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how would you deal w/toddler running into street?

roaringrockroaringrock
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my biggest fear!

ginny is in a phase now where she likes to laugh at me and do the complete opposite of what I ask. if I say "come over here please," she bolts the other way giggling. luckily we live on a private road with no traffic but this is not always the case.

we reserve time-outs for occasions when she capable of harming herself or someone else. but this idea of possibly running into traffic... I don't know. how do you communicate the severity and make the child understand the danger? ideas?

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Re: how would you deal w/toddler running into street?

  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    I try really hard to not put us/her in a situation like that to begin with. That being said, I play on her guilt. lol. She's a sensitive creature (much like her dad) and if she knows she "made me sad" or in this case "Oh No, that makes momma REALLY SCARED. I worry you might get hurt by a car!" she tends to really process that better than "no. don't do that."

    We process it at the time of the event, and then an hour or so later, when it's quieter. We reflect, and recap what she did, and why it's scary/wrong/dangerous.

    I'll admit she didn't necessarily GET THAT a year ago, but it's how we've done it, and she GETS it now. She'll verbalize it back when she sees other kids crossing the road, etc.

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  • schmoodleschmoodle member
    imageDavezWife:

    I try really hard to not put us/her in a situation like that to begin with.

    This, although Toodle is much younger. We generally play in the back yard, and if we're at a park near the street, I follow him all over and redirect if he goes a direction I don't like. I imagine it gets much harder as they get older and stronger willed though (and I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong by being in the situation, just that I'm lazy and don't do things where I'll have to keep chasing or redirecting too much).

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  • Mrs.ReemMrs.Reem

    I have a hard time with "stop" in general. It's like I'm not even talking. 

    As a result, Katen and I play a lot of "red light, green light." The ONLY thing that makes her stop is if I yell red light.

    Howleyshell teaches her kids freeze, which I think is pretty cool but my kid couldn't care less if you yell freeze. She's not into that game.  lol!  

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  • JillRock96JillRock96 member
    We also teach Ava "FREEZE!"  We only use that word when we need her to stop quick, and she is praised greatly when she does it.  We also reserve time-outs for either overt aggression (really, just the rare hitting episode) or safety issues, so we might try a time-out for running in the street.  I usually also use a natural consequence -- if Ava can't listen when we're playing in the front yard, then we can only play in the backyard where she is fenced in, and she must hold my hand (or be carried) to and from the car.
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