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January 2011 Moms
Does your DH care about the nursery bedding?
I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?
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Re: Does your DH care about the nursery bedding?
I like this, it's something I would do. I'm making lo's bedding, and DH refuses to go to the fabric store, so he understood at that point that he would not have a say. Fortunately, I think I picked cute fabric that he approves of.
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He said he doesn't like it because he doesn't like yellow. What?? This bedding is gorgeous, IMO.
My DH doesn't really care, he'll say he loves whatever I pick out. I find it hard to believe that your DH really doesn't care though seeing as he fought so hard to get that poster in there!! lol That being said, you know best, get the bedding!!
My husband has the same issue with yellow. That is super cute bedding. I'd get it, but then again, I know my DH and know bedding is something he just wouldn't care about. ;-)
You know what? He doesn't even want the poster in there anymore. I told him if he really wanted it, then we could frame it and find a spot and he said he changed his mind!
HAHAAHA all that for nothing, I will never understand men. Like I said, get the bedding, once it gets there, he will forget he ever entered an opinion, seriously.
this would be my DH! ;-)
I think it's totally possible that he can see something and truthfully tell you that he doesn't like it, but then turn around and say he doesn't care what you put in there.
My husband feels this way too. He loves our son and he's excited, but he really couldn't care less what color the baby's sheets are. If I ask his opinion on a specific item, he'll be honest with me. Realistically though, the better option is for me to just get what I like, because he could seriously care less. And by the time the "he didn't like it" bedding arrived, my husband would have forgotten that he ever said he didn't like it.
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You're right. I need to love it. Especially since he doesn't care.
FWIW - I normally get my husband's opinion this way:
I pick two things I like and give him the opportunity to choose from my preapproved selections. 90% of the time he still responds with "whatever you like, honey."
Occasionally he has a really out-of-left-field opinion. I guess I'm not a very good partner because I normally just ignore them and they go away (like the whole "we're naming him connor, not aidan" thing. i ignored it, it went away.).
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My DH is so easy going. He knows I am pretty fussy, so he just lets me get whatever.
But, if I were in your situation, I would still get the bedding you fell in love with! : ) Good luck!
my hubby was very involved in the bedding choice... he and I like to do home improvements, though, and also the bedding is sports themed... so that could explain it.
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that's what we picked.
Eh, my hubby cared more about keeping the walls in the nursery orange than he did about the theme/bedding. When I showed him the Fisher Price Precious Planet stuff I bought for the nursery he said "Yeah, I like it." Then I got annoyed and told him if he didn't care about any of this stuff then why were we having a baby and he said "Umm, I'm really excited we are having a baby, but I know you like to decorate, and as long as you keep the walls orange, I don't care what the baby sleeps on. She's just going to pee in the crib anyway." lol Oh hubby... *sigh*
I say go for it.
Ha! This is exactly what I do! I almost typed this until I saw your post.
In general, unless it affects him directly, he won't bother to form an opinion about it. So this route (chose between pre-approved options) works really well for us.
No. My husband and I make joint decisions - he really does care about the nursery and all the baby stuff, so I don't get my heart set on something without him around -- this is *our* baby, so both of our opinions matter. If there is something I or he really has no care about, we simply say it doesn't matter to us and let the other decide. We don't say "I don't like it, but it doesn't matter to me." That's a bit passive aggressive. But so would be telling him he has to give an opinion b/c its house and his baby, and then ignoring the opinion he gave b/c you've absolutely fallen in love with it.
So if it were me, the answer would be No - I wouldn't get the bedding no matter how much I love it. There are so many options out there that if I felt the need to ask his opinion and he didn't like something, I'd find something else.
Now, this is in reference only to things that, in the end, are insignificant in my child's development like bedding, diaper bag, the color of the nursery room walls, or whether the theme is chickens or disney characters. If it were something that could effect my baby's health or development - like he wanted a stroller that was rated unsafe, or we disagreed on what vaccines to get or he wanted me to get the cheapest breastpump that was going to tear up my nipples - I'd put up a much better and well informed fight. But I'd let things like bedding go.
Well, my DH is pretty opinionated about the baby's room, he's really excited about it-so he does care. I wouldn't be able to get bedding he didn't like...I would feel bad and look for a compromise because he has to look at ALL the time , too.
For us, the problem was carseats. We decided on the Snugride for sure, but then the problem was the patterns. DH hated pretty much all of them. It was driving me a bit batty because he thought they all looked girly even when they a were supposed to be 'neutral'. (This was before we knew what we were having). Finally we found one that was perfect, and I am so glad we got one we are both happy with.