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Shower after the baby?

cutiegirl147cutiegirl147
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So most of my extended family lives about 400 miles away and my mom is really pushing me to have the baby shower after the baby is born so they can all attend and actually see the baby.  I'm due in August and everyone just visited in May for my college graduation, so it's very unlikely that they'll come down again just for a shower and then come again to see the baby.  I'm not sure about having the shower after the baby though, because isn't the point of a shower to get things that need to prepare and be ready for the baby?  We do already have most of the stuff we need, except for a carseat, bottles, and a few other small things, but still, I think if we have the shower after the baby we'll only get clothes!  I don't know, I like the idea of everyone getting to see the baby, but I'm not sold on having the shower after the baby.  Oh yeah, and my mother is not hosting, my friend is, but she said it's my choice on when to have it.
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  • pam1005pam1005 member
    Take into consideration that you will be very tired after the baby comes.  There is no way I would have been up for a shower until at least 6 weeks post partum.  Also, think about when you want your baby to be around lots of people.  I never minded having DS around a couple of people at a time, but he was not around a lot of people until at least three months (even then I was nuts about people washing their hands).  You have already thought about the things that you need before your LO arrives, but if you are up for having a meet the baby party, then go for it.  Your guests will love to see the baby.
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  • K.a.T.eK.a.T.e member

    Lots of people host a "sip and see" or open house after baby is born.  It's usually 2-4 weeks after LO gets here.

    Totally your call on whether or not you want to do it.  

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  • harr3229harr3229 member

    We're in the same boat. All of my family lives out of state and my mom doesn't want to throw a shower without them being able to meet the baby. I understand her concerns since everybody will be traveling so far, so she is throwing me a meet the baby shower. It will be 3-4 weeks after the baby is born...a little sooner than I would like it, but oh well. There's still lots of little things that we need but I figured we could wait an extra few weeks.?

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  • hopefulmomhopefulmom member
    My DD had her DS's shower given almost 3 weeks after his birth.  Her GF had the invites ready to go out...except the date...so once he was born they were mailed.  It worked out really well.  A lot of people bought off the registry or gave her gift cards to the store.  She did have to buy a few things in advance (carseat obviously, a few onesies, receiving blankets, etc).  They had plenty of diapers from the hospital as well as other supplies.  They also bought the bassinet but those are that expensive.  She wasn't tired in the least since she didn't do a thing in regards to the shower.  Worked out well.  She decided to have it after because she didn't know if she was having a girl/boy and didn't want everything to be green or yellow.  lol  She got quite a few clothes but fortunately many were in bigger sizes and just enough in the small sizes.
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  • cutiegirl147cutiegirl147
    Thanks for the advice!  I didn't even really think about how tired I'd be after baby, and since I may possibly have a c-section it might be better to go with the regular shower before and maybe invite my family down for a smaller event after she's born.  Thanks
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  • David'sgirlDavid'sgirl
    Since my son was born prematurely we had the shower after he was born and at home. It was great because I really only got items that I needed. I was tired but I enjoyed myself. (It was even held at my house so that we wouldn't have to transport gifts)
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  • NormanLUnderwood2010NormanLUnderwood2010
    Me and my wife decided to have our shower after our baby was born.
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  • Mandih104Mandih104
    I think it's a great idea to wait. Yes you might be tired but it'll be nice to have a day to let everyone else do the hard work!! plus i think maybe there's  a TON of things i had on my registry that maybe you're over looking, like things for when baby gets bigger. Sippie cups, bowls, silverware, walkers, jumpy seats, bath tubs, potty seats, etc., There are plenty of things you can have others buy you beside just clothes and if you register people will buy what you ask for, especially if it's mostly small things. Get just the basics now and have the shower later.
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