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Selfish Pregnant SIL! Arrrrgggghhhh Vent!
We just got back from brunch with the in-laws and my SIL decided to announce that she was pregnant too! GREAT! She thinks she is about 5-6 weeks along.
My LO is the first grandchild on both sides of the family, and DH and I really liked that, however the more the merrier.
While she is announcing her pregnancy she looks to my husband and I and says, " I got pregnant so no one would forget about me."
I could have slapped her across the room into the dessert buffet.
At first I thought she was joking, but DH asked are you serious and she said, " Uh, yes we got on it when you guys said you were pregnant!"
Then she started with the food aversions and nausea at the table! She should have won an Oscar. Her useless husband just sat there.
So it took my a good year and a half to get pregnant and she cant stand not being the center of attention so she get KU in less than a month.
My sweet DH was so angry he started to sweat at the table.
Oh wait the best part! She actually said, " Lets see who has the most people at their shower."
BIOTCH!
Does anyone else have a SIL like mine!
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Re: Selfish Pregnant SIL! Arrrrgggghhhh Vent!
she sounds lovely. I am so happy DH doesn't have a sister.
She does sound quite young though. Age?
She is 31 ! Yes 31!
Kind of but not nearly the B yours is, lol.
We told my FIL, MIL, and BIL we were pregnant when we were at the house staying for the weekend. We went ahead and told them the night before we planned to tell the rest of the family because well I was really sick and it was going to be a question.
We were really happy and felt great after telling them so we deiced to tell two more people, my other BIL and SIL. We went over to their house that night and told them. We told them we would be telling the rest of the family tomorrow during my husbands Graduation lunch (MBA program grad).
Well, the next morning before I even got out of bed my husband walked into my room were I was just starting to wake up and shows me an u/s photo. I sat up and looked at him and said "nooooo" really softly with a confused look. He said yes, SIl and BIL (the ones we told that night) are down stairs they just told MIL and FIL they are also pregnant.
I was not upset at the fact that they were pregnant but that they choose to take that moment away from us. If we would have found out they were pregnant before telling them we would have waited to tell the family a different weekend because its nice to have those moments.
So after crying and taking a shower I made it down stars. I said my congrats. SIL sits next to me and says "I know how you feel I felt the same way last night when you told us. I cried after you guys left" I just looked at her with a blank look and said "So feeling the way you did last night you thought it would be a good idea to make me feel the same way? I would never had done that to you"
Our kids were born less than 24 hours apart, lol. DS was first and her DD was next. We are trying to look past the event. It is still hurtful, but the important thing now are our kids. We both want them to have a good relationship. After all they are a day apart.
The thing I would watch now is that people are going to want to plan showers together for the two of you. And once your LOs are born since they will be so close in age people are going to start comparing notes.
I hope it works out.
My SIL turned to my BFF after talking about my pregnancy and the gender and whined..."I wanted to be the one to give my family the first girl".
She's the youngest, not married, and her brother and I tried for over a year just to get pregnant. I feel ya.
Wow, what a B!tch
I'm so sorry you have to deal with that!
I have 2 SILs due within 2 months of me, due within days of each other actually but neither did it so they wouldn't be left out. They planned on having more kids before I even got pregnant.
It sucks now especially since she's being such a brat about it, but it will be fun when your kids are older and have a cousin so close in age!
My BIL and SIL did this one to us. Before we knew the gender they announced that they hoped we didn't have a boy because they wanted to have the first boy. Sorry! I try to understand because BIL is older than my husband, but he and his wife dated for 13 years (!!!) before they got married and were pissed because my husband's older sister and my husband both got married before they could. Hello! You had 13 years! And now the sister had a little girl last year and our boy is due in August and they are mad we had kids first. Hello! 13 years! /vent.
What. the. heck.
My SIL is a spoiled drama queen, but she hasn't done anything like THAT! It's so touchy because you want to be happy for her that she's pregnant, but she seriously did it only because she HAD to be the center of attention? I'd have some words with her. Obviously nothing can be done about it now, but if this is a way of life with her, she needs to wake up'!
I see your point, but if you had been there you would have aimed a butter knife at her too!
She said she got pregnant because she felt left out. She also had her wedding a week after mine.
I actually congratulated her at first but b/c she made the comment about her not getting any attention is what set us off. Even my MIL told her she was pretty petty!
UGH!!! So sorry you had to endure such craziness. One of my SIL's is pregnant with her 3rd child and due a month before me. She had a m/c shortly after I had mine a couple of years ago. She knew all of my struggles in getting pregnant and when she was one of the first people to know I was pregnant she let me have my excitement for a few weeks. She called me a few weeks later to let me know she was pregnant, too-due a month before me. We don't live near each other, but we talk every week. I really appreciated her letting me have my "first time moments" and she gets all excited for me whenever we talk.
Do you happen to have another SIL who might not be quite as biotchy??
I agree... she's going to have a rude awakening when that baby gets more attention than her!
Holy mother of God- yours takes the cake! I can't stand people like her. Bringing a life into this world for all the wrong reasons. Wow. Just wow.
Good Luck with that. Sure she's going to be an award winning parent.
THIS!!!
The day my SIL found out we were having a girl she called and said "Well, let me put on my happy face and tell you we are SO excited y'all are having a baby girl."
I don't have self control either...its best we don't see or talk much. The bad thing is we are neighbors...YEP...we live right...next...door...to one another
JOY JOY
I couldn't agree more. These posts usually make me roll my eyes and move on quickly to avoid the drama. In this case, though, OP's SIL is way out of line.
OP - good luck with this. Easier said than done, I'm sure, but just try not to get sucked in to it.
Not even going to dare get sucked into it! She did this same type of thing when we bought our house, wedding etc.
I will just congratulate her as usual!