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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Does your child say parents name more than the other?
DS is 18 months and says Daddy all day long and doesn't ever say Mommy. The other night DH and I got into a fight and he told me that the reason that he doesn't say mommy is because he doesn't feel as connected to me. So last night several days after our fight I asked DH if he really felt like that and he said yes and that he thinks that there is some sort of a 'disconnect' and that is why he doesn't say Mommy. I personally think it is just because he just doesn't say mommy yet, nothing else. I work full time and don't get a lot of time with him until evenings or weekends. DH is a firefighter and he is home with him 2 full days and then is gone 1 day.
I just now have extreme mommy guilt, and have still been thinking about what could be causing this.
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Re: Does your child say parents name more than the other?
My DH gets a full week off one week out of every 3. He gets TONS of DS/ Daddy time. DS will hardly say "dada" but says Mama all the time.
I think it's a phase like any other. While DS says mama all the time, I'm waiting for the day that all he wants is dada.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Jack said mama first (he was a fairly slow talker) and didn't start saying Dada at all until 19 months? Now he says it ALL THE TIME.
I don't think it was a lack of connection, because he LOVED his daddy, but more a lack of opportunity. He just wasn't with daddy as much to learn it. Now that he's gotten to know the word well, he wakes up in the morning asking for him.
If your son is with his dad more than you, theoretically it's the same situation.
But, also, kids generally say dada first, so he may not be developed enough verbally for mama.
He says Daddy ALL THE TIME. He knows how to say Mama, but he only does it occasionally.
He's totally obsessed with Daddy right now. It hurts my feelings too, but I think it's pretty normal, especially for boys.
My DD didn't say 'mama' regularly until about 2 weeks ago (so about 21 months). Seriously. It has NOTHING to do with her not loving me or feeling connected to me.
That's a low blow by your husband - he deserves a swift kick in the a$$ for that one.
ETA: Ooops, I hit 'reply' to fast. Anyways, my DD started saying Dada at like 16 months, and never said mama.
All the sudden, 2 weeks ago, I accidentally opened a door into her poor little head and knocked her down on the ground (oooops). And later that morning, we were leaving a restaurant, and my DH took her outside to wait for me to pay. And she said "Uh oh, where mama go?" And she's started saying 'mama' a ton more since then. Still not as much as 'dada'.
The point of my story is that kids are just funny and do things when they want to. My DD didn't say mama until I knocked her on the ground (unintentionally...poor girl), and then used my name in full sentences. Oh boy! LOL.
First of all, "dada" is a lot easier for kids to say than "mama" - DS's speech therapist told me this.
Second of all, DS *just* started saying "mama" at almost two years old this weekend.
So tell your DH to fvck off. That's total bullsh!t. Sorry.
DD says dada all the time. She calls me dada a lot of the time. She used to say both, but dropped mama recently andreally only says mama when prompted.
That's pretty crappy what your DH said.
DD doesn't say either very often (she CAN say both, but she just doesn't much) She signs both, too. But she signs Daddy much more often...even when she means "Mommy" she still signs "Daddy."
I think it is very cruel for your husband to have said something like that. If my DH said that to me, it would cut me to the core. But try not to let it bother you, there is nothing to his argument.