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1st Trimester
Worst reactions when you shared the news.
My boss said
"You know babies are expensive nowadays. I had six kids, but in this economy I would reconsider having more than one."
A friend said
"Congratulations, I think. You were planning this one, weren't you?"
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Re: Worst reactions when you shared the news.
I have gotten that one a couple times!
"Another one???!!"
Yes. I kid you not
My mother-in-law was horrible. She went white and said, "I'm going to have to let this sink in." (which was ok) A minute later..."This is just really scary. This is so scary. But I guess you can't always plan these things. I have to go smoke."
My DH and I have been married for a year, are 26, and after we bought our house we even left a room open and ready to be a nursery. We were TTC when we got pregnant. Can't plan these things my a**
I sat right down and cried for 20 minutes.
We called my husband's dad to share the news, all excited, and as soon as we told him how far along I was he said, "I thought D__ was out of town then". He was dead serious.
o wow. I wouldnt know what to say to that.
My mom said "I hope you are done after this".
She is really excited for us, and loves both of my girls. But she has on numerous occasions told me that 2 is enough. This coming from the mother of 3!!
When I told my dad about my first he said, "but I'm not ready to be a grandfather!"
Um, thanks douche. Didn't realize it had anything to do with YOU.
My school advisor said something similar when I showed him the u/s pic, he was like "I see that and all I see is how much that little thing is gonna cost." I replied with, "Oh Dr. P you are such a romantic"
My brother's comments hands down wins the prize for stupidity!! DH and I had not shared the news with many, as I had miscarried mother?s day weekend. So, when I told my older brother that we were expecting, his words were, ?WHAT?!? Again?!? You had a miscarriage a few months ago!? I think his reaction was due to his desire to move in with us so I can support him.
When we told a good friend of ours she cried- and not happy tears. She has been trying to get pregnant with PCOS for a long time and was just really sad and frustrated that yet another friend got pregnant. I can't blame her, I would have had the same reaction probably, I just felt so bad about the whole thing.
When I told my husband, I literally watched the color drain from his face and he didn't want to believe it. This was a total shock and he took it a little hard in those first few minutes. He did manage to walk over and give me a kiss though
He's doing much better these days!
DD2: February 2014
There's a tie.
One- A woman at work who is really rude and annoying said, "I'm sorry, but I just find it so hard to feel happy when someone tells me she's pregnant. I mean... so much will... I mean could go wrong." Thanks, b*tch.
Two- I was out with some friends and no one there knew I was pregnant besides DH. While there, we found out that some friends of ours who've been married about a year are expecting in April (exactly one week before me- which is awesome). Everyone awwwed and DH and I looked at each other knowing we were going to tell our families the next day. The our friend (who was a groomsman in our wedding) started going off about the pregnancy news. He honestly said, "Why do I have to be so excited just because they want to ruin their lives?" When everyone looked at him like he was nut, he said, "Well, I guess it's just that I'm not there. I mean, I don't want to have kids, maybe ever. So I just think anyone doing it is stupid." It was amazing how quickly he made there good news all about him. He found out that we're pregnant a few days later and wrote me this email that he was sooooo happy for us; he's just not that close to our other friends. What BS.
We made the announcement last weekend at a family bbq at our house. First, DH & I wanted to tell my parents because this will be their first grandchild, and my dad has been talking about how much he can't wait for a grandbaby for years. (This will be MIL & StepFIL's 12th grandchild, and FIL's 4th, and eventhough they all get along fabulously, theres a little tension when it comes to one knowing big news before the other so we wanted to tell them at the same time).
So after we told my parents, we had everyone come outside and made the announcement. My father in law says "I've been here since 8 am (btw entirely too early, the bbq didn't start until 12 and we had asked him not to come so early but he insisted..) you should have told me first!" We just sort of brushed it off, and went about celebrating with everyone. Then throughout the day he proceeded to get very drunk, and kept saying "I was here all day, they should have told me first" to anyone who would sit next to him. DH & I were more than annoyed. Maybe we were wrong and should have pulled him aside to tell him individually, but we didn't. Too late to change it now. And we were really upset that he kept trying to make the announcement about him, rather than about us and our baby. He left Sunday morning before we all woke up (no goodbye, no note, not even a phonecall since) so we don't even know if he's still angry. I guess DH & I are crazy, but we really didn't expect our good news to go over this way, and we're pretty disappointed in his reaction
Everyone else was pretty thrilled though
11.10.10 from my belly to my heart at 11wks 5days
His mom : "We thought maybe he couldn't have kids" (since he is 38 and never had a 'scare' that they know of)
My mom: "So, are you excited about this?" which I took as a different version of "Was this planned?"
WOW! I have a few. First, I have a 14 month old, and yes, my DH and I had been trying for 6 months (although no one knew that).
I called my brother to tell him he was going to be an uncle again and he said "why, are you adopting? surely you don't want to HAVE another one!" But...they got an oppps third child on the way.
When I called my father I said "you are going to be a grandfather again" he said, "oh no, not again!" Nice!
And finally, my mother. She was very excited and once the excitment wore off she said "you know ___ will still be a baby, you can't ignore him when the new baby comes." Really mom? Because that is exactly what I was planning to do! People are crazy! These reactions are NOTHING like the first time we told them with our first child. There was happy tears and yelling and hugging.
Side note: FI and I were engaged in April this year and were planning an August 2011 wedding. Well before the news of our little bean came along.
Back to post: So I told my old boss, first thing she asked was, "Well you are going to marry this guy aren't you?" (WTF?) I was kinda taken back and then said, "Well, we are engaged and we were planning a wedding next year but now we are gonna have a 4 month old so I don't know anymore" LOL!
Its 2010 - HELLO! People shouldn't be judging people by that these days. And how about a simple - congrats! If it wasn't for the fact that we want to make sure we are doing it as financially responsibly as possible we'd probably be married already. Uhg - some people...
Telling the ILs kinda sucked. SIL's reaction was "Um, babies aren't invited to my wedding" which is is June next year. I didn't say anything about the wedding, but she assumes everything is about her and ruining her fun. I guess I'll be leaving early because I'm not leaving my 2 month old baby with someone else for 6 hours without being able to feed him/her.
FIL told us that the drugstore has condoms in aisle 3. He was kidding, but it upset me at the time, we were TTC, not an accident!
Nobody said anything bad when I announced the pregnancy, but when I posted my 19 week ultrasound photo on my cubicle, my supervisor said my baby looked like a pig.
Rude!