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Two Under 2
Two under 2: best & worst things?
The idea of having two under 2 at turns both thrills and terrifies DH & I.
What are the best and worst things about having two babies so close together? TIA! 
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Re: Two under 2: best & worst things?
Best: we are already in "baby" mode so number two wasn't much of a transition. We are doing diapers/cribs/no sleep all at once! I can't imagine how hard it would be to go from an independent five year old to a newborn. Also, watching them interact is ADORABLE.
Worst: ZERO time for myself. Getting them to nap together is the Holy Grail of two under two. It just doesn't happen. I also work full time so very rarely get a moment alone. Keeping up with the housekeeping/errands etc. is nearly impossible.
I have 2u1 so mine might be a little different....or intense, I guess, lol.
Best: Seeing DD "interact" with DS (he isn't at the point of responding yet, of course). She adores him. I can't wait for them to grow up together.
Worst: Lack of sleep. In the long run, this won't be an issue, but right now it's killing me.
Best:
1. They're BEST buds. They're in the same "stage" at the same time so they're into all the same things.
2. You're a more confident mother the 2nd time around and it was so recent that I hadn't forgotten what it was like.
Worst:
1. Pregnancy with a toddler to tote around and chase after who doesn't always respond to voice commands.
2. Sleep deprivation with a newborn and a child in the terrible 2's while your patience is stretched thin due to lack of sleep.
3. (won't apply to all) - Potty training with a new born in tow that you dont' want to leave alone while you run to the bathroom on a regular basis.
I think you'll notice that all of my "worsts" are VERY short lived issues (a few weeks to less than a year).
The +'s by far out weight the -'s.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
My son is 1 year 3months , my daughter is 9 weeks old
Positives,
He is such a good big bro he likes to help feed her and sings (even though I don't understand what song it is) when she cries always giving her kisses they have a great dynamic which was one of my biggest worries when I was pregnant
we were already in babymode so it wasn't too hard to go back to nighttime feeds and pampers
she is already tryin to do everything he does so I hope that means they will be out of pampers the same time
Downside
LACK OF SLEEP
Alone time with each other is nonexistent ALWAYS ON DUTY
Biggest upside if you plan to not have anymore like we are once this baby phase is over you never have to do it again
My babies are 10 months and one day apart.
The good things- Still in baby mode, so alot of stuff you bought for #1 you can use for #2. They like alot of the same things such as food, toys, elmo, games, so you can please both at the same time:) They always have someone to play with. My favorite is they cant go places without eachother. If DS is in the car and DD is not, he throws a fit! he loves his sissy so much!
The bad- Lack of sleep, them not napping at the same time, you get no alone time untill they go to bed, and people always asking me"are they twins". They fight alot, but that comes down to them not wanting to share.
In the end I love it and im so glad this happened. Like PP said about having an indep. child, and going back to baby mode would be tough!