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robynlesley
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Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
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Edit: I'm an idiot, have fun bashing me
robynlesley
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I felt a need to post this today. I hope I don't offend anyone.
My husband is great with our son and really does help me with his care?although I do handle more of it than he does. But for the last 3 days, he's been helping his parents move and I've been alone with DS.
I am wrecked. I called my best friend to help me grocery shop. I just plopped the baby in the crib (crying) so I could walk the dog (locked the condo but did leave him alone). Tonight is DH's birthday and his brother won Yankee tickets and DH is like "can I go" and I said yes, leaving me alone with DS again. And he's so tired and cranky and I'm not sure how I can manage a bath alone and I'm considering skipping it.
I didn't meet my DH until I was 36 and I had all these ideas of finding a sperm donor and going it alone. I'm so glad that didn't happen.
So whether you are single by choice or circumstance, I just wanted to let you know how much I respect and admire you. It is NOT easy to take care of a baby/child (or more than one) and you do it EVERY DAY.
EDIT: I just changed the title of this topic but did not delete any content. I apologize for upsetting you. I was being sincere. But obviously it doesn't matter. And to those who feel I endangered my child, I truly am saddened. Leaving my baby in his crib while taking my dog outside for 5 minutes in the pouring rain does not equal child endangerment.
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
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Re: Edit: I'm an idiot, have fun bashing me
::eyeroll:: You have GOT to be kidding me. Your DH leaves you alone for THREE days and you go comparing that to single parents who do this 365 days a year? Get over yourself. Fast.
I am not even going to touch the fact that you left your baby ALONE in the house.
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Also, seriously - get yourself some help. If you could conceivably leave an 8 month alone in a house to walk a dog, you need psychological counseling. I'm not being a smartass. Talk to your OB/Primary Care about PPD, for the love of God.
*counting the minutes til this is DD'd*
You can't be serious, right?!
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............. You left your son alone?
OK... and umm... sorry but being single for a few days is NOT what these ladies deal with.
.....WOW.
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This makes me so sad. You really left your child alone in the house to walk a dog? And you can't care for him on your own for three days? Like a lot of other posters have said, you may need to look into professional help.
This kind of makes my heart hurt. There is so much wrong with what you just wrote I don't know where to start.
Seriously, you left your baby in a crib (while crying) so you can walk the dog? Alone...in the house...where anything could happen?
Oh, and don't compare your 3 days to these women on this board...they have been a single parent for weeks, months, and years...it's sad you can't handle just 3 days.
You honestly need to drop your baby off with a trusted family member and get help...maybe you are suffering from PPD. I am mortified.
So so wrong. I will take your baby and love him if you dont want him.
Seriously.
The freakin dog can wait. It's your BABY. Ugh, I am disgusted by you.
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I raise you a "HOLY MARY MOTHER OF GOD!"
Sweet Mother of God...really? You are a special kind of crazy. Who leaves their infant ALONE IN THE HOUSE TO WALK THE FREAKING DOG?? (Yep, that is me yelling at the screen!)
Please call someone to take care of that poor innocent baby...obviously you can't.
And I have been a single mother...I was for 7 years. Please do not compare your 3 days to what these women do! Psycho.
alone with your own CHILD? for a WHOLE four days?! omg. stop the presses.
Dayum, even trashy barbie doesn't leave her kids at home alone.
see?
Labor Buddy to Blowfish11
Do you realize leaving your child alone in your house is neglect and you can lose your child? No I am not being overly dramatic either. Get some help. I can not believe you thought that was ok.
As a mandatory reporter of abuse and neglect - I wish I knew who you are so I could report this and get you the help you obviously need.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Totally did not expect the smack down from everyone and I guess I can take it. And I was completely serious in my admiration for single parents. I guess expressing it was a BIG mistake on my part.
Yes, I left my baby in his crib for 5 minutes while I took the dog out to pee in the pouring rain. My DS has been cranky teething all day and, thus, was crying. I didn't want to drag him out in the rain. So I locked the door to my condo and took the dog to the grass outside. Then I turned around and came back in and picked up my son.
Yeah, go ahead and call CPS for that. I never endangered his welfare. The short time he was alone he was safe. Maybe not happy but he was safe.
I've also SHOWERED when my son was in his crib. He is 8 months old and does not like to be alone. But there are times when you have to take care of yourself. Relieve yourself. Do you bring your child into the bathroom?
I made a HUGE mistake posting and I won't DD. I'll leave it and let you flame me. Have fun.
I still cannot imagine taking care of my son, alone, all the time. I still admire those of you who do this daily. But I don't admire the nastiness shown to me.
But I'm a big girl and can take it. Flame away.
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
you're an idiot.
It only takes one second for something terrible to happen. It only took a split second for my nephew to die while nobody was watching what he was doing.
It's not fun to know that someone is falling down on the job of parenting.
But nice job on trying to backpedal.
Labor Buddy to Blowfish11
Actually yes, my child did go to the restroom with me. Yes, he follows me in there now, but if he was awake when he was younger, and crying, I did take him with me.
Your mistake in posting was on various levels. At least you can admit that. While I too admire how hard the single mamas work to provide wonderful lives for their little ones, I would NEVER dare to compare what I go through alone with my child for a couple of days, to what they do every day with no break. I can truly see how it is offensive to them.
I sincerely apologize for offending everyone here and I'm backing away from this board and I won't return.
Bronx Zoo: Summer 2013
To read my blog, click on the giraffe pic below!
Yes. To pee and to shower. He sat in a bouncy when he was little and he sits in a booster chair now that he's older.
I would have let my dog pee on the floor.
I am LMAO at the Samuel L. Jackson pic.
Had you said, I took the dog outside the front door to go to the bathroom there wouldn't be the large amounts of flaming. You said, I locked the door and took the dog for a WALK. Those are two completely different things. If you were standing right in front on the grass, why lock the door?
Hmm.
As a regular on the single parents board I want to say that MOST of these responses were not from a single parent! With that, while it's not exactly grown up to be calling people names, I do believe you took people by surprise with your comment about leaving your child alone in the house while taking your dog for a WALK. I can not say for everyone, but my first thought was that you took a 15 minute walk around your neighborhood. Had you said you went in your front yard, to let your dog relieve himself it would have gone over differently.
While being alone with lo for 4 days straight when your not used to it can be rough, it does not warrant leaving lo unattended while you leave the house, there are SO many things that can go wrong! If nothing else, try calling a friend to get a 30 minute break, or take a nap when lo takes a nap.
I hope your H comes home soon.
Really, 3 whole days. Woo freaking hoo! Do you want a medal? My husband had to move 3,000 miles away for work. He was gone 9 months. Yes, it sucked, but I managed to function all on my own. I also appreciate how much work goes into single parenting (and I knew that before my husband left, my mom was a great single parent) but I would never come here and insult these hard working single parents because I was alone with my own child for 3 whole days.
I also agree you need serious help. I'm not even going to start on the abandoning of your child.
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Actually, yes. Leaving your child completely alone and helpless for 5 minutes is child endangerment. You put your child IN DANGER. Jackalope.
The fact that you still don't get that is even more terrifying.
i don't get a lot of things in your post, OP. doesn't your 8 month old take two naps/day? if you just have to run outside to let the dog pizz, can't you do it while he's sleeping, instead of dumping him in his crib crying?
and what is it about not being able to "handle" a bath by yourself? does your husband ALWAYS do this? what else does he ALWAYS do?
i may be making assumptions here, but if you have trouble handling your 8 month old for 3 days alone, you either have a REALLY needy baby, or you simply don't know your baby, meaning you probably don't spend enough time with him. all i'm saying is that every day is precious with your LO, you should learn to enjoy it, instead of freaking out about how HARD it is.
best of luck to ya.