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3rd Trimester
XP: Mature Audiences only-kind of TMI
So as you all know DH made a huge mistake 3 months ago and had a one night stand with a childhood friend....just decided to come clean last week...
SO I have been devastated, angry, sad, resentful, depressed, the whole 9.
Yesterday a new emotion shows up-lust?
When
DH came home from work I really wanted him (WEIRD) we had some really
good sexy time...it seemed like the best we have had since conceiving
LO! Seriously it was so good, and I am not sure why but I felt like a
new person afterward, it was like pent up angry sex, wrapped up with
love, and frustration. During the sex he told me he would never hurt me
like that again, he told me he only wants me forever like in a
passionate way almost crying...it was so erotic-like, I cannot explain
it. I had not one uncomfortable feeling during it, there were multiple
orgasms 
...
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Re: XP: Mature Audiences only-kind of TMI
a NBR added to the title would have been helpful. I don't think this is an appropriate post - would you walk into a roomful of strangers and tell them all about your angry make up sex? I sure hope not.
I'm just going to stop there and not comment further.
Damn I thought I had blocked you! I guess not.... well consider it done.
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LOL
wow, do you block everyone who disagrees with something you say?
You disagree with everything I say and rarely have anything nice to comment to me...so I rather just block you so that you don't have to annoy me anymore.
Silly me, I thought it was board related. Sorry I'm not going to tell her what she wants to hear.
Are you really 4 days past due?
Poor woman, labor dust being sent your way!!
I love you screen name LOL made me laugh!
Yet you couldn't resist...
Anyway, I think the OP was BR.
BWAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA!
FINALLY, someone said it! Thank you!!!
board related.
Ok I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this. OP I hope things work out for you but I really think you need to think about this more clearly.
Oh yes. It's super sweet of him to tell you he'll never fvck another girl while he's fvcking you.
Disgusting.
What firehouse is your H stationed at?I'm a FDNY baby grew up in the firehouse!
phew, I was beginning to think I had entered some sort of Bump Twilight Zone where cheating spouses are accepted. The amount of smoke being blown up her ass here and on our birth month board is ridiculous.
I think I see a justified DD in the near future.
OP, I am one who really does think that cheating can be worked through and a relationship can live through it. I think that your DH sounds like he is truly repentant and I think that counseling will help you both. I also think that resuming sexual relations is an important step in the process of forgiveness and return to normalcy for BOTH of you. I personally have never been in your shoes (and I hope I never have to be) but I have helped many other people in your shoes to seek counseling and find forgiveness and I think that a lot of the animosity you are seeing from people here has to do with lack of understanding on their part. Their lives are apparently perfect as are the lives of everyone they have ever been personally involved with. That is really too bad for them because odds are that it won't stay that way, pretty much all of us are faced with bad at some point in our lives, how we deal with those things and how we treat others as they deal with them speaks directly to our character.
For the comments about exposing her child to STDs, the OP has probably been having sex with her husband for the last 3 months. My guess is that in that time she has been tested by her doctor. I have no reason to disbelieve her husband that it was a one time infraction, and neither do you. Plus, you don't know what precautions were taken ....unless you are the childhood friend he committed the infraction with?
I'll PM you that info..he doesn't like to much info being let out about 'the job' you know how it is
I am so done talking about things on here, until any of you have walked in my shoes and have an idea of how something like this feels, then you cannot talk about what I should have been doing or not.
So am I supposed to be angry forever, while I am pregnant? My husband used a condom with the one nighter, and we have had sex before I even knew what happened....give me a break?!?
How did I make light of his cheating...have you been on here the past week?
My life is torn the F up right now, and all you can do is put me down!??!?!
Don't worry ladies I will never post anything on here again about my husband...
You ABSOLUTELY should get tested for STDs. Her OB would not necessarily have tested her for these. Her H should get tested as well. And you both should get retested. Please OP talk to your dr about this. Your child could suffer a birth defect or disease that could be treatable/preventable.
I think it's hilarious that the sarcasm wasn't picked up here! Maybe I noticed it only because I'm sarcastic myself lol
OP it seems to me that you can't handle the truth, if you're blocking people because you don't like what they have to say. Isn't that the point of this whole place? To get honest opinions from people so you can consider all options?
Your husband told you he'd never hurt you again because you gave up the goods. I think counseling is great and I really hope it works out for you but you really need to learn to handle the truth. The truth is ugly and it's not always nice. You can't always avoid it!
NEWSFLASH
no one is exempt from cheating, you DH's could be cheating right now and you would have no idea...still sleeping with him and everything...none of you are any better than me, and I do not have to explain or justify what I do to you people.
For the comments about exposing her child to STDs, the OP has probably been having sex with her husband for the last 3 months. My guess is that in that time she has been tested by her doctor. I have no reason to disbelieve her husband that it was a one time infraction, and neither do you. Plus, you don't know what precautions were taken ....unless you are the childhood friend he committed the infraction with?
Did you just crawl out from under a rock?
Do you live in the land of rainbows and puppy dogs?
You have no reason to disbelieve him? lol do you have a reason to believe him? I do have a reason NOT to believe him...how about because he already did it? How about because he hasn't even been married that long? How about because he broke his vows? Yep, seems like a really trustworthy guy.
OP- you're a moron. He'll cheat on you again- mark my words. Especially now that he knows it'll improve your sex life.
WishLuckyStar- you're also a moron. While the OP is touched in the head, you're actually outraged that someone posted something non baby-related on a public message board? It must be nice that The Bump is employing you to police the boards... oh... wait.
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So this is a GBCK for a topic? This may be a first.
The point of posting something on a board is to get responses/feedback on the subject. If you don't want feedback (or if you only want to hear one type of response) then get a diary. Or a Twitter account.
Oh, he used a condom? Then it doesn't count, right?
No, I blocked her because she is always ignorant and has nothing positive to say to me EVER... I have been on the bump my entire pregnancy and she is always a B to me.
Please do not make like of my situation this is not funny at all....but whatever you and your life is perfect, keep on living in your cloud.
He used a condome? How do you know? Oh, that's right you believe him, he is a real stand up guy!
How have you made light? YOU HAD SEX with him and you havent even gone to counseling~~~~ wow You had sex with him without being tested, and you are in denial about trusting him!
Your life is F'd up right now and you are choosing to make a bigger mess of it. we arent putting you down we are trying to get you to realize how messed up your choices have been since you found out!
You don't have to post anything else about your H we will NEVER forget what a scumbag he is and how you are living on a fantasy world!
Your right you dont have to justify anything to anyone. But.... to most people its NOT OK that your DH committed adultry. I personally would have chopped my husbands diick off and shoved it and his balls down his throat. The thought of having sex with my DH after he has had sex with another woman while we were married absolutely repulses me. I couldnt get over it this quickly. Though you are going thru counseling which is the right thing regardless how the outcomes winds up.
You need to get stronger for yourself and LO this man betrayed you, disrespected you and your marraige. And when you go back and read the things he said to you during sex I am sure we have all said things in the "heat of the moment". I wish you nothing but the best.
Eh perhaps I was beating around the bush. You're right, instead of asking her to put a NBR in the title so I can avoid her drama in the future I should have attacked her personally and called her a moron....much better tactic.
Honey... you're the one living on a cloud. Not one of the responders said that their H's would never cheat on them (because you just never know). They take issue with you having sex with someone who cheated on you and actually thinking that it was some sweet, bonding experience because your shthead of a husband said he wouldn't cheat on you while he fvcked you. WAKE UP!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Ok no you are a bitter *ss woman who knows nothing about me or my husband, besides what I put on the bump...don't get all high on the hog, hun because unless you are in my marriage and have to deal with the same things I am dealing with you have no idea. It is not a fact that if someone cheats once they will definitely do it again. I am not "touched in the head" at all.
I'm sorry, I had a hard time making it past your horrible grammar.
My life is nowhere near perfect. I never said it was, but you better believe if my FI cheated on me he'd be kicked to the curb. Especially if I was pregnant with his child while he was cheating!
Like I said...disgusting.
If you can't handle peoples opinions and thoughts then why the frick are you posting on here? You are exactly right that no has walked in your shoes so no one knows *exactly* what you're going through. But people only know what you post. You post on here to get opinions and thoughts on how to handle something and yet you want to say "you cannot talk about what I should have been doing or not." I don't think this place is what you need. Seems you just want to vent so maybe a blog is a good idea for you. And how in the world do you expect to accomplish anything in counseling when you can't handle advice from other people here? I'm sorry, maybe I got what a counselor does confused. I thought a counselor gives advice and gives an input on how to handle things. Silly me for thinking that's what people do here! ::smacks myself::