Seriously... he hasn't made it to one of these damn appointments. I have to go in on Sunday at 9am for another ultrasound and bloodwork. Is he going? Hell no! He is going to play tennis and he'd be "really bummed" if he missed the game with the boys. I am pissed. I have gone to EVERY appointment by myself. Including the one where I was told my eggs are old, you are old, old, old, old. It's not like he will make it to any during the week either since he has to work. Gee, I wonder if it will be an inconvenience for him to show up to the two back to back IUIs. Do you think these shots are already affecting my personality? I feel like throwing things. ::reaches for entire bottle of wine::
4 losses (cp Feb 28 09, mc April 9 09 (5w5d), mc Aug 10 09 (7w1d), d&c Apr 12 10 (grew to 6w3d, mc confirmed at 8w5d).
RX: Overies PCOS (hormones normal) & Balanced Translocation of Ch. 7 & 13 (40-50% mc risk)
I'd be pissed, too. I think it's time for a Saturday morning intervention tomorrow.
I'm getting the feeling that your DH is a laid back, chill kind of dude and can't handle the heaviness of this whole situation. I think it's time to face reality.
I'd be pissed, too. I think it's time for a Saturday morning intervention tomorrow.
I'm getting the feeling that your DH is a laid back, chill kind of dude and can't handle the heaviness of this whole situation. I think it's time to face reality.
BINGO! You nailed him. He likes to "see what happens" kind of guy. And usuallly that is a-ok with me. We had a very indepth talk Monday morning. I started crying saying I felt like I was doing this on my own. I am the one who has to take the shots, be probed more then I would prefer, and bloodwork like I am the world donor. It is tough. I thought we made progress, but he just doesn't get it. I am not sure how to get through to him. I don't want to beg, I just want him to understand that I need him there for me. I hate feeling like I am making a baby on my own. I realize that the romance of it is not there anymore, but still. Regarldess of medical intervention, we are still doing this together. He is going to force me to speak with his mama - he is a mama's boy and I am the daughter she never had.
I'm sorry Kona. I would be mad too. Have you specifically told him that you need him to be there to support you? Sometimes that works with my Dh, sometimes he still doesn't get it.
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle! April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
Re: I just flipped on DH
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
4 losses (cp Feb 28 09, mc April 9 09 (5w5d), mc Aug 10 09 (7w1d), d&c Apr 12 10 (grew to 6w3d, mc confirmed at 8w5d). RX: Overies PCOS (hormones normal) & Balanced Translocation of Ch. 7 & 13 (40-50% mc risk)
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Well, I have two fat yummy steaks to cook tonight - guess who isn't getting one.
ditto.
I hope he changes his mind when he sees how important it is to you. ::BIG hugs::
Jenn
3 IUI's all BFN
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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That and everything else. Guess who gets to sleep in the bed with me tonight - LUNA! Forget him, he can sleep in her room. pfffft
I'd be pissed, too. I think it's time for a Saturday morning intervention tomorrow.
I'm getting the feeling that your DH is a laid back, chill kind of dude and can't handle the heaviness of this whole situation. I think it's time to face reality.
BINGO! You nailed him. He likes to "see what happens" kind of guy. And usuallly that is a-ok with me. We had a very indepth talk Monday morning. I started crying saying I felt like I was doing this on my own. I am the one who has to take the shots, be probed more then I would prefer, and bloodwork like I am the world donor. It is tough. I thought we made progress, but he just doesn't get it. I am not sure how to get through to him. I don't want to beg, I just want him to understand that I need him there for me. I hate feeling like I am making a baby on my own. I realize that the romance of it is not there anymore, but still. Regarldess of medical intervention, we are still doing this together. He is going to force me to speak with his mama - he is a mama's boy and I am the daughter she never had.
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
He is sulking... and I don't care :P