My oh my... what the he*l happened to me?? Not too long ago I used to wake up in the morning, run a few miles, take a steamy shower, curl my hair, put make up on, toss on a cute outfit and tie it off with some cute accessories. I also used to come home from work, play with DD, help with homework, clean house, pay bills and then spend time with DH.........
NOT the story for the past few weeks!!
Now I crawl outta bed, tell DD to make her own breakfast, throw on my hubby's T- shirts and running shorts (though I haven't ran in like 4 weeks!). I now shower every other day... hair LOLOL!!! Slicked back with hair tyes and bobby pins to help it keep out of my face when I puke. After DD comes home from school, I let her watch tv as I sleep on the couch, dinner is usually hubby made or something I tossed from the freezer into the microwave and I haven't touched so much as mascara in weeks! Laundry is piled high in my room, the kitchen needs a good scrubbing and we almost always have an army of flies buzzing around a mountain of dishes in the sink!! DH complains that I'm not my normal self... and quite frankly... NO fun.
Will it always be this way?!? When will I get myself together again? ANYONE experiencing this too??? Hopefully??
Re: I really used to be pretty!! I swear! <rant>
Give it a few weeks. It gets better.
I went through that where no matter what I felt frumpy and my makeup was nonexistent ten minutes after I put it on. This week my hair is returning to glossy and more manageable. My makeup is staying on (though my nose is oilier than norm) and I'm feeling more like me again.
i'm with you! my poor husband said the other day 'you used to be girly'. i know he didn't mean it as an insult, although it of course made me upset. then again he tells me this as i'm wearing one of his tshirts and his shorts and i was stretched out in my chair because i felt bloated oh and my eyebrows haven't been waxed in a month. so, he had a point.
luckily, though, for the first time in eight LONG weeks, i felt really good yesterday. i know that i'm prone to good days followed by bad, but yesterday felt a little different.... so all my fingers are crossed that the trend continues and i re-enter the land of the living!
I hear you! I've only cooked twice since I got my BFP, the smells repulse me. I haven't done any real cleaning in about a month. My clothes don't fit me right and I am hating the way I feel at times.
I keep telling myself it will get better....
I'm going through the same thing. Have scheduled hair appt for next week in hopes that it will make me feel like a hot momma again. I think it's the little things that bring you back to yourself.
I'm also getting a few pimples right out front on my face. This is the worst! Guess I'll have to stop being so lazy and do more than slap water on my face before I go to bed.
Oh how this all sounds so familiar. I am 32 1/2 weeks pregnant. Those of you who say it gets better, I don't know who your kidding. Yes I will agree some days are better than others. Overall you never feel like yourself until about six weeks after delivery. Even then there are still some things out of whack.
This is my second pregnancy and let me tell you I HATE being pregnant. My best advice is just hang in there. When your not resting keep yourself very busy. I love to use the excuse "I'm pregnant". So when your not feeling up to being pretty... Its okay. How many times in our lives do we get away with these things?? I say "lets take advantage"!!
It amazes me that the human race has survived this long with what us women endure during pregnancy!! I've been in exactly your place! I'm 28 weeks and 5 days and I must say that I never experienced the "honeymoon" phase of the 2nd trimester...in fact now beginning my 3rd trimester I can say this one is the best (for now at least:). I was vomitting and nauseaus for about 5 months and even after the vomitting ended after about 4 months the nausea didn't for me until after 5 or so. I had a major acne breakout, didn't cook, clean, shower everyday, or do much of anything either! My husband (poor guy) took over everything for me until I started feeling better.
The good thing is...IT DOES END!!! It will get better. For me it was a very gradual thing but what helped was to force myself to do little things for myself like go for a walk or take a shower!! Hang in there and things will turn around!
HA! You hit home with this one! I felt like that all through my pregnancy and am still feeling it 14 weeks post-partum. The crazy thing is how up and down it is. Some days I would/do feel like a hottie and some days I wondered how my poor DH would want to have sex with me! It was totally random. Lately for me, the thing that helps me look and feel the best is sleep. I know that's pretty hard to come by, but I've been making sure I get enough even if it's broken up into chunks.
Anyway, hang in there.
i'm with ya too - only I'm at 19 weeks and still pukey broken out worse than anytime in my life, bloated, and my hair looks like crap. My roots are insane and I had to cut it all off once I got pregnant because my hair was so frizzy it turned into giant rats nests
Everyone keeps saying it'll get better and i'm praying, but i'm just happy to see my US' with my little one wiggling around in there.
It gets better the second and third trimester. Then you will feel like a rock star when you have that cute little bump. However, it all back to sh@t again after baby, when you learn how to survive as a new mother.?
My baby is nine weeks old. I am just back to work--- an excuse to wash my hair (!)
But I tell you, it's ALL WORTH IT!
Shell
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I had the all day sickness for four months, I threw up everything, but dry cheerios and diet 7-Up, so I definitely know how you feel. Every pregnancy is different, but around month five it started to get better for me. I have aunts that were sick for their entire pregnancy. When you aren't feeling well, it is about your comfort. Sometimes I found that a hot shower and getting my teeth brushed good would help me feel a little better. I hope things get better for you soon!
Don't worry, everything you are feeling is totally normal! Your body is telling you that you need rest, since every ounce of your being is now going to creating someone else. I was they same way. I would get home from work and practically pass out on the couch mid-sentence, completely incompacitated. And I am use to pushing through exhaustion as a physician that takes overnight call. My DH was so sweet, making dinner and helping around the house. You may want to explain to him this is the usual and you have no control over it...but it's temporary. And this will be when you need his support and love the most (not his telling you that you are no fun!).
It will probably be noticeably better around 16 weeks, but until you start feeling more energy, don't push yourself.
Now would be a good time to spoil yourself a little by having a maid come in at least one time to clean and tidy up for you (I know it's REALLY hard for me to relax when I feel there is so much to do) or enlist a friend to help. You may also want to plan naps into your time on the weekends b/c you will find that you can no longer shop for hours at a time or stay up late. Consider playdates for DD to help keep her entertained and call the parents or in-laws for a little weekend help once or twice until you are back on your feet.
Good luck and feel better soon!
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During my entire first trimester and into my second, I felt so awful. I've never been so sick. I didn't throw up, but literally had morning sickness from the minute I woke up until the minute I went to bed at night. During that time, I stopped putting makeup and cute clothes on, and made very little effort to appear feminine. My skin broke out, I was EXHAUSTED, I didn't want to be touched, didn't want to move for fear I'd barf at any second, and didn't even want to speak. DH and I stopped going out, and while he tried to be understanding, I knew it totally sucked for him that I didn't want to look sexy or be romantic. Everything smelled like crap: I made him change his body wash and deodorant and I think I hid his cologne at some point. So he didn't get to be "sexy" either. lol If something was cleaned, it was because he did it. Cooking... yeah, okay. Either we ordered in or I ate soup. I went through a major identity crisis when all of this started; I have never felt so ugly in my life. "Pregnancy glow"? What a joke. When I was pregnant with my first son, I felt attractive and adorable... I have no idea what happened this time.
I'm seven months along now, and besides feeling a bit achy, tired and somewhat stretched out in every capacity, I feel so much better. I put some makeup and perfume on when we go out, bought some baby-bump flattering MM clothing (It helps that now that you can actually tell I'm pregnant and not just "full"), and I actually have "cute days", despite the constant "are you sure you're not having twins" comments. It's amazing. I like DH a lot more now: even though he was wonderful when I felt like crap, I usually wanted to kick him in the crotch every time he came near me. Now I feel loving and want him to smell nice again. I can cook dinner and play with our dog without gagging, and have been informed that I'm much more pleasant to be around. lol
So yes. All that to say, it gets better. Creating a little person takes so much out of us... don't feel bad for feeling bad. Here's to hoping you feel better soon.
This is my first time (and I'm almost 11 weeks). Everyone keeps telling me it will be better. Today I was showing my poetry writing students YouTube videos of poets giving readings. I showed them one of my poetry readings, and after class, one student said, "That was awesome. That video where the lady was reading your poem!" Ummm... That lady was ME just with a different haircut, wearing more make up, and a hot red and black dress.
I'm still dressing cute and trying to do make-up, etc. But I've put on a little weight already--maybe 8 pounds--but I'm only 5'1", and I feel like a different person :-(
I do feel way better than I did just a few weeks ago, but I totally hear you.
Hugs, hugs, hugs.
Shaindel
Mac and cheese lover!
Oh...I remember those days. I would call my DH crying almost everyday because I was so miserable. It DOES get better. I know that hearing someone say that doesn't help much, but trust me! You will be back and feeling like your usual self soon.
I finally talked to my doctor when I got to the point of being totally overwhelmed. She told me I could take a B6 vitamin and half of a Unisom sleep tablet when I went to bed. It would help with the morning sickness and the general nausea that was plaguing my entire day. It was a life saver for me. Within a few days I was back to feeling like myself, with only a few bouts of morning sickness here and there rather then 24/7. Check with your doctor to make sure it's recommended for you, but it may be some relief for you.
Good luck!