Does your DH care about the nursery bedding?

elizjane26

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

CoryandRon

ugh thats a hard one.  I showed my DH pics of bedding for a boy and girl since we dont know yet what we are having and is response was " nice".  Really?? thats it?? I would maybe give it a few days and revisit the idea with him.  Maybe he was just having an "off" day

Shleenish

I did the same thing, he kind of just raised his shoulders, I think I know what I want, but I want to make sure he approves and I don't get much out of him. Someone told me to pick something completely hideous and then see his reaction, if he is horrified by it, obviously the other one that he didn't say anything about, he likes.

kierstensteck

Shleenish:

I did the same thing, he kind of just raised his shoulders, I think I know what I want, but I want to make sure he approves and I don't get much out of him. Someone told me to pick something completely hideous and then see his reaction, if he is horrified by it, obviously the other one that he didn't say anything about, he likes.

 

I like this, it's something I would do.  I'm making lo's bedding, and DH refuses to go to the fabric store, so he understood at that point that he would not have a say.  Fortunately, I think I picked cute fabric that he approves of.

mchupie

No, I probably wouldn't get it if he didn't like it.  We looked at bedding together and picked one we both liked, but it was hard!

elizjane26

He said he doesn't like it because he doesn't like yellow. What?? This bedding is gorgeous, IMO.

 

freeatlast2014

That one was my favorite of the 2 you picked!! I think guys (especially when it comes to baby girl stuff) really aren't sure what is what...I know it's so hard for me to get an opinion about any baby gear at all w/my H.  Maybe show him a website and he can show you what he likes better - he may get so frustrated with looking at that stuff that he then decides he actually DOES like this one!

honey740

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

My DH doesn't really care, he'll say he loves whatever I pick out. I find it hard to believe  that your DH really doesn't care though seeing as he fought so hard to get that poster in there!! lol  That being said, you know best, get the bedding!!

MeganMaryA

elizjane26:

He said he doesn't like it because he doesn't like yellow. What?? This bedding is gorgeous, IMO.

 

My husband has the same issue with yellow.  That is super cute bedding.  I'd get it, but then again, I know my DH and know bedding is something he just wouldn't care about.  ;-) 

elizjane26

honey740:

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

My DH doesn't really care, he'll say he loves whatever I pick out. I find it hard to believe  that your DH really doesn't care though seeing as he fought so hard to get that poster in there!! lol  That being said, you know best, get the bedding!!

You know what? He doesn't even want the poster in there anymore. I told him if he really wanted it, then we could frame it and find a spot and he said he changed his mind! 

honey740

elizjane26:

honey740:

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

My DH doesn't really care, he'll say he loves whatever I pick out. I find it hard to believe  that your DH really doesn't care though seeing as he fought so hard to get that poster in there!! lol  That being said, you know best, get the bedding!!

You know what? He doesn't even want the poster in there anymore. I told him if he really wanted it, then we could frame it and find a spot and he said he changed his mind! 

HAHAAHA all that for nothing, I will never understand men. Like I said, get the bedding, once it gets there, he will forget he ever entered an opinion, seriously. 

Doodle2011

mine just doesn't want it to be overly pink.  Other than that he lets me have free reign.

MeganMaryA

honey740:

elizjane26:

honey740:

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

My DH doesn't really care, he'll say he loves whatever I pick out. I find it hard to believe  that your DH really doesn't care though seeing as he fought so hard to get that poster in there!! lol  That being said, you know best, get the bedding!!

You know what? He doesn't even want the poster in there anymore. I told him if he really wanted it, then we could frame it and find a spot and he said he changed his mind! 

HAHAAHA all that for nothing, I will never understand men. Like I said, get the bedding, once it gets there, he will forget he ever entered an opinion, seriously. 

this would be my DH!  ;-) 

sydjademom2be2011

lol. My husband could care less. If it was the ugliest color ever, he would just say, "whatever you want hunny." I am excited though cause this is our first boy....everything has been pink before this, twice now. I am excited for blue, blue and more blue!

turbostang7

I don't knoiw if he really does care or if he's just acting like it to make me feel better but we picked out the fabric for bedding together. I will have to sew it all though just cause there wasn't going to be any bedding to buy that fits our theme.

pawcall

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

I think it's totally possible that he can see something and truthfully tell you that he doesn't like it, but then turn around and say he doesn't care what you put in there. 

My husband feels this way too.  He loves our son and he's excited, but he really couldn't care less what color the baby's sheets are.  If I ask his opinion on a specific item, he'll be honest with me.  Realistically though, the better option is for me to just get what I like, because he could seriously care less.  And by the time the "he didn't like it" bedding arrived, my husband would have forgotten that he ever said he didn't like it.

Tz's_Bride_2B

I love that bedding.  I would feel bad buying it if I knew my husband didn't like it and I would probably try and find something we both agreed on.

elizjane26

cdobry01:

elizjane26:

I told my husband that I wanted his opinion, because this is his house and his baby too. Well, he tells me last night that he doesn't like the bedding I have picked out, but that he also doesn't care about bedding at all and I can do what I want. Well if he doesn't care, then why did he tell me he doesn't like it? Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

I think it's totally possible that he can see something and truthfully tell you that he doesn't like it, but then turn around and say he doesn't care what you put in there. 

My husband feels this way too.  He loves our son and he's excited, but he really couldn't care less what color the baby's sheets are.  If I ask his opinion on a specific item, he'll be honest with me.  Realistically though, the better option is for me to just get what I like, because he could seriously care less.  And by the time the "he didn't like it" bedding arrived, my husband would have forgotten that he ever said he didn't like it.

You're right. I need to love it. Especially since he doesn't care. 

pawcall

FWIW - I normally get my husband's opinion this way:

I pick two things I like and give him the opportunity to choose from my preapproved selections.  90% of the time he still responds with "whatever you like, honey."

Occasionally he has a really out-of-left-field opinion.  I guess I'm not a very good partner because I normally just ignore them and they go away (like the whole "we're naming him connor, not aidan" thing.  i ignored it, it went away.).

AlysseBeavis

My DH is so easy going.  He knows I am pretty fussy, so he just lets me get whatever.

But, if I were in your situation, I would still get the bedding you fell in love with! : ) Good luck! 

a-beautiful-mess

I narrowed down the bedding to my top picks and showed them to DH. He did have some opinions, but fortunately my favorite was his favorite, too.

cera.rn

He does care to some extent. I would never buy something for the house that he did not like.  He likes the set I chose, but likes another one better.  We will probably end up with the one I like better only because I care more.

HUrquiza

my hubby was very involved in the bedding choice... he and I like to do home improvements, though, and also the bedding is sports themed... so that could explain it.

https://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3394479

that's what we picked.

futuremrscohick

Eh, my hubby cared more about keeping the walls in the nursery orange than he did about the theme/bedding.  When I showed him the Fisher Price Precious Planet stuff I bought for the nursery he said "Yeah, I like it."  Then I got annoyed and told him if he didn't care about any of this stuff then why were we having a baby and he said "Umm, I'm really excited we are having a baby, but I know you like to decorate, and as long as you keep the walls orange, I don't care what the baby sleeps on.  She's just going to pee in the crib anyway."  lol  Oh hubby... *sigh*

I say go for it.

mzclaire

cdobry01:

FWIW - I normally get my husband's opinion this way:

I pick two things I like and give him the opportunity to choose from my preapproved selections.  90% of the time he still responds with "whatever you like, honey."

Occasionally he has a really out-of-left-field opinion.  I guess I'm not a very good partner because I normally just ignore them and they go away (like the whole "we're naming him connor, not aidan" thing.  i ignored it, it went away.).

Ha! This is exactly what I do! I almost typed this until I saw your post.

In general, unless it affects him directly, he won't bother to form an opinion about it. So this route (chose between pre-approved options) works really well for us.

WestCoastMommy

He didn't with DS but he does this time. We both don't want pink everywhere. He emailed me a picture of the PBK bedding he liked and it happen to be the one I loved! So it was easy.

kesrya

elizjane26:

Anyway, would you get the bedding that you have absolutely fallen in love with, even though your husband said he doesn't really like it?

No.  My husband and I make joint decisions - he really does care about the nursery and all the baby stuff, so I don't get my heart set on something without him around -- this is *our* baby, so both of our opinions matter.  If there is something I or he really has no care about, we simply say it doesn't matter to us and let the other decide.  We don't say "I don't like it, but it doesn't matter to me."  That's a bit passive aggressive.  But so would be telling him he has to give an opinion b/c its house and his baby, and then ignoring the opinion he gave b/c you've absolutely fallen in love with it.

So if it were me, the answer would be No - I wouldn't get the bedding no matter how much I love it.  There are so many options out there that if I felt the need to ask his opinion and he didn't like something, I'd find something else.  

Now, this is in reference only to things that, in the end, are insignificant in my child's development like bedding, diaper bag, the color of the nursery room walls, or whether the theme is chickens or disney characters.  If it were something that could effect my baby's health or development - like he wanted a stroller that was rated unsafe, or we disagreed on what vaccines to get or he wanted me to get the cheapest breastpump that was going to tear up my nipples - I'd put up a much better and well informed fight.  But I'd let things like bedding go.

 

CAB'smommy

I picked out several sets that weren't too pricey (since my mom has asked to buy the bedding) and DH said he didn't think they were "special" enough.  Really?  Not sure what he was looking for. Anyway, since then he's decided to just let my mom and me pick it out.  We're doing that next Fri.  Can't wait!

starsmaycollide

Well, my DH is pretty opinionated about the baby's room, he's really excited about it-so he does care.  I wouldn't be able to get bedding he didn't like...I would feel bad and look for a compromise because he has to look at ALL the time , too.

For us, the problem was carseats. We decided on the Snugride for sure, but then the problem was the patterns. DH hated pretty much all of them. It was driving me a bit batty because he thought they all looked girly even when they a were supposed to be 'neutral'. (This was before we knew what we were having).  Finally we found one that was perfect, and I am so glad we got one we are both happy with.

nkubon

my dh thought it was odd that the majority of our bedding was a sage green. he was like "wouldn't you get pink?". i'm not sure if he's in love with it, but he said it looks like it's nice. lol. so oh well. we own it now.

kazpin

DH is actually the one who decided that the baby's room should be Winnie the Pooh and I was not all that opinionated so we are going with that..... easy peasy!

swrlygrl

yes because i plan on getting at least 2 sets (so I don't have to rush and get the one set washed and dry) so he can pick the second one, but our tastes our so close if he hated it I might second guess why I liked it in the first place