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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY
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Absolutely, totally and completely agree.
Yes!! I am so with you on that one! Especially after I lived in Asia for 5 years; shoes in a house is just gross and odd. (Plus with my boys' allergy issues, shoes in the house are an even bigger problem.)
ITA. Especially since 12-18 months is prime separation anxiety stage. How is it good for your baby to not see his mom that long? I don't understand why you'd even want to, they are only so little for such a short time.
The only argument I could see (and it's a stretch) is that it's good for you to get away and then it's good for your child when a well rested mom comes home.
I went away for 3 days for my best friend's bachelorette. I wouldn't say that was good for J. It wasn't bad for J. It was good for me and for that friendship. It was good for B to feel like he was completely capable of taking care of J without me there. But I don't know that it was "good" for J. I'd go with more "not harmful".
I think it's fine to leave them. I haven't yet but only because the opportunity didn't come up. But if me and dh could go on a vacation just the 2 of us, I think that it's fine to leave dd with my parents. Of course I'd miss her insanely and she'd miss me, but I don't think other moms should be made to feel inferior just because they'd make the decision to leave their lo for a period of time.
I've left my girls for a couple weekends this summer for out of town weddings. I can say that I think it was good for all of us. It was good for DH and I to have time for ourselves. My girls stay the weekend with my aunt and cousins. They get so much attention and playtime, I'll say that yeah, it is good for them.
I just don't think leaving your child for a weekend here or there is the end of the world, especially if it gives you a little time with your husband.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
Totally agree with this...
Ummm, if you ever have been to an East Indian Hindu wedding..no one wears shoes/sandals..it is a mark of respect.
One way to deal with separation anxiety is to leave your LO for short periods of time so they start to realize that they can be OK without you there, that sometimes Mommy goes away for a little while but she always comes back. You can gradually increase the amount of time as they become OK with it. I once babysat for a 15-month-old whose mom had NEVER been apart from him, and it was horrible; the poor baby screamed all evening because he hadn't experienced this before and had no way of realizing that Mommy would come back.
Obviously you can take that too far, but it's an important lesson for them to learn.
I guess my UO would be that I see nothing wrong with being away from LO for some time and I think it is a little weird that you wouldn't want time alone with DH for a vacation. I get the whole BFing argument to a point - you can still pump while you are away right? I had to while at work...
We are taking an all inclusive in Mexico in November, and my parents and DH's parents are splitting the week up and coming to stay with DS. They are so excited about it, and I know DS will love spending time with them. I will miss him like crazy, but I don't feel bad about going.
Leaving for a weekend. The POST was a week ago.
This exactly. We are going to Mexico in December and leaving DS with his grandparents too. DH & I are so excited to spend time alone & reconnect!! But, on the other hand we will miss DS but, know that he will be in good hands and having fun too.
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No I have not. If I ever do get the chance to attend an East Indian Hindu wedding my opinions may change.
With this opinion I can only go by what I have witnessed first hand at functions that I have attended. Where usually dancing and drinking an alcoholic beverage go hand in hand. Which many times result in spilled beverages and or the occasional broken glass. Not very sanitary or safe in my humble opnion.
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We're going to Las Vegas for 4 nights in February. DH and I need it desperately. We have zero alone time and have drifted apart since the boys were born. We had so much trouble getting pregnant, than the worry and concern of a multiples pregnancy, now raising twin toddlers. There is a TON of stress in our marriage. We need to get away alone for a few days to reconnect as as husband and wife. Now, the boys will be about 21 months when we go and I probably couldn't have done it before then, but my parents are going to keep them and I'm comfortable with that. I think it's better for us to get away and reconnect than to keep distancing from each other and end up divorced. That's certainly not better for the boys than just leaving them for a few days.
I'm still going to miss them SO much though!
We get Ohio, Kentucky, and Indiana. Ugh! I can only vote in one of those states. Really don't need to know about the others, thank you very much!
I went away for girls' weekend and it was amazing. I came back refreshed, energized and ready to see my family. I think it was great for my H and J to spend time together, just the two of them. I certainly don't think I harmed my child in any way, in fact I truly believe that he benefited from the arrangement.
Please explain why you don't think it's good for your toddler to be away from you? Aside for the BFing debate.
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I agree with this. MAYBE a weekend, if your kid knows his/her grandparents really well and is comfortable with them, and that's who you're leaving them with. Or if they're staying at home with your DH to give them daddy/kid one-on-one bonding time, I think it could be fine. If they're BF, pumping is an option (assuming they take a bottle--mine won't).
But I would never leave my DS for a week. Ever. He's a baby. MAYBE when he's like 10, and he's spending a week at summer camp, but until then, I don't think so. A night? Sure (not now, but when he finally STTN). A week? Hell to the No.
My original post was about a girls weekend.
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This, I can understand. Hope your transitions go well!
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I mean you gotta do what your comfortable with of course, but you're telling me if you and your dh had a chance to take a vacation when your ds was 4 you would pass up that opportunity?
We wouldn't go without him. We'd take a Disney cruise with kid's club where we could leave him a few hours each day and have alone time. But it's just NMS to take a vacation without my child when he's that young. A B&B weekend, sure. But not a week.
Did I miss you answering my question?
Besides BF (he doesn't drink cow's milk nor did he ever take a bottle), we co-sleep. I don't think I need to explain why that would be an issue for me not to be there.
And honestly, at this point in my life, if I'm going to go somewhere, I'm going to bring my kid. I'm old, I've traveled plenty on my own. DH feels the same way. I mean, hell, he traveled to another province for business this week and DS and I tagged along with him. We want to be together as a family. To us that is what makes us the happiest and healthiest. Might I feel differently when DS is much older? Maybe. But for now I just don't get wanting to be away from your LO.
Also, FWIW, my mom never left me when I was little. EVER. If she traveled she took me with her and I am perfectly confident and independent. It didn't harm me in the least.
I both love this time of year and also hate it. I love the smells and colors of the fall time but it is Halloween I have a problem with. Now it isn't the holiday, I love dressing up, trick or treating, getting candy and a few scary things like spiders, ghosts and heck even graves can be fun. I just hate all hte gore and horror. I hate all the blood and mutilated body parts and all the disturbing images. We went into a halloween store to get some items for DD's Dorothy outfit and it was just gross. I knew that there was going to be a lot of gore and horror since, you know, it is a Halloween store, that is what they do. But I was actually suprised how many disturbing decorations they had that had children and babies. Children wrapped in straight jackets, zombie babies, babies with fangs and blood dripping off of their lips.
It just seems that Halloween has taken such a disturbing turn since I was a kid. They used to scare you with witches and ghosts and now it is just to see who can come up with the most hideous nightmarish scenes possible. I know a lot of people love Halloween and I really do think it can be a fun holiday. I also understand a lot of people like being scared, but the last few years it seems it has been taken to a whole level from scary to terrifying.
I am also a self prophesed prude when it comes to stuff like this. I have never been to a haunted house and I really don't like horror films. The few I have seen still give me nightmares.
My UO is that if your dog bites your child, it is perfectly reasonable to find another home for the dog without young children! I am not saying drop him off at the local pound, but spending some time to place him in a more appropriate home is perfectly fine with me.
My other UO is that I don't really get treating dogs like people. Dogs are dogs. I love my dogs, but they are dogs!
Yes I would pass it up.
I guess my UO is that why get a dog if you just think of it as "just a dog". Then why even bother getting one? Dogs (and family pets in general) are meant to be part of the family, isn't that why most people get one.
I agree with you wholeheartedly. So what I'm saying is, perhaps think things through in terms of planning your life? DH and I are getting a dog, but it will be when we have a house with a yard and insulated dog house for him to stay in during the day when we're out. We are also waiting until we are done having kids, so the dog doesn't freak out because all of a sudden they aren't number one anymore. Our dog will have NEVER been number one, so they won't have to challenge the kids' authority or bite them.
I also fall firmly outside of the "dogs are people,too" camp. I still think they deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion.
As would I. But that's just us.
There's no way I would ever leave LO for a day or longer. I SAH and she has never been without me. I'm not comfortable being without her either. DH and I travel with her, we would never leave her behind.
Gross and just weird. It's like you're going somewhere, but you're not.
Never, as in you have never left LO for an hour or two for shopping or haircut, etc? Not being snarky, seriously curious
Never, as in you have never left LO for an hour or two for shopping or haircut, etc? Not being snarky, seriously curious