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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
Judgey Mc Judge
What do you hate that other parents do?
Here's mine:
- unwiped runny noses
- letting your kids watch tv during dinner, especially while screaming "shut up- i cant hear spongebob!!"
- ridiculous threats, i.e. "If you dont get in the car, we will NEVER leave the house again!"
- allowing snacks, candy and junk food when your child won't eat a normal dinner
- dragging kids by arms. legs, hair. Or better yet, with leashes.
- when a child is behaving TERRIBLY, saying "if you are good the rest of the night, I'll get you this ____- are you going to be good??" and then purchasing said item. With no proof of better behavior to come.
So, let's hear it- what are you parenting pet peeves? Put on your McJudge hat and let 'em rip.
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Re: Judgey Mc Judge
I don't like parents who harshly discipline their children in public.
Okay I'll bite!
- definalty the runny nose
- kids that are not "dressed"- hate kids out in pajamas
- Definlaty not a fan of the leash- but feel it may be a safety issue
- parents that say "my child will potty train when he/she is ready" bull crap! it's about control- you are the parent!
- parents that turn their kids around at 1 year in their car seats becasue they feel the "child likes it better".
-parents that expect their 2 year old to sit through a 3 hour dinner at a restaurant- please have realistic expectations.
I judge my sister a lot. She's 1.5 yrs. younger than me but has a 2 year old daughter and the things she lets her do....
Everytime I go over to her house she is eating junk food and fast food, I never see her eat healthy.
The other day she was running around all hyper and my sister says "Sit down!" She continues to run around saying she wants something to drink, so my sister gives her the mountain dew she was drinking.
I love her but....
TBF
yep, exactly my point. It is so easy to sit back and say I would never do xyz....but, until you have been in that position, you really don't know what you would do.
bwa haha, good one!
- Parents who dress their children completely inappropriately for weather. The parents have jackets on but the kids dont and they aren't wearing hats, etc.
- Parents who let their kids run around unattended in public places like restaurants. I used to serve in college and parents would have no idea where there kids were for 30 mins to an hour at a time. Plenty of time to wonder away or get abducted.
- When cartoons are the babysitters
- When kids will only eat chicken fingers and fries. Drives me nuts!
I totally feel ya. And while there are CERTAINLY things I have done that I thought I never would, it's all in good fun.
My daughter had a blow out at target and me, the awesome momma that I am, did not have a change of clothes. As such, I walked around with a pantless child to buy her a new set of clothes.
Did people judge me? Sure. Do I care? No, cause it was effin hilarious.
(Also, I think there is a difference in once in a while flubs to full on bad choices. I think we can all agree that mountain dew is no good for a small child and that a consistent diet like that is not a good choice.)
a pantless baby, lol I totally would have chuckled ad given you a sympathetic look rather than judged you.
unwiped runny noses--said i would never but sometimes it is running faster than i can wipe it
- letting your kids watch tv during dinner, especially while screaming "shut up- i cant hear spongebob!!"---we switch to the news (does that count?)
- ridiculous threats, i.e. "If you dont get in the car, we will NEVER leave the house again!"----again i said never-but you know what this phrase has come out of my mouth!!! oops.
- allowing snacks, candy and junk food when your child won't eat a normal dinner---we don't but what about popcorn for breakfast?
- dragging kids by arms. legs, hair. Or better yet, with leashes.---i have done the arm--you grab what you can when you need to get a 3 year old moving in the morning or into clothing or out of clothing at night time or into their room for a time out so you don't thrash them-while you are simulatenously feeding a newborn at the boob
seriously the arm/elbow is all you can manage then
- when a child is behaving TERRIBLY, saying "if you are good the rest of the night, I'll get you this ____- are you going to be good??" and then purchasing said item. With no proof of better behavior to come.----yea i don't do that one. we do get ice cream treats though for traveling well on our three hour car trips or participating the entire time at gymnastics (only sometimes and we buy enough to share at daycare when we pick up baby brother)
i dislike parents who are anal about how clean their home is--you are raising children let it go--plus i'm a parent so you don't have to super clean to have me over
people who have to keep up with the joneses in terms of toys, activity participation, pre-school sign up etc. it can get pretty crazy.
parents who don't teach children manners--please, thank you and excuse me go a long way
I'm not against the leash under certain circumstances.
Busy airport while juggling luggage and scampering toddler? Possibly because it could easily be a safety issue.
Trip to Target? Not so much.
This. You have the right to say, "I will never do ____ with my child"...I don't think you have a right to judge people for doing things differently than you would.
I have to agree with you. To each their own. You don't know someone's situation so you don't know why they may have their child in jammies or something. EG: washer and dryer broke so they stopped by the store before heading to the laundramat or maybe their child doesn't feel well.
This.
My 6 yr old happily drinks mostly water or milk. Didnt even taste soda till he was 4.
Took the words right out of my mouth...that and messy faces...I can't stand seeing sloppy kids with food all on their mouths. Gross. Take care of your kid!
I admit that I do judge even though I shouldn't. I try to confine it to watching "trainwrecks" on tv though. I feel slightly better judging those I don't know.
In person I certainly judge things that affect my children. DH's nephew has punched and kicked DD several times while playing. His excuse is usually something like "I just meant to punch next to her head, not her head". And the response from parents and grandparents is "boys will be boys".
I hate that when we are all together I have to watch all the kids and in certain situations I have to deal with the bad behavior of kids that are not mine!
ETA: oh, and as for leashes. You'd be surprised to see how fast a toddler can slip out of your grasp when at a place like Disneyland. So yeah, I use a leash on occasion, and don't care what others think. My kids' safety is much more important.
1. Counting. As in, "by the time I count to 3....1....2...." My kid's going to feel the fire if she doesn't do something after I tell her to do it the first time. None of this 3 chances crap. It especially bugs me when they never get to 3 and change the subject.
2. Giving in. This is why most kids beg for things, and why "Pleeeeeeeeeease?" has become the ridiculous chant in elementary schools. Again, if I said no, the answer is no. I am NEVER going to change my mind. My parents did this with me and I never begged.
3. Just generally letting their kids get away with things. Especially if they keep telling their kid to stop and the kid's not listening and they do nothing to enforce it.
4. Parents who claim that their pets were their babies before kids, but now they have kids so the pet is on the back burner.
I'm going to be a pretty strict mom. If I end up doing any of these things I will freely admit that I'm not as good a parent as mine were.
THIS! Oh man, this list of judgments is ridiculous!! You have NO IDEA what kind of toddler your baby will become, or what kind of things you'll do that you thought you'd never do. And to judge other mothers for doing things differently than you, especially when you dont know their situation or circumstance, is awful. Being a mother (especially with a difficult toddler) is harder than I ever thought it would be, and judgment posts like these make my blood boil. Instead of judgments, how about a little compassion and understanding for other mothers out there who are very likely doing the best they can.?
I hate when parents let their dirty toddler run around the store barefoot with only a t-shirt and diaper on. It's nasty. And if the kid is running around, it's not sick. So put some clothes on it. And at least some flip flops on the feet. Ugh.
Dirty kids in general. No excuse. Bathe your child!
Parents who scream/cuss/hit their children in public. OMG. So trashy. As a kid I started calling them "grocery store moms" lol.
"stray children" This would be my SIL's kids and the "strays" my MIL has started raising from next door. No one ever watches them or cares what they do. They're dirty and rude. It's disgusting. They are always outside running around barefoot in the dirt and when they come inside they act like wild animals that have never been in a house. Obviously, it's the parents (and in this case the grandparents - my ILs) fault. Main reason why I don't plan on DD spending much time over there.
1. you'd be surprised how well counting works--but a preschool teacher friend says to count down from 5 to 1 because kids learn that other numbers come after 3 or 10 whatever. however you have to follow through when you get to 1. kids need time to process and a countdown gives them that time.
2. dirty kids--ever try to wrestle (yep wrestle) with a 3 year old who doesn't want to take a bath or have their hair combed. seriously sometimes we have to literally carry our child into the tub and hold her there. it is crazy and she hates--like blood curdling scream hates to have her hair washed.
3. washing a kids face--i don't have the time or energy with an infant to chase my other child around the house before i leave--most of the time yes-but are there times when we are out when i go-oh my who let you out with dirt in your ears/on your face.
just responding to a few of my favorites from other posters
it always amuses me that the judgiest parents are the ones who have ONE child 6 months old or younger.
::sits back and waits for the karma train to arrive::
Now, for my own...
Parents who say "oh, I'd NEVER..." Yeah. You might not, but I'd be careful of that word never.
THIS exactly. And I love the other poster's comment about how this is just like the posts/lists of "hates" the tri boards make about new babies and breastfeeding...things they know nothing about.
Let me know how this goes for you. Potty training is a sore subject for those who had a child that took a long time to train. I know we're all judging here but until you've been there....
I used to say this, but after spending our yearly vaca in the mountains this year, I can see the perks to a leash at certain times. So, next year when we go to the mountains and have one walking/running child and one crawling (although not on trails) child, Id rather tether than lose one over the side of a cliff. Passing by scoffers be damned.
um, ok. Let me know how this works when you have a two year old. seriously.
I am a strict mom and counting is a great tool to use to prevent meltdowns and getting toddlers to do something. It isn't about gving them "3" chances but rather giving them a couple of seconds to correct their behavior before a punishment is handed out.
Oh get over yourself. and good luck with toddlerhood!
If you're saying what I think you're saying, and I think you are, I'm saying ditto;)
That's kind of what I was thinking...
Bwahahahaha!
Thanks for the laugh.
All of you with only one child under 6 months?... Let me know how all this works out for you when you have a child who does more than drink milk, roll over, and crap themselves. Really, I'd like an update about 10-12 months from now on how many "I nevers" you've broken already.