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3rd Trimester
UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY!
I almost forgot it was Thursday!! Post your UO here mamas!!!
And the board has been sloooooow and boring, so make them interesting please 
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Re: UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY!
I think coming home outfits are lame. I am not buying one. It's not like I will have the paparazzi following me, so a hospital t-shirt or whatever will be just fine with me.
Also, I think it is a huge waste of time/money to decorate a nursery.
Flame away!
Ive never heard of unschooling, but it sounds like utter ridiculousness to me.
I've seriously thought about leaving the bump numerous times this week because I'm just waaaaay too jealous of people having their babies. I'm super lucky that I do not have a medical reason to induce or have a C-Section and I know how blessed I am because my sister almost died when she was pregnant with my nephew, but I'm an emotionaly mess at this point and working hard to keep it together. Also, there were 6 people that were all due around the same time as me, and they have ALL gone early and had their babies. I'm the last man standing, and I'm very lonely
I'm happy for those of you fortunate enough to be holding your LOs, but having a pity party for myself. At least still working full-time is keeping me busy. Not looking forward to the weekend. Need to make plans immediately.
Call me superstitious but I find it odd that people refer to the baby by name before the birth.
I saw the previews and already was thinking like you...
This may actually be a popular opinion: I am NOT a Lauren Conrad (LC) fan and find the fact that she is now selling a line of clothing ridiculous. I wish MTV had followed me and my friends in school, and then college so that it could give me a career and fame without really working hard for it...yuck.
I dont find it odd that other people do it, but I'm scared to even name ours. We wont be giving them names until after they are born
Haha, I actually find naming the baby before birth kind of odd. How can you name someone you've never met? DH and I plan to have a list together and will name LO based on his/her appearance/newborn personality/birth experience.
So when someones boss royally screws them, and they say they want to throat punch him/her out of frustration, you think they are cyberbullies? Strange
I am afraid to even post mine it gets people so upset...but here goes - the benefits of breastfeeding are overstated. I have seen so many friends in such miserable, guilty states over not being able to BF or it being too hard or whatever. I plan to try it, but its not the end all be all. Formula babies do just fine!
I think it is stupid to not eat cold deli meat when pregnant. There is a SUPER small chance of getting sick from it. That being said I eat subway whenever I can!
I don't understand why first time moms get so upset that someone dared to mention how hard being a new mom is or complained about the difficulties they had in the early days. I guess I didn't get much of that when I was pregnant with DS and while I didn't think it was going to be all rainbows and puppy dogs, I do wish some people had given me a little more of their real life experience.
DS was a tough baby and I really disliked the newborn - 3 month phase (really, it didn't get a lot better until 6 months). I seriously thought I didn't have the "mommy" gene because it was so hard and overwhelming and I wasn't enjoying it. I loved my son and we had wonderful moments together, but overall, it was hard (we had A LOT of sleep issues and reflux problems). People would come up to me and say "Isn't it the most wonderful thing ever, being a mom?" and I would literally want to scream "What is wrong with me????" I beat myself up over it only to find out later that a lot of moms felt the exact same way!!!
And no...I did not have PPD.
I totally agree with you! We bought a "coming home outfit" only because we had no newborn sized outfits, so we picked one off the sale rack for $4...taking that along with a 0-3 months onesie that we got as a gift. They are just plain old onesies, nothing special.
We didn't decorate our nursery much either, I can't imagine spending a ton of money on the nursery when there are more important things to buy or save for. We got a set of wall hangings, a rug, a valance, and a lamp in our theme (less than $100 total). We got plain colored sheets and a crib skirt on clearance ($4) to match. We didn't paint, we didn't hang a chandelier, we didn't buy a bedding set, etc. The baby won't know the difference...we'll probably be so exhausted, we won't know the difference either. It's a functional nursery, that's what's important.
The war between medicated birth or unmedicated, and those that say they don't care about one of the other but make digs anyway. The ones for medicated remark how insane it is to feel pain, and ones for unmedicated harp on the benefits of having unmedicated.
So if you don't care STFU and let the woman push out the baby however way she wants to. It's not your damn hooha - what do you care what one woman does or not? Especially on an anonymous board. Weird!
I have 2. They are mostly unpopular with my family.
I want to adopt a lab puppy. - yes I know it will have to be trained & it will be hard with a new baby.
I am going to cloth diaper.
My unpopular opinion is thinking "okay, but wait and see" to some of the comments and vents on here about what parents say to first time moms. There are a few, but for example, the saying to get sleep now while you can infuriates some first time pregnant moms.
Personally, I'm getting all the sleep I can. Yes, sleep is more difficult now than it was several months ago, but it will be worse once your baby comes, especially if you are breastfeeding. If you go into labor sleep deprived (like I did my first time) your body may crap out on you, you may not have the energy to push for 3.5 hours effectively. There are things you can do now to get sleep (take benadryl or unisom, tylenol, prop with pillows, etc.) But the baby will be eating every 2 hours or so and there is nothing you can do to get sleep. I was so sleep deprived that for the first several months of each baby I would fantasize about someday sleeping in or jsut getting 6 straight hours.
I've never told any first time moms to get sleep now (well, I guess I just did in this UO post) but I don't disagree with those who tell people that.
Although I am planning to attempt BFing once my baby is born, I don't think that I will like it. I am weird about my nips and dont even like DH messing with them. I know that BFing natural and all that, but I really don't think that I will be able to do it. It makes me so uncomfortable to think about....
I have bought a pump so that I have it just in case my feelings stay the same so at least he can have breastmilk and I don't have to nurse.
I think anyone who sarcastically says "Good luck with that" in response to someone wanting a med free birth, cloth diapering, making their own baby food, etc should be crotch punched. I also think mothers who say "Just wait, you'll see" and think that proves unequivically that they are right should be crotch punched.
(better than throat punched, right?)
This is probably a popular opinion.
I really love this thread. I feel like I'm not alone on some of my unpopular opinions.
I get where you are coming from, but I'd like to weigh in on this one. I started calling my LO by name once we knew that it was a boy. My reasoning is that he is my son, whether or not he is born. If we had lost him, we would have mourned him as a lost child, and would have had a memorial, etc. I would want to remember him by a name, not just as my baby. Also, I find it odd that people continue to call their LOs 'It' after there is no longer a need to!
I love those passive aggressive responses. "Just wait you'll see" is for sure a crotch punch worthy statement.
I agree 100%. How can people name someone they've never met? I can't. It might be at least a day or so before our LO has a name.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
I personally have always liked "kidney punch" but I like your as well.
I also don't get the "you'll see". I'll see what, that being a parent to a new born is hard? WOW I was totally unaware of that one and even if you do think I am naive what does "you'll see" prove?
Maybe I am an excited first time parent and want to live in la la land for a few more weeks or maybe I don't give a flying fvck that you were miserable for the first 3 months of your LOs life. Just because you had a specific experience doesn't mean mine is going to be identical. Just because your child was colicky (sp?) doesn't mean I am guaranteed to have the same.
I was 10 days overdue with DD1, and I felt exactly the same way. It may be irrational, but it's hard not to be jealous when you're so anxious and excited to meet your own little one! Hopefully your time will come soon.
I say things out of frustration too...like "i want to drop kick that guy in the mouth" or something else equally ridiculous. I just mean that to always have the throat punch as the go to thing to say...annoying!
I don't really post much on 3rd tri, but here it goes:
There is a "popular" bumpie who is a MASSIVE know-it-all and whenever I see a post of hers it's irks the crap out of me. Even her siggy pic makes me snarl... and I can't, for the life of me, understand why she never gets called out on her I-know-everything-about-pregnancy attitude.
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I like a lot of these. I'm the queen of un-PC opinions, so I'm sure I'll get my a$$ handed to me, but here goes:
- I'm completely against homeschooling unless there's a really specific reason to do so. My dh's siblings were all homescohooled - one needed it (learning disabilities, was bullied in school, etc.) but the others really suffered. They did great academically but they are socially inept despite being integrated with other kids in extracurricular activities. I think it's generally awful.
- I think co-sleeping in bed with an infant is a bad idea, both for safety reasons and b/c you're settting yourself up for attachment issues and having to go through an ugly "weaning" process.
- I think a lot of people are too hyper about babysitters. I think you can go out for a couple hours and leave your baby with a high school kid (a responsible one you know and are comfortable with, of course) and that person need not be CPR trained, licensed and insured.
- Formula fed babies live. I understand and agree with the benefits of breastfeeding and plan to try and do it. But I don't think a baby needs the boob to bond with its mother.
- I hate the term "angel baby". I miscarried (I TTC'd for over 3 years) and it was horrible, but I do not count that as the loss of a child and I think it's weird to do so. I would never compare my loss with that of a woman who lost an infant, I'm sorry.
I could go on and on but I think that should suffice to get my butt kicked around, lol.
I also feel this way. DH normally goes out once a week after work with his team for dinner and drinks and he usually gets together with just the guys twice a month. I am friends with all the wives of his friends so we do a lot of football parties and BBQs.
I don't understand why all these guys need to "get it out of their system" or why women are expected to sit at home alone 8 months pregnant because "why should your DH be miserable and stuck at home just because you are pregnant?" Maybe because spending time with your wife shouldn't be "miserable" and " not fun" and maybe because he helped create LO and should be supportive and loving not drunk at the strip club and ignoring your phone calls.
Oh. You have peaked my interest. Who is it? Come on, I need to know.