Does anyone NOT do Santa

Zenya · November 2010

Most people not doing santa wouldn't admit it here. It's a well documented Nest sin. Up there with not sending your kid to preschool or letting your 2 year old drink from a bottle.

Andrewsgal · November 2010

Bottom line is Santa is a personal choice, do I think it is silly to say you can't honor the true meaning of the holiday and still do Santa? Yes.

I think it is totally off to think that because I buy my kids toys (and lots of them) and have a fictional fat man give them to them my kids will grow up as totally bratty.

Here is a shocker we have never and will never go into debt for a holiday, my kids get lots of toys from Santa, but still give more than they recieve this holiday season, and they are in no way wanty or bratty.

AggieCouple · November 2010

rookiemom:
If Christmas is about giving then why can't you give your kids the gift of the magic of Santa?

Agreed. To me, a little fantasy makes childhood... you know... a childhood. I do everything: the Great Pumpkin (who comes early at our house so they can use their Halloween stuff throughout October), The Easter Bunny, Santa, The Man in the Moon (for Lunar New Year), and I definitely plan on the Tooth Fairy. ML loves the idea of magical creatures coming in at nights and leaving presents or decorating the house. She talked constantly about the Great Pumpkin this year, and told everyone that he shops at Target, LOL. Sometimes, when I have time, I'll try to write a little note about their progress through the year ("great job on not wetting your bed!" or "you learned to walk this October, how exciting!", etc), so I can save it for them later and they can see how they changed through the years.

Who cares if we don't get credit? They'll know better when they're older and personally, if it's gratitude you're looking for, I think they'll be grateful for a magic-filled childhood when they're older.

joy143dh · November 2010

We do Santa. We do Santa in a big way. I love the magic of season and the stories and the excitement and the look in DS's eyes when he opens a present from the big man himself. There is no reason that I have seen here or otherwise that would ever make me deny that to my child.

But if you are looking for advice on what to tell your child, just tell them that OTHER families like to have fun and embrace imagination and sometimes even be silly. And when other children talk about Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, imaginary friends, your children should be polite and not ruin the other children's fun.

Julie004 · November 2010

Andrewsgal:
MrsSR:

Well, my husband and I are very religious. I don't like how Christmas has become about what you got and not what you give.

DH and I plan on telling LO that Santa Claus is a character based off of a saint who lived long ago and gave his wealth to the needy. That Christmas and Santa are about the spirit of giving. I don't like the idea of teaching her that some man in a red suit comes into your home when you are sleeping to leave gifts. I don't want DD to be one of those kids who can recognize Santa but not Jesus (or what we think Jesus looked like).

This post gets better and better. Here is a shocker, my DD who is 4 knows that Christmas is a holiday to celebrate the birth of Jesus, she knows why we celebrate it, and the main religious point of it, but we also do Santa. We are strong Christians and firmly believe in teaching our children the true meaning of any holiday that does not mean that we have to take the fun out of the holiday itself. We can still celebrate the magic of Santa and the Easter while instilling the importance of these holidays in the Christian religion. I will never understand those who don't think they can do both?

You took the words right out of my mouth. Completely agree.

AggieCouple · November 2010

juniper19:

Well said! I can't understand why everyone's jumping down OP's throat.

I don't think it's the OP people are responding to, although admittedly, it wasn't great for us to hijack her post.

eclaires · November 2010

Halo79RN:
eclaires:
juniper19:
Halo79RN:
I think many of you are taking this post the wrong way.
who cares what this person chooses for her family? she's not passing judgement on you for choosing to do the whole Santa thing. I read these replies and it's one after another passing judgement on how wrong she is for not giving her child this magic that must only come from pretending Santa exists. That's just wrong, people.
not everyone does the Santa thing... not everyone celebrates Christmas... some for religious reasons, others not. Who cares? She's asking how to reply to questions from her child so that her child doesn't spoil things for families like yours. how about help? She could be one of those people who just tells her child that you are flat out wrong and lying to your child... but that's not what she wants. anyone with a constructive answer?
anyone?
Well said! I can't understand why everyone's jumping down OP's throat.
Personally, I wasn't going to respond to this post because I have no advice, but I couldn't resist after the Santa makes kids entitled and people go into debt post. Sometimes threads get hijacked by a post w/in. It happens.
I couldn't care less if people celebrate Santa or not - I just happen to disagree that somehow SANTA makes kids entitled. Pretty sure that even w/out Santa, kids will be entitled if their parents parent in a way that is conducive to that sort of attitude. It has nothing to do with the fat guy.
that post by jlewis was far below a number of what's wrong with giving your children the magic posts.... the op explained, from what I understand, that they prefer it be about Jesus, not Santa. I don't see what's so wrong about that. we blend the two in my house... I know people who are christian who don't even celebrate christmas b/c the date and many of the traditions are tied to a pagan holiday. that's their decision. I understand that posts get hijacked.. but there were plenty of nasty posts prior to the spoiled rotten we were poor post by jlewis (or whatever that person's sn was).

Actually, jlewis's first post which spawned a few other posts was the 2nd post on this thread and was sandwiched between some helpful advice posts. Then she clarified a few later, and it wasn't any better.

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