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DH vent-am I being unreasonable?
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To explain to you a little about my situation, I work PT, usually around 17 hours a week and I make my own hours. 2 days a week, DH watches DS and 3 days my stepmom watches him. Every now and then (like today) my hours can't match perfectly, so DH will watch him for the beginning of my shift and he takes him to my SM's afterwards.
Every.single.time a schedule like today happens, DH will bring DS to SMs in an outfit that's not weather appropriate (usually way underdressed). Today is rainy and 50 degrees out. DH brought DS over in a tshirt onesie and nothing else.
Usually the mornings that I take care of DS alone, I will premeasure bottles for the rest of the day so I'm not scrambling when DS is hungry. We use the dropins system, so I get the bottles ready all at once with formula premeasured so all I have to do is throw in 4oz of water and everything's ready (I have enough for a day's worth of bottles). DS was hungry when I got home and DH took the last botle and didn't restock.
DS is a really easy baby-he never cries, plays indepedently so it's not hard to do things when he's around at all. I have no idea how DH is going to handle 2.
Of course, pregnancy hormones didn't help and I called DH and screamed at him before DS went down for his nap which I feel guilty about. I hate yelling in front of DS. Ugh.
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Re: DH vent-am I being unreasonable?
I would lay the outfits out for DH so you feel confident DC is dressed well. Have you talked about the bottle issue in a calm way? It is hard when men don't listen.
On another note, congrats on the pregnancy!
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I usually do lay out an outfit, but I was lazy this morning. lol
Thanks!
Unreasonable is a strong word. Unrealistic is better. You can scream until you're blue in the face about this one, but the reality is like PP said--daddies are daddies, mommies are mommies. We plan things out to the smallest detail while they're shooting from the hip. I've been "talking" to my own DH for 2 years now about weather-appropriate clothing and making a new pitcher of formula before children wake up screaming, and while he tries, he's just not me. The kids will wear shoes with no socks when it's 40 degrees outside. Their clothes won't match. Or, my personal favorite, breakfast will blend with lunch and diapers will overflow from not being changed out from the night before. Does it piss me off? In the wise words of Sarah Palin, you betcha. Does it really affect the health and wellbeing of my children? Probably not--and when it does, I bring it to his attention and he never does it again.
Pick your battles when your second child arrives. Your energy will be precious to you!
This. My husband tries to help, but when he dresses Jaiden, he mis-matches the poor kid or puts the most random socks that don't match AT ALL and it drives me nuts. So if I know my husband is going to get him dressed, I leave an outfit out. He appreciates it. It's stressful for him to pick out the baby's clothes. He doesn't even like to pick out his own clothes lol.
DH started being a SAHD a month ago. At first I got really aggrevatd because he didn;t do things exactly like I did when I stayed home with DD. He didn;t keep bottles clean. He didn;t keep up with laundry. He didn;t dress her in what I liked. I had to take a chill pill and realize that what he is doing what works for him. As long as DD is happy, healthy, and fed, DH can take care of her however he choses. (I just run a tight ship when I'm in charge!)