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keri1013 · July 2010

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keri1013 · July 2010

I actually have one this week. DH and I had unprotected sex on Monday night, for the first time since Max was born. Then again on Tuesday night. I have a few things to say about this:

1. We were reminded how much better it feels to not use a condom. Hence the two nights in a row, which I don't think has happened since Max was born.

2. This should have been well in advance of ovulation, but I'm not charting or tracking that so I don't know for sure.

3. Half of me hopes AF shows up on schedule this month and then other half hopes to be pregnant. We aren't TTC yet but planned to in a few months. We have been very careful up until now with birth control. Eeek!

Zista · July 2010

I'll keep it on the sex theme. DH and I have not had sex for 2 MONTHS, and before that maybe once a month since BFP. I know I should sit down with him and have a mature conversation about it, but I'm hurt and would rather be childish. The current plan is to wait for him to ask for it about 2 months after LO gets here and say, "What? Well you haven't wanted to touch me for 4 months now, so I figured I just wasn't attractive to you anymore."

This is totally my mother - not the sex thing, because clearly my mom never had sex (ew), but the total passive-aggressive guilt thing. I'm not my mom, so probably won't actually do this, but I'm enjoying wallowing in my childish self-pity right now. Not to mention, I hate hate hate having to make a big deal out of it, and feel like I'm getting it for that reason vs. the fact that I'm sexy as hell.

CinemaGoddess · July 2010

I'm seriously pissed off at DH for wanting to spend time with his grandparents last night. We were supposed to go to his co-worker's house to give changing her baby's diaper a whirl, but she spaced on it and made other plans. That wasn't a big deal, because I was having a hellish day and just wanted to go home. DH said we should just get dinner and take it home with us.

About 10 minutes later he emails with, "Do you mind if we go visit my grandparents tonight? I haven't seen them much this week and they're leaving on Monday." I.was.livid. I wasn't as mad about him wanting to visit them as much as we had plans and it was the only bright spot of the day for me and now he's telling me that we had to spend time with his family when I was literally on the verge of tears every 5 minutes. (I like run-on sentences.)

I told him that I didn't want to go out last night with others because I knew I was going to break down and I didn't want to do that in front of his family. It was probably for the best because they didn't even leave for dinner until 8PM and DH didn't get home until almost 11 PM.

I know it's his grandparents and he wants to spend time with them, but FFS I'm having a day from hell and he could have taken any of the previous three days to spend with them and I would have been more than happy to go with him, but chose the one day when I was having issues and needed him around. He could have even gone tonight, which would have been better because he could have spent more time with them without having to worry about getting up for work the next day.

Also - when I got back to the park and ride last night I kicked the chick's car who cut me off. It didn't cause any damage at all, but it still felt good.

BabyMamma55 · July 2010

I emailed my HS boyfriend today and told him about everything with DH. He knows me better than most of my friends, and even though we haven't talked in a while I trust him and his opinions. I keep checking my email waiting for a response.

My hair is falling out in chunks. I'm not sure if its from hormones or stress, but it sucks! I guses thats not really a confession...

I let M try chocolate yesterday. Maybe not so bad, but my mom is one of those "don't give children refined sugar till they're 5" so I feel guilty.

IdahoGirl · July 2010

[Edit: I forgot for a second I was in the FFFC post and responded like it was CG's own post...so...obviously I'm responding to hers ]

I like run on sentences too.

Hugs honey....just hugs...

I don't even know what more to say - because I know you're really frustrated with M's priorties right now - and I agree with you. I also like sentences with dashes in them even though I'm quite certain it's completely wrong, grammatically speaking. M's a good guy, he's just not making wise decisions with his time right now and it's having a direct affect on you. That's hard.

I would say, can you sit down and talk with him about how he's making you feel and how his lack of making you and the babies his first priority? I think, though, that you've tried and he's just not there yet.

I don't know what more to offer you than hugs and love and empathy, because I think at one point or another, every single one of us has been there with our own husband.

CinemaGoddess · July 2010

IdahoGirl:

[Edit: I forgot for a second I was in the FFFC post and responded like it was CG's own post...so...obviously I'm responding to hers ]

I like run on sentences too.

Hugs honey....just hugs...

I don't even know what more to say - because I know you're really frustrated with M's priorties right now - and I agree with you. I also like sentences with dashes in them even though I'm quite certain it's completely wrong, grammatically speaking. M's a good guy, he's just not making wise decisions with his time right now and it's having a direct affect on you. That's hard.

I would say, can you sit down and talk with him about how he's making you feel and how his lack of making you and the babies his first priority? I think, though, that you've tried and he's just not there yet.

I don't know what more to offer you than hugs and love and empathy, because I think at one point or another, every single one of us has been there with our own husband.

Thanks IG. He isn't there yet. He steps up with he's confronted with realities, not with abstracts. Right now, the babies are abstracts to him. He doesn't deal with them on a daily basis like I do. He is getting better, though, and I know why he's spending so much time socially. It's no that he doesn't care, but it's like he's banking social time since he knows he won't get much at all once the girls are here.

And pregnancy hormones can suck it. For realz. I don't think this stuff would be hitting me as hard if it wasn't for them.

braveangel2 · July 2010

keri1013:

I actually have one this week. DH and I had unprotected sex on Monday night, for the first time since Max was born. Then again on Tuesday night. I have a few things to say about this:

1. We were reminded how much better it feels to not use a condom. Hence the two nights in a row, which I don't think has happened since Max was born.

2. This should have been well in advance of ovulation, but I'm not charting or tracking that so I don't know for sure.

3. Half of me hopes AF shows up on schedule this month and then other half hopes to be pregnant. We aren't TTC yet but planned to in a few months. We have been very careful up until now with birth control. Eeek!

Um, all of this. Just change Monday to Canada Day, and you and I are twins. I didn't have the balls to post it though - you are my hero!

ChubbyCheekiesMom · July 2010

I sent a check in for my 10 year reunion last week and then decided I didn't want to go. I emailed the coordinator and told them to tear it up. First off the guest list isn't looking so great, and most of the people I could careless to see again. Secondly I feel like a fatty (compared to what I looked like in HS). I even went on a shopping trip with my BFF (we've been friends for 15 years) to get outfits for the party and couldn't find a freaking thing. Thirdly, H would have to not work (for his dad) for 2 days which is about $600 we'd be losing for a dumb party. So I guess I made the right choice!

My other one going on Keri's theme. H and I had unprotected sex last week and now I am freaked I am pregnant. While this was the month we planned on TTC H still doesn't have a steady job. It was dumb, and irresponsible.

cmcmillan · July 2010

I am ticked at dh. I am not sure how it has turned into me and only me being in charge of nighttime stuff with the boys. I am really getting sick of dh going to bed/sleeping while I am up numerous times keeping M in bed and nursing W.

Last night M took awhile to get to sleep, so I kept taking him back to bed. When I went to go to sleep there he was asleep on my side, wth, why didn't you take him back to bed if he came in our room? I carried him into his room, only to have him come back about 3 hours later, I took him back. Then I wake up at 4:30 to feed W and there he is asleep next to dh. wth! It's like trying to sleep train a 30 year old!

Right now he is working 12 hr days, 6-6. But my day starts at 7 and is going all night at times, so technically shouldn't I be the one sleeping? Confused

Seattle_JiLLn · July 2010

cmcmillan:
I am ticked at dh. I am not sure how it has turned into me and only me being in charge of nighttime stuff with the boys. I am really getting sick of dh going to bed/sleeping while I am up numerous times keeping M in bed and nursing W.

Last night M took awhile to get to sleep, so I kept taking him back to bed. When I went to go to sleep there he was asleep on my side, wth, why didn't you take him back to bed if he came in our room? I carried him into his room, only to have him come back about 3 hours later, I took him back. Then I wake up at 4:30 to feed W and there he is asleep next to dh. wth! It's like trying to sleep train a 30 year old!

Right now he is working 12 hr days, 6-6. But my day starts at 7 and is going all night at times, so technically shouldn't I be the one sleeping?

Man on man defense!! Tell DH he is in charge of M and you are on W. Then explain that that means getting M back in his own bed not letting him take your spot.

. At night I even call Ben "your kid" and Cooper is "my kid". Dh does ben's bath and I do cooper's etc.

IdahoGirl · July 2010

cinema_goddess:
IdahoGirl:

[Edit: I forgot for a second I was in the FFFC post and responded like it was CG's own post...so...obviously I'm responding to hers ]

I like run on sentences too.

Hugs honey....just hugs...

I don't even know what more to say - because I know you're really frustrated with M's priorties right now - and I agree with you. I also like sentences with dashes in them even though I'm quite certain it's completely wrong, grammatically speaking. M's a good guy, he's just not making wise decisions with his time right now and it's having a direct affect on you. That's hard.

I would say, can you sit down and talk with him about how he's making you feel and how his lack of making you and the babies his first priority? I think, though, that you've tried and he's just not there yet.

I don't know what more to offer you than hugs and love and empathy, because I think at one point or another, every single one of us has been there with our own husband.

Thanks IG. He isn't there yet. He steps up with he's confronted with realities, not with abstracts. Right now, the babies are abstracts to him. He doesn't deal with them on a daily basis like I do. He is getting better, though, and I know why he's spending so much time socially. It's no that he doesn't care, but it's like he's banking social time since he knows he won't get much at all once the girls are here.

And pregnancy hormones can suck it. For realz. I don't think this stuff would be hitting me as hard if it wasn't for them.

For real on the hormones...

And I know exactly what you mean about reality vs. abstract. My husband is exactly the same and did the exact same thing with Madelyn and it was night and day when she was born.

Hang in there.

zazzu · July 2010

I wiped a booger on DS's diaper this morning. I justified it as he was nursing, was about to poop his diaper, and I didn't have a tissue. I still felt it was wrong.

blueLu25 · July 2010

I am currently letting ds destroy a box of wipes b/c I am SO freaking sleep deprived I dont care what he is doing, so I can just have a min without crying kids...

And dh and I are supposed to go out today and I am already so stressed about it that now I dont want to go. But I will because he wants to.

And this isnt really a confession, but I miss my bff SO much. She lives in England and I havent seen her in 3 years other than Skype. And now I'm crying writing this. Damn sleep deprivation and pp hormones.

mwhite5283 · July 2010

I'm about to get a huge promotion (like the kind you've been working your entire career towards), but all that makes me feel is more pressure. I have enough already, thank you. And while the money and title are nice (and travel will actually be somewhat reduced), it's scary.

Alli923 · July 2010

- I've decided WW is stupid and broken and can suck it. I had been doing it for about a month and had not lost any weight! I quit. I'll just be fat.

- I went to see my doc yesterday for my PPD. While I was there I brought up the fact that my scar/incision sight is still very painful, and can be unbearable if I work out. She told me I should workout like that yet then. I can do yoga. My confession is that I pretend like I'm upset about it cuz I really wanted to work out, but really I like having an excuse to be lazy.

CinemaGoddess · July 2010

Alli923:

- I've decided WW is stupid and broken and can suck it. I had been doing it for about a month and had not lost any weight! I quit. I'll just be fat.

Start measuring yourself! You might be gaining muscle, so the scale won't reflect an actual weight loss.

mrssmith717 · July 2010

I bought some boots for myself for my birthday and I have never been more excited about any purchase this year!! Thanks, FIL, for the gift card that covered part of it!

blueLu25:
And this isnt really a confession, but I miss my bff SO much. She lives in England and I havent seen her in 3 years other than Skype. And now I'm crying writing this. Damn sleep deprivation and pp hormones.

I totally understand this, L. My BFF lives down in California and has for the past 3 years. It's really hard b/c I feel like I don't have any other close friends and it makes it harder that she's gone.

Right Hug

Ciaram22 · July 2010

All of my friends are starting to get pregnant and I really hope that I'm next. DH and I have had sex like bunnies the last week. There is something very exciting about having sex on an air mattress in your in-laws family room. I am about to ovulate or have already with the signs I'm seeing from my body. Also one of my friends that just found out that she is pregnant changed her profile picture to the pregnancy test and I just want to smack her for it. I don't want to have to see pregnant every time you post a status update.

I'm pissed at DH uncle who evidently took grandmas gun from her when grandpa died because she didn't need it anymore. She wants her gun back and it was hers in the first place. DH aunt and uncle treat grandma like she is a complete idiot and that she can't make decisions for herself. She is almost 85 and still in great health. I just want to walk up to Larry and tell him that "Grandma is pissed at you because you took her gun. I am taking it from you and giving it back to her because she wants it, and there is nothing that you can do about it!!"

blueLu25 · July 2010

mrs_smith717:
I bought some boots for myself for my birthday and I have never been more excited about any purchase this year!! Thanks, FIL, for the gift card that covered part of it!
blueLu25:
And this isnt really a confession, but I miss my bff SO much. She lives in England and I havent seen her in 3 years other than Skype. And now I'm crying writing this. Damn sleep deprivation and pp hormones.
I totally understand this, L. My BFF lives down in California and has for the past 3 years. It's really hard b/c I feel like I don't have any other close friends and it makes it harder that she's gone.

Thats exactly how I feel too! Thanks for posting that. We should hang out more

tfarabians · July 2010

Our effing freezer in the garage went out last night and I have $$$ of food defrosting!!! I had to buy a new one at lowes but dh left for work and now I have to figure out how to get it out of the car if I go get it and to get it working! also not sure how much I should be lifting!! GRRRRR

ckmommy · July 2010

My BFF might be pg. She is coming over this morning to take a test. I had to buy it because she has no money until she is paid. She is recently divorced and has a new boyfriend, who I despise, but I think she is being completely irresponsible because she isn't using birth control. If she can't afford the pg test, maybe that should be a clue. I love her, but I'm upset with her at the same time.

Lately everything my H does makes me angry.

Carter had whipped cream a few nights ago. MIL snuck it to him while my H and I were talking to his brother. I normally would fight about that but decided this one time it wasn't worth it. My H got really upset though and went off on his mom.

Maddimom · July 2010

I called in sick today. I only have a week left of work until I am a SAHM. But I figure this is my last only me day. So M is at daycare and I am going to ikea!!

kaskade · July 2010

I secretly hate going out in public without the baby. I feel like if I have the baby with me, people will realize that's why I'm fat, because I just gave birth. When I'm out on my own, I'm just a fat chick. This is so stupid, I thought I'd worked through my body issues a long time ago and was so proud of what my body could accomplish.

blueLu25 · July 2010

kaskade:
I secretly hate going out in public without the baby. I feel like if I have the baby with me, people will realize that's why I'm fat, because I just gave birth. When I'm out on my own, I'm just a fat chick. This is so stupid, I thought I'd worked through my body issues a long time ago and was so proud of what my body could accomplish.

I think you look great, definitely dont look like "a fat chick."

braveangel2 · July 2010

Thought of another one..

I turn all of E's toys with faces, right side up, so they can see. You know, just in case Toy Story is right.

My mom gave me way to much empathy

davesgirl34 · July 2010

braveangel2:

Thought of another one..

I turn all of E's toys with faces, right side up, so they can see. You know, just in case Toy Story is right.

My mom gave me way to much empathy

OMG! I do this too.

LuvBug12683 · July 2010

Almost every day, I get asked when we are going to try for #3, I hadn't really sat down to think about it because life's great with 2 right now. If we were to have #3, we'd have to get a new car plus babysitting/dinners/vacations would be even more $$. With that being said, I have quite a few friends pg with #3 right now and it's beginning to give me the "fever" ....I hadn't even thought to look at baby names ever since Norah was born, but now I find myself taking note of certain names I hear. I had ideally thought that it would be nice to start trying when Norah is 3.5ish so she'd nearly be in preschool and the baby and I could chill together during the day, but the more I tell people, the more they tell me that Jacob (who would be 6 years older) would have "quite a stretch in age differences" I know ultimately it's up to us, but I can't stop thinking if maybe 6 years is too far apart, after all Jacob and Norah will only be one year apart in school and if we were to have a baby when I was thinking, it would just be in Jr. High as Jake is graduating high school.

(sorry, not really a ffc more just a rambling Wink

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braveangel2 · July 2010

LuvBug12683:
Almost every day, I get asked when we are going to try for #3, I hadn't really sat down to think about it because life's great with 2 right now. If we were to have #3, we'd have to get a new car plus babysitting/dinners/vacations would be even more $$. With that being said, I have quite a few friends pg with #3 right now and it's beginning to give me the "fever" ....I hadn't even thought to look at baby names ever since Norah was born, but now I find myself taking note of certain names I hear. I had ideally thought that it would be nice to start trying when Norah is 3.5ish so she'd nearly be in preschool and the baby and I could chill together during the day, but the more I tell people, the more they tell me that Jacob (who would be 6 years older) would have "quite a stretch in age differences" I know ultimately it's up to us, but I can't stop thinking if maybe 6 years is too far apart, after all Jacob and Norah will only be one year apart in school and if we were to have a baby when I was thinking, it would just be in Jr. High as Jake is graduating high school.

(sorry, not really a ffc more just a rambling )

I'd call that pressure - that would bug the heck out of me. Sorry you're hearing it every day...that would suck. Tell them you know someone with a 16-year difference, and they're well adjusted thank you. Stick out tongue

braveangel2 · July 2010

davesgirl34:
braveangel2:

Thought of another one..

I turn all of E's toys with faces, right side up, so they can see. You know, just in case Toy Story is right.

My mom gave me way to much empathy

OMG! I do this too.

Okay, I'm so glad I'm not the only one!

LuvBug12683 · July 2010

braveangel2:
LuvBug12683:
Almost every day, I get asked when we are going to try for #3, I hadn't really sat down to think about it because life's great with 2 right now. If we were to have #3, we'd have to get a new car plus babysitting/dinners/vacations would be even more $$. With that being said, I have quite a few friends pg with #3 right now and it's beginning to give me the "fever" ....I hadn't even thought to look at baby names ever since Norah was born, but now I find myself taking note of certain names I hear. I had ideally thought that it would be nice to start trying when Norah is 3.5ish so she'd nearly be in preschool and the baby and I could chill together during the day, but the more I tell people, the more they tell me that Jacob (who would be 6 years older) would have "quite a stretch in age differences" I know ultimately it's up to us, but I can't stop thinking if maybe 6 years is too far apart, after all Jacob and Norah will only be one year apart in school and if we were to have a baby when I was thinking, it would just be in Jr. High as Jake is graduating high school.

(sorry, not really a ffc more just a rambling )

I'd call that pressure - that would bug the heck out of me. Sorry you're hearing it every day...that would suck. Tell them you know someone with a 16-year difference, and they're well adjusted thank you.

I should edit to add, these births I'm shooting aren't helping one bit! LOL
Thanks Angel, that's a good point, I forgot you and your sister are 16 years apart!

kaskade · July 2010

blueLu25:

kaskade:
I secretly hate going out in public without the baby. I feel like if I have the baby with me, people will realize that's why I'm fat, because I just gave birth. When I'm out on my own, I'm just a fat chick. This is so stupid, I thought I'd worked through my body issues a long time ago and was so proud of what my body could accomplish.

I think you look great, definitely dont look like "a fat chick."

Thanks - I know I'm being too harsh on myself. It was so much work to get and maintain a healthy weight and fitness level, and I just lost it all in a matter of months. I am so happy to be a mom, but I wish I could have kept up my running and other stuff while pregnant but it wasn't meant to be. Sigh, poor me! I need to just buckle down and start eating healthy and moving more so I can be a good role model for my daughter. I promised myself I'd never complain about my body in front of her!

McJen715 · July 2010

kaskade:
I need to just buckle down and start eating healthy and moving more so I can be a good role model for my daughter. I promised myself I'd never complain about my body in front of her!

This is one of my biggest worries, being a good role model and not screwing her self image up. I know my mom tried her best, but she sometimes made comments about my weight (and I was always very thin growing up) and I still have body image problems because of it.

On a related note. I was super proud at my appointment on Monday that I'd only gained 16lbs so far. But my doctor made a comment because I'd gained 6lbs since my previous visit 5 weeks prior. She wasn't rude about it, and said I was doing fine over all, but the fact that she even mentioned that I'd gained an extra pound made me feel a little self concious. And then it made me pissed off.

MrsEditorJax · July 2010

One of my best friends is coming to visit on Sunday from Kansas and I am so unmotivated to clean. Last time she was here, in 2009 for my baby shower, she commented multiple times on how our house is small and that she can't believe we only have one bathroom. Sorry, not all of us get to live alone for free (including the bills -- and they hired a landscaping service because she won't mow the lawn) in a house owned by our parents.

I normally would be on a total cleaning spree by now, but I am using Collin as an excuse to not do anything right now -- the guest room is a disaster and I don't want him picking stuff up and trying to eat hangers, etc. -- so I am waiting until he naps. But in reality, I just want to shove it all into the closet, shut the door, and go watch "Teen Mom."

Alli923 · July 2010

MrsEditorJax:
One of my best friends is coming to visit on Sunday from Kansas and I am so unmotivated to clean. Last time she was here, in 2009 for my baby shower, she commented multiple times on how our house is small and that she can't believe we only have one bathroom. Sorry, not all of us get to live alone for free (including the bills -- and they hired a landscaping service because she won't mow the lawn) in a house owned by our parents.

I normally would be on a total cleaning spree by now, but I am using Collin as an excuse to not do anything right now -- the guest room is a disaster and I don't want him picking stuff up and trying to eat hangers, etc. -- so I am waiting until he naps. But in reality, I just want to shove it all into the closet, shut the door, and go watch "Teen Mom."

I find that I do my fastest, most efficient cleaning when I have guests coming over in like an hour. If I have loads of time and no one coming to see it...it never happens. Tell me people are showing up shortly, and the place is spotless in a minute.

Plus, who can resist Teen Mom?!

heather318 · July 2010

McJen715:
kaskade:
I need to just buckle down and start eating healthy and moving more so I can be a good role model for my daughter. I promised myself I'd never complain about my body in front of her!
This is one of my biggest worries, being a good role model and not screwing her self image up. I know my mom tried her best, but she sometimes made comments about my weight (and I was always very thin growing up) and I still have body image problems because of it.
On a related note. I was super proud at my appointment on Monday that I'd only gained 16lbs so far. But my doctor made a comment because I'd gained 6lbs since my previous visit 5 weeks prior. She wasn't rude about it, and said I was doing fine over all, but the fact that she even mentioned that I'd gained an extra pound made me feel a little self concious. And then it made me pissed off.

I think you are amazing and I'm totally envious that you've only gained 16lbs at 29 weeks. I had already gained 14 at my 22 week appointment and haven't been on the scale since. My midwife said that I was totally on track with weight gain and she wasn't concerned, but I am petrified every time I get on the scale at my appointments!

CinemaGoddess · July 2010

Alli923:
MrsEditorJax:

One of my best friends is coming to visit on Sunday from Kansas and I am so unmotivated to clean. Last time she was here, in 2009 for my baby shower, she commented multiple times on how our house is small and that she can't believe we only have one bathroom. Sorry, not all of us get to live alone for free (including the bills -- and they hired a landscaping service because she won't mow the lawn) in a house owned by our parents.

I normally would be on a total cleaning spree by now, but I am using Collin as an excuse to not do anything right now -- the guest room is a disaster and I don't want him picking stuff up and trying to eat hangers, etc. -- so I am waiting until he naps. But in reality, I just want to shove it all into the closet, shut the door, and go watch "Teen Mom."

I find that I do my fastest, most efficient cleaning when I have guests coming over in like an hour. If I have loads of time and no one coming to see it...it never happens. Tell me people are showing up shortly, and the place is spotless in a minute.

Plus, who can resist Teen Mom?!

LOL! Me, too. But if my mom is coming over tomorrow, I'll stay up until 1 in the morning on the bathroom floor with a Qtip getting all the dust out of the corners.

mrssmith717 · July 2010

LuvBug12683:
Almost every day, I get asked when we are going to try for #3, I hadn't really sat down to think about it because life's great with 2 right now. If we were to have #3, we'd have to get a new car plus babysitting/dinners/vacations would be even more $$. With that being said, I have quite a few friends pg with #3 right now and it's beginning to give me the "fever" ....I hadn't even thought to look at baby names ever since Norah was born, but now I find myself taking note of certain names I hear. I had ideally thought that it would be nice to start trying when Norah is 3.5ish so she'd nearly be in preschool and the baby and I could chill together during the day, but the more I tell people, the more they tell me that Jacob (who would be 6 years older) would have "quite a stretch in age differences" I know ultimately it's up to us, but I can't stop thinking if maybe 6 years is too far apart, after all Jacob and Norah will only be one year apart in school and if we were to have a baby when I was thinking, it would just be in Jr. High as Jake is graduating high school.

(sorry, not really a ffc more just a rambling )

My BFF has two younger sisters- one is 18 months younger, one is 6 1/2 years younger. She is closest with the youngest one. Don't stress, do what's best for YOUR family, not what other people are making you paranoid about.

mrsks1224 · July 2010

I am kinda dealing with this to, after this last baby we decided we were done. We had a boy and a girl and things were perfect. This couple we know have 3 boys and they decided they were done the same time we both had our last babies and NOW this last month she has decided they want to try again for a girl....and she is always saying I know you'll have another one and I'm thinking ....I don't think so. Two is plenty right now I mean our youngest just turned 9 months! He is still a baby! I was just pregnant last year and I am not really ready to be pregnant again. I also have found my self taking note of names that I like but then I question if I really would want another....and I just am not sure. Not right now..in the future... maybe? My husband and I decided we have a bookmark in our baby making book but as of right now were done. Make sense? I just feel pressured by her for some reason...I feel like if they have another baby its gonna make us grow apart as friends, I don't really approve of them having another. The reason why is a completely different story!!

mrsks1224 · July 2010

I'm from Kansas!!

DAWNNA76 · July 2010

this is soooooooo flame worthy and you will all hate me I am sure.

We have two cats. One we call budda. budda is well BIG, and I mean 28 pounds, so fat he cant scratch his own itches, kinda big. the other one from the same litter is maybe 9 pounds.

Anyway budda has potty issues. has never been a "neat" cat and as he has gotten older its gotten worse. he poops in odd places all over the house. and we think he leaks pee. Our house is starting to smell bad from this. we have taken him to the vet and there is nothing medically wrong with him that would be causing the pooping and peeing. he has a huge, clean litter box (its cleaned at least 3 times if not more a day) He is doing this for who knows what reason.

I cant take it anymore. he is 13 years old, and other than his obesity (which we have tried dieting on him for years, it dont work) and missing a tooth he is healthy for his age. He does have some back issues and srthritis because of his weight. We are contemplating having him put down. I cant take the mess and stench anymore. we dont have the money to replace carpets, I need to nip this in the bud before its gets to the point where thats our only option. I feel bad because I feel out of options. I dont want to send him to a shelter cause he is a timid cat and doesnt do well with other animals and strnage places. Nobody I know wants a cat that pees and poops everywhere, you even have to clean his butt cause he is that nasty! I feel bad cause I dont want to get rid of him but its looking like my only choice and I will miss him and so will his litter mate.

anyway. just venting my frustrations and I know this is totally flameworthy but please be kind. I truley do love my cats but just cant deal with them anymore.

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