...how many of you are planning to tell your family that you are pregnant on Mother's day? how far along will you be? how will you tell them?
My DH and I are going back and forth with this, despite my last u/s appointment yesterday going "perfect" (doctor's exact words) and a heartbeat of 164BPM (up from 128BPM the week before!!)....we are just so cautious because of what has happened to us before....
Last time we waited until I was 11 weeks...and then at 12 weeks...tragedy struck....(won't get into it here but it was not a m/c)....
So we sort of feel like....on one hand "Why wait? if something is going to happen, it can happen at anytime, no time is "safe"...but on the other hand we don't want our families feeling uncomfortable because it's early. So torn! Would love to know what others are doing! Thanks!
Re: who is telling family on Mother's day?
We were originally planning to announce on Mother's Day. I bought a tag necklace for my Mom with all the grandkids names/birthstones on it. And one just had the birthstone for December for the new baby. But then My Grandpa died and my whole family was in town, all my sisters together, which is rare. So we decided to tell them then, since we were all together. I'm still giving her the necklace on Mother's day.
Good luck with your decision and with your pregnancy.
We went ahead and told our family early. We asked them all to come over for lunch and told them, and that was last week, so I was only a little over 4 weeks. Our feeling was that if something did happen, we'd want their support. Plus, we're so happy that we just can't keep it a secret!
I think you should do what you feel the most comfortable doing. If you want to share, go ahead! If you'd rather wait until after the first tri because it makes you more comfortable, do that. You can't go wrong going with your gut.
I wouldn't worry about making your family uncomfortable by telling them a little early. They're your family, so it's their job to support you, and thus your decision. Good luck!
We are expecting mixed responses from family since DD was born 5.5 months ago. So, we are going to wait until we have a nice solid heart beat to tell our family. We could not be happier and are just going to soak up the moment privately for now.
GL to you. It is great to hear about your last appointment.
We are telling both families on Mothers Day... I will have my 11 week checkup on the 5th and figure the 9th and Mothers Day was the perfect time. If something happens, God forbid, it is going to happen regardless of when we spill the news. And I just can't keep it in any longer, DH and I are both dying to tell!
We also bought hand stamped metal jewelry for the Mothers from Etsy. For my mom we bought a bracelet with all her grandkids names stamped on each metal disc and our babys name as "Baby (our last name)" .. We did the same for my MIL but a necklace instead. I am also giving each of them a grankids photo frame with the most recent u/s photo in it.
I can't wait!!