Disgusted.

heatherb_yo · October 2010

shaysmom05:
buboo:
shaysmom05:
tanny76:

Good for you OP -

It is against the law here and I remember when the law passed thinking how sad it is that the government has to do something to enforce this and that people aren't responsible enough about their children's health to be able to make this decision for themselves.

I know as a former smoker that people's opinions about my habit actually did leave an impression on me and make me feel, at times, embarrased about it.

Hopefully if enough people look at these parents like the idiots that they are it just might have an impact. If not, hopefully a law does pass in your area and their sad azzes can get fined.

Thank you for calling people idiots and sad. Especially when they probably DO feel bad for their decisions.

Let me ask you a question. Since I am a smoker, and I am trying to quit (It's just taking a while to wean off since there's NO safe medications to take while pregnant to quit.), am I a sad idiot of a parent? My daughter is 100% healthy, happy, does well in school, respects others, and KNOWS that smoking is bad. She sees that it's hard for us and is learning from our mistakes. So, am I a horrible parent?

Sorry but you said you do sometimes smoke in the car with your young daughter plus while you are pregnant. Those two things don't exactly earn you a 'parent of the year' award in my eyes. I know its hard to quit but you ARE putting it all out there for others to judge your behavior.

Yes I do sometimes smoke with my daughter in the car. Yes I am pregnant. Am I asking for "parent of the year"? No.

My point in this is that just because a parent smokes, whether it be in front of their child or not, it doesn't mean that they are horrible parents that deserve to be chastisized (sp) by society. That's why I put my stuff out there.

Everyone has a story. You never know what someone may be battling with. I say let people deal with their issues. That child may have been a happy, healthy child with no problems.

Does your child have the ability to get out of the car and away from the smoke? No. She is dealing with what you are subjecting her to. She may grow up to be a healthy child. Happy has nothing to do with this conversation. She may end up having a myriad of issues related to YOU smoking around her.

I'm sure that you don't "want" her to have issues in the future, but my question is why you wouldn't want to shield her from everything you can. This would include pulling over when you need to smoke a cig. or waiting til you get home.(That is if you don't also smoke inside the house)

I'm not saying that you should quit altogether, although you being pregnant and smoking is a very similar issue that I won't go into now. I'm just saying that as a parent I want the best for MY child. Therefore if this includes me "suffering" with the need to smoke for a few more minutes then you are damn right I will suffer.

I know how hard it is to quit and I went through making excuses for a VERY long time before I became pregnant. Then the guilt that I felt every time I thought about smoking or did smoke for those first couple of days was enough to gross me out from it. That's not to say that I don't walk by someone and think, God, I really want a cigarette, but I think of my defenseless son in my womb and Skids while driving in the car. It's really not as difficult as you and I both think/thought. It's getting through those first 2 days and realizing it's all in your head after that.

alaflam1@mac.com · October 2010

F&%$ appropriate when you have the power to stop child abuse.

Seriously, I think that behavior would get CPS involved. It's a HORRIBLE way to treat a baby! People that stupid and cruel should not reproduce.

RJHarmon · November 2010

Jennis22:
shaysmom05:

Thank you for calling people idiots and sad. Especially when they probably DO feel bad for their decisions.

Let me ask you a question. Since I am a smoker, and I am trying to quit (It's just taking a while to wean off since there's NO safe medications to take while pregnant to quit.), am I a sad idiot of a parent? My daughter is 100% healthy, happy, does well in school, respects others, and KNOWS that smoking is bad. She sees that it's hard for us and is learning from our mistakes. So, am I a horrible parent?

Wait, you're pregnant and smoking? Then yes, you are a sad idiot.

And please don't b!tch about how hard it is to quit. I quit the day I found out I was pregnant. I also have zero sympathy for anyone who continues to smoke while pregnant or while near a child.

I also hate when people say "I'm trying to quit." You're either actively smoking or you're not. If you have a pack of cigarettes in your purse/house/car then you are not trying hard enough. Throw them all out and don't allow yourself to buy more.

It's time to step up and do something healthy for your child, your unborn child, AND yourself.

Yes x1000

heylee · November 2010

I don't think she cared how she looked, the people with smoke in their child's face looked even worse! I'm sorry but if your habit is that bad you can't pull over to smoke then you should get some help. My husband smokes, never smokes in the house OR in the car ever. It's bad enough hurting yourself but second hand smoke hurts others. It's really inconsiderate.

Bluescarf · November 2010

shaysmom05:

Bluescarf:
I agree with pp poster that it can make you look a little crazy but....I think it is her business if someone is harming their child. If I saw a parent harming their child I wouldn't just say to myself that its their child and thier business. That is an innocent child, and honestly someone deserves disgusting looks IMO when they are intentionally hurting their child's health.

There IS a difference, however, in beating and abusing a child and smoking in front of or around them. If you were to call CPS or something like that, all you would do is cause yourself more frustration and nothing would come of it.

I think it's great that some states are passing laws for not smoking in the vehicles with minors. (Even though it would be hard for me.) I think it's great that there's more non smoking places than smoking. I don't mind going outside for it. My main issue is that people giving dirty looks and yelling at you for your bad habits is like beating a dead horse. KWIM?

ETA: Smoking is a habit. A bad one. Changing a habit takes more than just the decision to do it. It takes alot of will power and support. It's a complete change of lifestyle. Sometimes all you can do is make little strides. One step at a time.

So are you saying that if something isn't illegal, or CPS wouldn't get involved, that it means it isn't wrong and should be ignored? There was a time when noone would get involved even if a child WAS being beaten, etc. Thankfully that has changed and I think this should too.

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