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I know this is upsetting you, however you have to realize when you post on a public message board all of the people you write to come from VERY different situations and therefore may not be able to relate to you and your situation.   

I don't know what you are going through and from just the small info you have given me, I'd say you really can't complain about cleaning and doing all of the chores.  You and your Boyfriend are not paying an equal amount of bills and therefore doing other things is just you doing your part.  My DH works more then me... the last thing I would expect is for him to do is to help me clean the house on his day off.  He would if I asked but I don't find that fair for him!     


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I cant believe i just read that?!?!?

First off, its HIS house and he can do what ever he wants. Or NOT do whatever he wants for that matter.  And then you to say that he sits home on his butt all day doing nothing.....what exactly are you doing???? 

You and your bf need a serious reality check and while your doing that, you might want to try and find a job and stop living off the system and other people.

 are you implying that i'm doing the very same thing?

uhm no, thank you very much. and how do you know i can even have a job right now? jesus crimany. 


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You make me laugh :) There is SO much wrong here with you and your situation.

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There are just too many things wrong with this post. It stinks like hot garbage.

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You don't work therefore you have no income and you are on government assistance. How exactly do you pay your own bills?

 

wow. ever hear of a savings account?? and by bills, it's basically just my phone bill, because i've discontinued paying on anything else because i can't afford it.

I'm sorry but paying a cell phone bill and neglecting all others IS NOT taking care of your self and paying your bills. 

If you have so much money in this savings account then how are you getting food stamps? Abusing the system much?

If you can't afford to pay for anything but your cell phone how are you going to afford a baby? 


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Maybe I have missed the point of your vent, but how do you even qualify for food stamps if you are living with your partner and 2 other people, and why in the F are you spending them on others and not yourself if you are truly in need?!?!  I represent a lot of indigent and low income clients and I hate to see someone cheating the system...I truly hope that you are not one of them. 

THIS!!!! And if you qualify for food stamps, wouldn't you qualify for some housing? I guess I am not sure how the whole welfare thing works but I know a couple people who receive help with housing. Why not move??

I have no idea how i would go about finding housing.. 


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no, the rent isn't even close to half of what the mortgage is. Scott really doesn't even want money from johnny but he forces it on him anyway. their mom still takes care of all their bills and such so johnny gives his mom the money to put in scotts account. thats why it makes me so angry.

 

Indifferent Please tell me that is not your defense. You and Johnny really need to grow up and do it fast, because you have a child on the way. You need to stop having mommy take care of you and start taking care of yourselves. 

 

excuse me? I PAY MY OWN BILLS. I DO MY OWN STUFF. I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF. I SAID JOHNNY AND SCOTTS MOTHER TAKES CARE OF THEIR BILLS. NOT MINE. 

I'VE TOLD JOHNNY NUMEROUS TIMES TO JUST LET ME HANDLE EVERYTHING, BUT HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO. HIS MOM HAS BEEN DOING IT, AND WILL CONTINUE TO. 

HOW ABOUT NO MORE IGNORANT COMMENTS? PLEASE? I'M DONE.

How do you pay your own bills and have enough money to help him pay his if you don't have a job? I am very confused and if you DO have money why are you getting Food Stamps???  

SORRY SWEETHEART - YOU DON'T PAY YOUR OWN BILLS.

WE DO.  you know...those people that work and pay taxes so there is money for YOU to get food stamps that you apparently are abusing.

get off your a$$, get a job, stop sponging off the system, and for crap's sake DO NOT have any more kids if you still "need" food stamps.


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wow. ever hear of a savings account?? and by bills, it's basically just my phone bill, because i've discontinued paying on anything else because i can't afford it.

Wise choice to have a baby. Hmm

In her defense, not all babies are planned : P

BUT I think it's irresponsible to not have a job if one is physically able to have a job when expecting and having financial troubles.  Now's the time to start dreaming big for your LO.


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Get a job. Get an apartment. Care for your child responsibly. Be an adult. Stop being a mooch and complaining about those who you are mooching from.

No one owes you anything. You have to earn things - that's how it works.

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Re: dropped part deux

  • Oh goodness... I don't even think I want to know how you did this!!!
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  • LOL...

    In one posting I PAY MY BILLS, in another I PAY MY CELL PHONE AND CAN'T AFFORD THE REST

    In one posting WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME I AM DISABLED, in another HOW DO YOU KNOW I CAN EVEN WORK RIGHT NOW.

    so many contrdictions made my head spin...

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    LOL...

    In one posting I PAY MY BILLS, in another I PAY MY CELL PHONE AND CAN'T AFFORD THE REST

    In one posting WHY WOULD YOU ASSUME I AM DISABLED, in another HOW DO YOU KNOW I CAN EVEN WORK RIGHT NOW.

    so many contrdictions made my head spin...

    HAHAHA I was thinking the same thing.  There are way to many contrdictions in her story!

  • Wow, was going to just keep reading but this kills me...  I am sure you love your BF and plan happy life with him... but seriously, I am assuming you are older than 18, which would mean you're an adult.  You're starting a family with someone who lives off his mommy!!! You off our Government!!!  One, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who lives off his mommy even if his mommy wants to help, this person is going to be a daddy when he can't even come off his mommy's nipple.  He doesn't want to leave his brother in a bind with the rent, yet, mommy I am sure will cover it.  How, embarassing.  I don't know why you can't or choose not to work, but your 15 weeks pregnant, if you are the Stay at Home adult, I would expect you to cook, clean, etc.  What do you think a SAHM does, play with the child all day long.  Grow up and grow up fast, cancel your cell phone and get the $19.99/month plan for an in house phone.  Use this "savings" to get an apartment, unless you live in downtown NewYork there are many options that are affordable.  You need to grow up fast, save the money and not spend them on fun tatoos, and start planning for this little life that is coming into this world.  That should be your only priority right now, not complaining about who cleans or sits on their a$$.  Baby's cost money, strollers, car seats, formula if you can't BF, diapers... You can't plan to depend on the government the rest of your life, don't you want to set a good example for your child to be proud of.
  • Did anyone catch that she is applying for bankrupcy.. yet she pays her bills.. That is confusing me..

    How the hell do you plan on buying a house in a year or so if you plan on going bankrupt..

    Good financial planning.

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    Wow, was going to just keep reading but this kills me...  I am sure you love your BF and plan happy life with him... but seriously, I am assuming you are older than 18, which would mean you're an adult.  You're starting a family with someone who lives off his mommy!!! You off our Government!!!  One, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who lives off his mommy even if his mommy wants to help, this person is going to be a daddy when he can't even come off his mommy's nipple.  He doesn't want to leave his brother in a bind with the rent, yet, mommy I am sure will cover it.  How, embarassing.  I don't know why you can't or choose not to work, but your 15 weeks pregnant, if you are the Stay at Home adult, I would expect you to cook, clean, etc.  What do you think a SAHM does, play with the child all day long.  Grow up and grow up fast, cancel your cell phone and get the $19.99/month plan for an in house phone.  Use this "savings" to get an apartment, unless you live in downtown NewYork there are many options that are affordable.  You need to grow up fast, save the money and not spend them on fun tatoos, and start planning for this little life that is coming into this world.  That should be your only priority right now, not complaining about who cleans or sits on their a$$.  Baby's cost money, strollers, car seats, formula if you can't BF, diapers... You can't plan to depend on the government the rest of your life, don't you want to set a good example for your child to be proud of.

     

    HIS MOM DOESN'T PHYSICALLY SUPPORT HIM. HE WORKS. HE PAYS HIS BILLS, HIS MOM JUST KEEPS THE BOOKS, AND WRITES THE CHECKS AND GETS THEM ALL OUT ON TIME. 

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    Wow, was going to just keep reading but this kills me...  I am sure you love your BF and plan happy life with him... but seriously, I am assuming you are older than 18, which would mean you're an adult.  You're starting a family with someone who lives off his mommy!!! You off our Government!!!  One, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who lives off his mommy even if his mommy wants to help, this person is going to be a daddy when he can't even come off his mommy's nipple.  He doesn't want to leave his brother in a bind with the rent, yet, mommy I am sure will cover it.  How, embarassing.  I don't know why you can't or choose not to work, but your 15 weeks pregnant, if you are the Stay at Home adult, I would expect you to cook, clean, etc.  What do you think a SAHM does, play with the child all day long.  Grow up and grow up fast, cancel your cell phone and get the $19.99/month plan for an in house phone.  Use this "savings" to get an apartment, unless you live in downtown NewYork there are many options that are affordable.  You need to grow up fast, save the money and not spend them on fun tatoos, and start planning for this little life that is coming into this world.  That should be your only priority right now, not complaining about who cleans or sits on their a$$.  Baby's cost money, strollers, car seats, formula if you can't BF, diapers... You can't plan to depend on the government the rest of your life, don't you want to set a good example for your child to be proud of.

    first off, i'm not 15 weeks pregnant, i'm 24 weeks. thank you very much..

    save my money and not spend on tattoos? HOW ARE MY TATTOOS RELEVANT TO ANYTHING? seriously. you have no right to judge on those grounds, however any at all, but that's besides the point.  you seriously have no fvcking idea what my life has been like, what i've been through, what i AM going through.. jesus. 

  • Point: WE tax paying citizens are paying your bills right now while you are abusing the system. We truly dont care about your issues since you are wasting our money. Medicaid, Welfare, Food Stamps, Govt housing, all things meant for ONLY the people who qualify for them and use them correctly. Sorry we dont have any sympathy while we are not only footing our bill, but yours.
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  • DH and I have been following these threads for the last hour or so... he just made a point.

    Anyone else ever heard of the "precious snowflake" problem?  These are kids who have everything handed to them and are never really taught how to live on their own and support themselves.  Well, this has been going on for several years in society (I don't mean with every family, but it's a widespread problem), and now these kids are old enough to be having babies of their own.

    Could OP be one of these kids?  Hhmmm.... 

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  • Dont know, but I have had friends who had welfare abusing parents who refused to be like them and worked really hard to make a honorable life for themselves. IDC if you had a shi*ty life, everyone has problems, some more than others, but I have seen some of the most impossible situations turn into hard working adults.

    But I totally get your point, crap like this just infuriates me! 

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    Dont know, but I have had friends who had welfare abusing parents who refused to be like them and worked really hard to make a honorable life for themselves. IDC if you had a shi*ty life, everyone has problems, some more than others, but I have seen some of the most impossible situations turn into hard working adults.

    But I totally get your point, crap like this just infuriates me! 

    Well, I'm not really talking welfare parents.  I'm talking parents who more or less smother their kids and make sure they are never in need... parents who spoil their kids, that sort of thing.  Helicopter parents , if you will.

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  • I'm sure this is too little, too late but you keep going on and on about how we don't know your situation.  THEN TELL US ABOUT IT!!! 
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    first off, i'm not 15 weeks pregnant, i'm 24 weeks. thank you very much..

    save my money and not spend on tattoos? HOW ARE MY TATTOOS RELEVANT TO ANYTHING? seriously. you have no right to judge on those grounds, however any at all, but that's besides the point.  you seriously have no fvcking idea what my life has been like, what i've been through, what i AM going through.. jesus. 

     Your lack of maturity has been pointed out to you several times already.  The fact that you insist on throwing temper tantrum after temper tantrum is only strengthening our point.  Proper grammar is something that would help a little, and being rational would help more.  Your story is so full of contradictions that no one has any way to tell what really is fact.  We get that you're pregnant, and therefore emotional/easily upset.  Fact is, the rest of us can at least own it when we're being irrational.  

    You and your friend have not specified why you couldn't work, which doesn't help you get any good advice.  If we had a clear picture, you might have gotten more advice.  Believe me, a lot of us have been in tight financial circumstances.  Being in a bad situation does NOT justify being unrealistic.  The way you're talking about things leads me to believe that you're either totally delusional, BSC or completely naive.  If you're filing for bankruptcy, how on earth are you going to buy a house?  Do you have any idea what that does to your credit score for the next several years?  And don't even try the "we have money in savings" crap because if you had anything there you'd be trying to get out of debt instead of filing for bankruptcy.  FYI: Bankruptcy is NOT a free "golly gee, no more debt" pass.

    Have you sat down to figure out what kind of income you will need with a baby?  I doubt it.  You're complaining over petty, ridiculous things.  If you're stuck on the petty stuff and freaking out about it, how the flip do you think you're going to handle the big stuff??  IGNORING THE PROBLEM DOES NOT MAKE IT GO AWAY.  Get a grip.  Preferably on reality.

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    Dont know, but I have had friends who had welfare abusing parents who refused to be like them and worked really hard to make a honorable life for themselves. IDC if you had a shi*ty life, everyone has problems, some more than others, but I have seen some of the most impossible situations turn into hard working adults.

    But I totally get your point, crap like this just infuriates me! 

    Well, I'm not really talking welfare parents.  I'm talking parents who more or less smother their kids and make sure they are never in need... parents who spoil their kids, that sort of thing.  Helicopter parents , if you will.



    OHHH!!! Wow Im feeling stupid now! haha, yes! Kids that get the world handed to them on a silver platter. Possibly but I would assume if this chicks parents had done that to her once, she would probably not have these issues now because they would be paying for everything. But maybe they got mad at her and cut her off...

    But yes, parents who do that ALSO drive me NUTS!

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  • Um, yeah, when you file for bankruptcy, they take your money from savings.  If you have too much, they can deny you that bankruptcy.  And don't try to hide the money now, they go back months and look at all your statements.
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