1st Trimester

After baby is born will you...?

be a stay at home mom or go the daycare route?

DH and I started talking about this over the weekend and we are leaning towards SAHM b/c I work long and late hours and weekends and he can be OOT for weeks at a time. I was just wondering what everyone else was thinking about doing and why?

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Re: After baby is born will you...?

  • I will most likely be a stay at home mom, atleast for as long as possible.
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  • Daycare for us. My grandmother might come help us out for a while though. It would be too tight financially for me to SAH.
  • It isn't even an option for us - I have to go back to work. We may get a nanny to come to our home a couple days a week.
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  • I have to work.

    I'll drop down to working 4 days, and my mom will take the baby 1 day.  We'll put the baby in daycare 3 days per week.

  • Working mom. ?Because I want to keep working. ?I can work some from home so we will split nanny and working from home.
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  • I will definitely be going back to work. I am extremely fortunate: I work 3 miles from home and my parents are another few miles away from that. My mom doesn't work and has readily agreed to watch baby!
  • Unfortunately staying home is not a realistic option for me given where we live and our current financial situation. I'll be returning to work when the new school year starts- but since the baby is due at the end of April, it means I'll have about 4 1/2 months to spend at home with the baby before school starts up again.
  • I will go back to work. I think we would struggle if it was only DH working. I also like my job (as of right now) so thats a plus. Only bad thing is it's an hour drive away from where we live.
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  • I became a SAHM after my daughter was born and will continue to do so. I do some freelance graphic design work, but it is just from home, and I just take jobs when I want to do them.

    If your husband is gone a lot, and will be gone long days, you may want to consider having someone come in to give you a break every couple of days. My husband owns his own business and he is gone a lot, too, and it makes for VERY long days. It's nice to just have a 20 minute break to do something. Just something to think about! :) Overall, though, I love being home with her. 

  • I'll be going back to work. Ideally I'd like to work part-time, but my job/workplace really does not allow for that at all.
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  • Definitely working.  My work is opening a day care on campus in February and I'm so excited to have both the kids there!  My 2 year old has been in day care since he was 11 weeks, and while I do believe that is very young to have to leave them, he has done great and it's exciting to see him socialize and learn so much in "school."  Good luck with your decision!
  • if its 1 baby, i will go back to work but would love to drop down to part time.  if we have twins, i'll probably stay at home. 
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  • I'm really hoping to go part time. My mom, who lives in the same town and DH and I, told me before we were ttc that she would quit her job and watch our kiddo. I really love my work, and I am afraid that I would lose too much info in my head if I was a SAHM. So I hope it can work out for me (I've yet to talk to bossman about it).
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  • For financial reasons only, I will be returning to work.  I would love to be able to stay at home though.  We will use daycare part time and my mom will watch the baby the rest of the time.  It kills me that I will have to hand over my child each day, rather than take care of him/her myself, but I have to do what I have to do.
  • I will most likely go back to work, we are hoping between our two mom's they will watch the baby.  We have talked about me going back part time, but I wouldn't be able to do that in my current job. 

  • Thanks to my $400/month student loan payments, I'll be working for the next 10 years.  Unless we hit the lottery.  hahahaha
  • Primarily a SAHM - I have a WAH opportunity and I may be able to work a couple shifts a week if my current job works out (its seasonal, with chance of being hired on permanently) since hubs has a 4-10's schedule and is off 3 days in a row.
  • I'll be going back to work. I don't have an option to stay at home, unfortunately. This baby will go to the same daycare my DD goes to
  • I work FT time and will probably do the same when baby #2 comes along. I am also in grad school so it would be great to only work PT but we just can not do it at this time. My DS loves his sitters, he asks me every day if I am going to work because he knows he gets to go to the sitters. I think it is great for him to socialize and I get to socialize with adults as well.
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  • Well, baby will be here in January. I'm definetly SAH till the summer...and then I might waitress 2 or 3 days to make some extra money. Then go back to SAHM after the summer.
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  • I plan on only working PT and if it seems like it is not worth it then I will be a SAHM.  There will be some lifystyle changes but we are willing to make those sacrafices.
  • I'm planning on going back to work part time (25 hours per week) and leaving the babies at an in-home daycare (3 women in our neighborhood have in-home daycares). 
  • Financially, I will be returning to work.  We have a flexible work scheduled at work so I'm hoping that I could look into that and seeing if I can work 4 days instead of 5 but who knows!
  • I will going back to work, approx. 30 hours/week.  My mom and MIL are both retired and local so they will babysit as much as possible.  Otherwise we will have a nanny come to our home.
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  • SAHM...this has always been our plan.
  • I'll be returning to work. It's primarily for financial reasons - DH and I make about the same amount of money, so if one of us stayed home, we'd be cutting our household income in half and we really couldn't live on that.

    I also enjoy working, and I'm not sure I'd want to be a SAHM. Ideally, I'd like to work four-day weeks, at least for the first year, and my boss is pretty flexible, so that might be an option.

    We'll be putting the baby in daycare after I take the first three months off.
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  • I'd love to stay at home or just work part time for the first year, but financially this probably won't work. ?DH graduates this December, so we'll have to wait and see what job he can land.
  • Daycare. DD is in daycare.  I enjoy working and I love my job.  It enables us to have a nicer home and nicer things than if we were living on one salary. 
  • SAHM. I'm a homemaker now anyway, besides watching 2 munchkins 12 hours a week. I quit my full-time job in August after my m/c, we figured I would be able to rest and relax a little more this time around. Yay sleep! We waited to TTC until we knew I could stay home anyway.
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  • A mix actually.

    I will be working 3-4 days a week, the days I have to work, my mother will be watching the baby.  When he/she attends school, I will probably return to work FT, but will come in early and leave early due to their school days.

    Thank goodness I work in the family business, otherwise I don't think this would happen. 

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  • We will do daycare.  We are in discussions as to whether I will continue to work full time or part-time.
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  • I'll be going back to work after the normal maternity leave. My mom retired when my niece was born so she could babysit the grandkids full time. She won't take money from us either. My sister and I are very grateful! And very lucky!!
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  • I have to work, but I'm trying to become a teacher, so at least my schedule will be better. My mom is going to watch the baby.
  • I will be a SAHM because we are relocating from Miami to Charlotte/Concord, NC and my job offered me to work from home which was awesome news!

    I've always wanted to be a SAHM but we would live better off of two salaries. 

    I'm super excited! 

  • Daycare, we would be too straped financially if I were to become a SAHM.
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  • I would love to stay home, but it isn't an option for us financially right now. I will probably take 12 weeks off (7 will be paid). Under my contract, I can take up to 6 months of maternity leave, and then I have the option to work half time for another 6 months. I might do the part time thing when I go back, we'll see how the money works.
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  • My mom is going to watch the baby. I want to go back to work and we need for me to work as well in order to continue being able to afford to do everything that we like to do and not have to scrimp to get by.
  • Definitely day care.  We are hoping my MIL will quit her p/t job to watch the baby though!  If not, DH is probably getting on a much earlier shift and the baby will only have to be in day care p/t which will save a lot of money!
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  • We are fortunate.  We own our small business and during infantcy I plan to bring the rugrat to work with me and set up a playpen in my office.  We may eventually have to go to daycare a day or two a week.
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