I would like to get started learning the ropes with two as soon as possible.

Artsyk · November 2010

I know my dh's parents are planning to be here...(yippee....*insert sarcastic tone here*...I like them, don't get me wrong, but they are so lazy sometimes - I am going to need help around the house and they will just sit there and do nothing...they aren't older either...mid 50's).

My mom already volunteered to take care of Isabelle, so we will probably take advantage of that - at least while we are in the hospital, etc. We are having a scheduled c-section, so at least we will know when we have to be there, etc.

Other than that, I don't know for sure as I know my dh will want Isabelle around when his parents are here (they live 12.5-13.5 hours away).

Magnolia322 · November 2010

While I'm in the hospital DS will probably stay with my parents then when I come home, he will be home and DH will be there with me. He will continue daycare through all of it so that will help during the day.

flowerchild77 · November 2010

Even with my vaginal birth, I was told not to drive for 2 weeks. Im planning a homebirth so my dd will be there most likely. I will have someone there appointed as her caretaker while Im in labor. My dh gets a week off of work when the babys born so he can help out during that first time period. Personally, I think a week is kinda long for him to be away. Especially since theres going to be a new baby in the house. Id want him to get acclimated as well instead of feeling like hes been thrown out and replaced.

MrsTotty · November 2010

We don't have any hard plans yet ... but we have a LOT of family in the area. I'm sure that DS will stay with someone on DH's side of the family while I'm giving birth and maybe for a day or so afterwards.

GoodOman9206 · November 2010

My parents will be traveling to be with DS when I am in the hopsital and plan to stay for a few days once we get home. Also, DH will take a couple of weeks off to bond with DC #2. During that time, we are planing to send DS to daycare in hopes of keeping his schedule as normal as possible.

kabarbanel · November 2010

During labor, my brother or friend will be with DS because my parents will probably be waiting at the hospital. My mom will then stay with DS for the 2 nights I am in the hospital. She will either stay at our house or take him back to hers. He stays with my parents a lot, so I don't feel like him going to their house for 2 nights that we are not home would mess up his routine or anything. However, I personally wouldn't want him to stay there for a week. I want him home with us when the baby comes home. There will be a lot of change going on for him and I don't want him to feel we are sending him away or anything like that.

BetchySprout · November 2010

Artsyk:
I know my dh's parents are planning to be here...(yippee....*insert sarcastic tone here*...I like them, don't get me wrong, but they are so lazy sometimes - I am going to need help around the house and they will just sit there and do nothing...they aren't older either...mid 50's).
My mom already volunteered to take care of Isabelle, so we will probably take advantage of that - at least while we are in the hospital, etc. We are having a scheduled c-section, so at least we will know when we have to be there, etc.
Other than that, I don't know for sure as I know my dh will want Isabelle around when his parents are here (they live 12.5-13.5 hours away).

Let me add if I have another c/s my hospital makes you stay for 4 days so there goes most of his week at G-mas!

I would be pissed as hell if my IL's came and expected me to work to serve them after just having a baby. I hope they surprise you!

MidwestTexan · November 2010

My in-laws live 2.5 hours away and MIL's work schedule is supposed to be cutting back to part time hours (FIL is retired) so I'm hoping she'll be able to come out and stay with us for at least a few days while I'm in the hospital. I want DH to stay with me at the hospital again and DS can have a semi-normal routine with MIL at our house.

DonnaMartinGraduates · November 2010

We don't have a set plan yet but my parents will probably take him while I'm delivering? It will probably be another c/s so that will be easy to plan. After we get home, I'm not sure what's going to happen. I wanted to keep him in daycare at least part-time but I forgot about the whole "no driving" thing and Dh leaves for work before our daycare opens...crap.

laura&dan05 · November 2010

Dd will be with my parents or ILs while I'm in the hospital(I haven't asked either of them yet but I know they'll both offer). DH will stay with me in the hospital. I'm having a repeat c/s so I'll probably be in the hospital for 3 nights. Once we get home dd will be back here with us. DH will be off for 3 weeks so that will be a HUGE help! Once he goes back to work I'm sure my mom and MIL will stop over to help out but I'm a SAHM so both kiddos will be here with me.

MaeTyner · November 2010

He is staying with my mil for a week then my parents will help out if needed. I feel bad when I think about him coming home to a new baby I don't want him to feel replaced.

azzyberry · November 2010

We moved out of state earlier this year so we don't have any family that lives nearby. My parents are going to come up for a few weeks so that they can watch DS while I am in the hospital and then help me once I get home. My in laws are going to come up and stay a few weeks after my parents leave so I'll have about a month of help.

FutureMrsCaesar · November 2010

My parents will be coming up to watch DS here at our house when I go into labor until we come home from the hospital. They live a few hours away but luckily my mom owns her own business and my dad is a teacher so they have pretty flexible schedules. 2-3 days away from Matthew will be hard enough for both of us, I definitely wouldn't have him stay with someone else any longer than I was in the hospital. He doesn't go to daycare or anything so things will be a little hectic once the baby and I come home from the hospital but we have to get used to it sometime! DH should be able to take off a week or so, then work from home part time for a while so that will be helpful.

Proxy · November 2010

We don't have any concrete plans yet either. All of our family is in the area, so depending on the day/time I go into labor, DD will spend the day(s) with one of them.

I don't plan to have DH sleep at the hospital with me, so he'll be home with her in the evenings. Last time, he was so uncomfortable and didn't sleep well and I think at least one of us should be rested. He will hopefully have a week off from work, so DD will be home with us when I come home from the hospital.

I plan to have my mom and grandma on standby in case having 2 at home is just too overwhelming the first week.

jenerally? · November 2010

my mom will watch the boys.

JReeds9 · November 2010

We are having IL's come stay with DD until DS is here. I'm having a repeat C section so we'll know the time and just have them come stay with her when we have to leave. While I'm inpatient she will stay with them at their house. Once I get home DH has 3 weeks paternity leave so she'll stay with us as normal with occasional visits to my mom's and IL's.

*Scuzzlebutt* · November 2010

We moved across the country from our families this year, so my mom is coming here for one month when the baby arrives. We literally have no one here to help us and I am so thankful for her. She'll be coming about a week before my c-section and will be taking care of our daughter when I'm delivering.Then she's staying to help with the baby because DH is going back to work soon after (and also because we miss her and I can't wait to see her again for a long visit!!)

AmberNGIII · November 2010

Yikes! Guess that's something else I need to start thinking about! Not too worried though since both sets of grandparents live close by and will be eager to help.

Iamsmalls · November 2010

We haven't set it up yet but I'll probably have her stay at my moms or the ILs for the night or two I'm in the hospital. Then she'll be home with us. Between DH, myself and the 4 helpful grandparents we should manage just fine.

Mrs.Saxy · November 2010

we haven't talked about this AT ALL. Hopefully DH will take vacation days. I'm sure Grand MIL will offer to help. MIL and Grand MIL will be moving over by us...they live an hour away right now. If they get over here by May I can see them helping a lot.

I'd love to start sending DS to daycare but I'm having some money/work issues right now and can't send him f/t.

Mis+Shapes · November 2010

I have not actually discussed this with my parents, but I am sure that they will be very happy to have DD stay with them while I am in the hospital. I will most likely have a repeat c-section, so she will probably stay with them for at least 5 days.

SpartanGirl · November 2010

When DS was born, my mom was here to watch DD1. She had come out a week before my due date to help.

With DD2 and this baby we have friend lined up to take the kids. With each of the kids after DD1 I was only in the hospital for about 24 hours so it was minimal care needed.

As for after, I would do whatever you feel most comfortable with. I had the kids with me, but I didn't have a csection. My recovery was much, much faster with DS and DD2 than it was with DD1.

~adamwife~ · November 2010

When we had #2 my FIL watched my oldest son while I was in labor and then DH was with him while I recovered. The soonest the hospital would release me was 24 hours after the birth and I was miserable the whole time - missing my son and husband. It's the main reason I am having a homebirth this time. I want to be with my entire family while I am recovering.

DH has 2 days off of work, so one day after I was released from the hospital I was back at home alone with both kids. Both moms were out of town, so I didn't really have options. This time I am hoping DH can take a little more time off, because I'm going to need more help now that there will be 3 of them.

lilone_06 · November 2010

My parents are coming for the birth of this LO... they'll stay with DDs while I'm in the hospital.

buboo · November 2010

MIL & FIL will watch DS, which is convenient since they live 4 houses down from us... and obviously DH.

me&mymonkey · November 2010

I'm having a repeat c/s so we will either drop ds at my parent's the night before or the morning of depending on what time it's scheduled for. My mom is already planning to take that week off of work so ds can stay with her while I'm in the hospital. They only live like 10 mns from the hospital so I have her bring ds over as much as I want.

runner4546 · November 2010

I'm pre-stressing as my parents are 5 hours away. My sister lives 30 miles away and will come out to watch her until my parents can get here, worst case scenario. Hoping I have plenty of notice so it won't be an issue.

me&mymonkey · November 2010

Oh and I forgot to add that dh is not taking off of work while I'm in the hospital (except the day I deliver). He can only get so many days off so I'd rather have him off when I'm home with 2 kids than when I have nurses to help me with the baby and a cafeteria making my food, lol.

tapcat63 · November 2010

My grandma has offered to take the kids while I deliver and am in the hospital. We will pick them up on our way home from the hospital and our routines will go back to 'normal.' I'll be staying home with the kids, DH will go right back to work.

ckolak:-) · November 2010

I think our plan is to have my mom watch him while the baby is being born, since she lives the closest. Once he/she is here, DH will stay home with DS and it will just be me and the wee one until we come home from the hospital.

amberjean · November 2010

DS will probably be staying with my mom while we're in the hospital. DH is saving all his vacation so that we are hoping that he will be able to stay home for at least a week and a half after we get home.

Neudorfer · November 2010

i would be so sad if my oldest went to stay in another house for a week or more after this one is born =( my hubby is taking a week off so he will be home to help, my mom with stay with us for the four days he is back to work before he is off for three again, then my girlfriend is flying in the following weekend to visit the new baby and she will take my toddler out on morning playdates. i am having a csection but i fully plan on being with and around both my daughters. infants sleep a lot- aside from the nursing, the baby wont need much from me except love and holding.

heehee611 · November 2010

I have no idea and I'm stressing out about it! MIL would come watch him in a heartbeat, but she's got dogs and can't leave them home for too long (she's single). If I have the baby during the day, then she'll just need to come over in the evening maybe, and then DH will go home to be with DS. I don't want to throw his schedule off too much and he's never slept over anyone else's house. If I was to go into labor in the middle of the night, or later in the evening, then I have a friend I might be able to ask to come over and stay with him. I'm such a planner and I hate not knowing what to plan for!

As for after I'm home though, DS will be here at home with us. He's in daycare, so he'll continue to go as usual!

Heather & Nayt · November 2010

Our plan is that my mom is going to be coming down the day before we deliver (planned c/s) and she will be staying for the first week or so. Hopefully we won't be in the hospital long, and she will be home with us while I recover. DH is planning on taking the next week off of work, and then when he goes back to work my BFF is planning on flying up, so we should have someone around for the first 3 week, which was the hardest recovery wise for me last time, and the fourth week I am on my own. I really don't want to mess up his schedule anymore then it will already be.

grace_smith03 · November 2010

DH will prolly take a week or two of his vaca time during the birth, and my parents will stay at our house to take care of DD and the dog. The ILs are closer, as is his sister, but...yah. I'll feel better having my mom here for a couple days.

bell0niner · November 2010

flowerchild77:
Even with my vaginal birth, I was told not to drive for 2 weeks. Im planning a homebirth so my dd will be there most likely. I will have someone there appointed as her caretaker while Im in labor. My dh gets a week off of work when the babys born so he can help out during that first time period. Personally, I think a week is kinda long for him to be away. Especially since theres going to be a new baby in the house. Id want him to get acclimated as well instead of feeling like hes been thrown out and replaced.

Unrelated question for you: I see you are nursing DD, so when the baby comes will you completely stop nursing DD and switch to only LO, or will they be sharing for a while??

HockeyWife4Life · November 2010

SIL will come to our house and watch DD while I am in labor. I hope to only be at the hospital for 24 hours and then our lives will resume as normal once we get home.

mommy megan · November 2010

MIL will watch DS during delivery and then bring DS to meet DD. DS will go home with MIL. I plan to have DH go home that night to be with DS. If all goes according to plan DH and DS will come pick me up from the hospital. My family lives close so everyone with be in and out of our house the few days after that. I'd like to get use to us being a family of four pretty quick without tons of people around all the time.

labooshki · November 2010

Either my mom or MIL will take him for a night or two. Not more than that.

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