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Am I crazy to be jelous?
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Re: Am I crazy to be jelous?
Grow up.
I just found out last night friends of ours are expecting! I was really excited. My husband asked me if I was upset and I said, "Why" He said because of stealing your thunder. I looked at him as if he were crazy! I am thrilled. A friend of mine and I went through pregnancy together with our daughters and it was so much fun! Our daughters are exactly a week apart in age and are great friends. Maybe your hormones are just in overdrive.
Yes, I think you're crazy.
When people are the competitive type as it sounds like you are, they are going to compete no matter how far apart their kids are. You could have kids 5 years apart but one walked at 10 months and the other at 13 months.
I know someone who is like this, always comparing and getting jealous of others, and she doesn't have many friends left.
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
TTC 3rd and final!: IUI #1 in progress!
This. My sister is due 11 days before me and I love going through this with her. It's nice to have someone to talk to that understands what I am going through. Get over it!
Sorry I think you meant to post that to the OP.
OP- Stop using hormones as an excuse for you being a brat and thinking the world revolves around you.
The last several posters that were saying "Oh your friend must be awful if you feel that way" (Um... I think the poster is the awful one here... ) and "oh I don't blame you because some people arre just so competitive." Come off it. She is the one griping here.
She's also a couple days behind her friend.
She didn't say "Oh my friend is so competitive and I know she will drive me nuts" This was her stewing because she's a brat.
Don't try to coddle her. That's what she wants. (Oh don't worry honey... it's okay to be a crazy 'jelous' witch) Not okay. (and yes I spelled that wrong on purpose so that it matched her post.
When we found out my father was dying, one of my friend's father had just died. I'm so blessed to have had her because we would be able to go through the emotions together because some people don't understand.
I wish even today, she was pregnant again. I would love to have someone who will be due the same time. Then you can have play dates during your FMLA leave and someone who can share with you the emotions and body changes you are going through. And what better way to have a friend to grab ice cream with all the time!
I think you are being a bit over dramatic about this. I could see if you were upset if you were trying for months on end and she got pregnant. Those are feelings people have.
You need to do a friend check because it doesn't sound like you two are that great of friends. Also, if you feel it is a competition, you must be a "Keeping up with the Jones'" individual.
The only way it's going to be like that, is if YOU make it that way. So don't. Problem solved.
Um, my bff found out she was pregnant 2 months after I had a m/c. I was so sad that we weren't pregnant at the same time, like we had hoped. And despite my own sadness about our loss, I was elated for her. And now that I'm pregnant again (and, funny enough, 18 weeks behind her), we chat all the time about how we're feeling. And she provides me with her benchmarks so I can see where I fall in comparison. NOT to compete, but to support one another.
You're just a mean friend.
A good friend of my DH and his wife are expecting a surprise second baby 1 week before my EDD. Even though my TTC road was long and difficult, I haven't had any issues in sharing the spotlight with DH's friend.
It is very likely our children will "share experiences" with one another, because we socialize often, but I don't think that necessarily translates into a competition.
Try to curb your feelings of jealousy if you value that friendship at all.
I remember that.
How is she doing?
Also, I didn't know you were pregnant again! Congrats!
You mean she actually got pregnant around the same time you did?! How dare she!!
Seriously, this is either MUD or you have a case of pregnancy hormones gone wild.
I think it's normal to have a flash of that feeling, but then it's time to get over it and be excited to share this experience with your friend.
We are really excited to have our first baby and also found out that my SIL is due with her second a few weeks after us, and DH's best friend and his wife are due two days after us.
I'm really excited that our baby will have a playmate and cousin so close in age.
When I was pg with DS there were 6 of us pregnant at the same time 2 of them my SIL's, one of my close friends and 3 other friends. We were so happy to have kids close in age to share things, talk to about everything, etc....
Well the same close friend found out she was pg this fall and due in July she actually told me and DH that this time she hoped that nobody was pg when she was.
When I found out I was pg earlier this month, I phoned my bff to tell her my good news and she was actually waiting for her HCG to come back to see if she was pg and I hoped she was because we would LOVE to be pg together, or I would love to have any friends of family find out their pg while i'm pg. DS has lots of family and friend his age, and I would love this LO to have that as well.
Compairing things like when they walk, talk, cut their first teeth, how much they weight etc. DOES NOT have to be a competition. We always talked about this stuff but nothing was ever a competition.
You are being a brat. One of my close friends and I had babies weeks apart last summer. It has been FANTASTIC! Not only do I have someone to talk to and commisserate and celebrate with, my daughter has a friend to hang out with
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We have NEVER compared our children's milestones. We both realize that babies do things in their own time and honestly it has never been even the slightest issue.
We even had a double baby shower. We have the same crowd of friends and it was a ton of fun! She had a boy and I had a girl and it was great to see each other's stuff
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i had to read this twice to see if i missed that this was a joke or something.
i think you are being totally crazy! i read everyones comments and while they were pretty funny, they are true. you need to relax & be thankful you are pregnant at all, some people cant even have babies. & i would love it if one of my friends were pregnant with me! i think any normal person would....they definetly would not think of it as a competition-that is ridiculous.
Natural M/C at 7 weeks 9.17.08 Natural M/C at 7 weeks 2.1.13
Ditto this.
Do you seriously think she should have consulted you on TTC?
Do your friend a favor and tell her exactly how you feel, that way she can wise up and drop you.
DD- 9
DS-6
c/p- April 2016
missed m/c- 6w5d; discovered 8w2d- September 2016
In my bag: Nikon D90; 35mm 1.8, 90mm 2.8 macro (my fave), Lensbaby Composer with macro extensions. BFP after 13 cycles and one ectopic. Lost left tube 5/19/10.
why would you even post this?
this is horrible.
Hopefully they won't have to compare their mom's spelling, because you would lose.
Get OVER it. I would be thrilled if one of my best friends was having a baby so close, and was happy that one just had her second last week- she hlped a lot with questions I had. Are you 15 years old?
::lurking from 3rd tri::
I would be so happy for them. Like many of the other girls have said I wish I had a RL friend that was pregnant around the time I am. I remember when I told one of my best friends, who has been trying for over a year to get pg, she cried and was so happy for me! I feel bad that's it's taking her so long and it took me 3 months. I really hope it's hormonal, what you're feeling.
Tee hee...