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Nursing & Bonding Question

ChristinaD09ChristinaD09
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Does your baby stare at you while you nurse?  Mine doesn't, at all.  He will occassionally look up at me, but mostly he stares at the pictures on the wall behind me (we do a football hold).  Even if I try to talk to him some.  I feel like we don't "bond" when I nurse him, at all.  How do you interact with your baby while you nurse?  He nurses for sooo long (45 minutes to an hour usually) and I feel like that's wasted time, aside from him getting full, of course. 
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  • dantodanto member

    I was recently thinking about this too!  The two occasions where I gave LO a bottle of expressed BM were the ONLY times we made eye contact while she ate.  Otherwise her eyes are closed or staring at my boob (we do a cradle hold - so she doesn't get to look at anything).

    Talking seems to distract her from eating - so I watch tv or surf the web - not so much bonding there.

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  • sugaboogasugabooga member

    I started worrying when I  read that they will look up at you  and make  eye contact while feeding because lo rarely does. DH reassured me that although we arent making eye contact we are still bonding. they recognize your smell, voice, etc  and just appreciate the closeness from  being held.

    I also worried that he doesn't turn to look for me when he hears my voice. Again, dh reassured me that LO recognizes it because when he is with him and crying and i come into the room, he settles down. 

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  • snowflake26snowflake26

    Trust me...They don't need to be making eye contact to bond  The bonding occurs with being so close, your warmth, smell..What I usually do is is get my baby to grasp onto my finger...or I rub her head softly...

     

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  • violetblue72violetblue72
    And just wanted to add the eye contact comes in time...
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  • KonrsBrideKonrsBride

    The bond with nursing is way more intense than just eye contact. Wait until they pull off, look up and you, and smile with milk dribbling out of their little mouth. You'll just melt.

    Your smell, taste, touch, and your body are comforts for your LO. Keep it up, you're doing just fine! And don't feel guilty about multi-tasking. That's another advantage of nursing. =)

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