I don't normally post, much less on this board, but DH just got a promotion... Yay! With that comes a conveniently timed training period out of state in which he will miss the birth.... I am so bummed, we do not know that many people in the area, and I am thinking I will have to go stay with my mother which means I will have to change doctors b/c she lives 4 hours away, I really do not want to go through this alone....anyone else in this boat? How are you preparing for it?
TTC #2 since 8/2012
Me:28 H:34
Me: all tests normal!
H: Azoospermia (Sperm count zero).
MFI Urologist all test normal.
Biopsy Feb. 14
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Re: Ugh....
9/26/10 stopped BCP and started TTC.
9/2011 referred to RE. All blood work normal and DH's SA=normal results
11/2011 HSG=both tubes clear
One natural (monitored) cycle of Clomid, 50mg 2/2012= BFN
Getting ready for first IUI, 3/2012 received orders to Japan! (postponed IUI)
5/2012 Moved to Japan, fought Tricare for months over referral (no fertility treatment on our military base) for Japanese RE out in town!
8/2012 Started seeing new RE
9/2012, post coital test= hostile cervical fluid, (finally) moving on with first IUI!
9/29/2012 IUI #1+trigger= BFN
10/27/2012 IUI #2+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger= BFN
11/28/2012 IUI #3+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger= BFN
12/28/2012 IUI#4+100mg Clomid CD5-9+trigger=BFN
2/1/2013 IUI#5+injectables+trigger=BFN
3/2013 IUI#6+injectables+trigger=???
My DH will be deploying a few months before I am due. We are just acting like this is nothing out of the normal and I am trying my best not to think about it, because that usually starts the waterworks. We are going to try to set up skype in the room if DH will somehow be able to be notified and get to a computer. This is our first deployment so I really don't know how all of that works. I am lucky enough to live within 10 minutes of my mother, but there's no way all her love and support will make up for DH not being there for the birth of our first child. But I just try to remember that I am not the first wife to go through this and certainly won't be the last. And at least I have a husband who I am madly in love with.
And I'm sorry you'll have to deal with DH not being there, too.
We found out DH was deploying just a few weeks after I got pregnant with our second. We knew it was a possibility, but the reality was something I don't think either of us was fully prepared for. He left when I was 5 months pregnant and will return when the baby is 6-7 months old. Those of us in this situation deal with it because we don't have any other choice.
Being honest, what keeps me positive when I'm tempted to feel down about the situation is knowing that the things he's missing will be outweighed 100 fold by all of the things he'll be here for after he gets home. This baby will have no memory of him not being around, and when he gets old enough to put two and two together and realize that we don't have baby pictures of him with his daddy like we do of his brother, he'll also probably be old enough to understand the reason why DH wasn't around for the first few months of his life.
That said, in your situation I would see if your mom could come down to your current location instead of having you move closer to her. If your husband's training isn't going to last long (less than a month) it would seem to make more sense for her to come to you rather than to force you to switch doctors and hospitals so late in the game.