Is there a scientific answer for this? Why do some women get pregnant right away, and for others it takes months, years, or sometimes simply does not happen naturally? I am sorry if this question is naive. I feel like I got REALLY lucky getting pregnant the first month I tried, but I just kind of assumed I would because my mom did. Anyway, just wondering if anyone knows.
Re: Today my friend asked: Why are some women more fertile than others?
I don't even know where to begin with this question. And I don't mean that in a snarky way - I honestly don't know where to start because there isn't really one reason that you can point to and say "that is why".
This.
And then there are people where those don't make sense - good genes, healthy, etc yet still infertile.
If someone finds the answer - there are millions of ladies that would love it!
I think this is why many people (like myself) have the diagnosis of "unexplained infertility". It's just that...unexplained.
I'm sorry but that is crap. Ask any fertility doctor.
And someone just had to throw out the "just relax you are trying to hard" comment.
For the record, stress has nothing to do with it.
I don't know why I have lost my three babies, and neither do the doctors. We know what went wrong, generally speaking, but not why. We have ZERO family history of pregnancy issues on either side, are both quite healthy and age is not a factor. And yet clearly, something is going on.
There are ten million reasons this happens. All of them suck balls.
Well then you explain how people can try everything in the world, and then take a vacation, then it just happens. Maybe there really is something to relaxing.
It's called probability and odds. With a 20% chance every month, something is bound to stick eventually. Stressing can delay ovulation, but that's about it.
Um, yes...and this too!
Again, ask any fertility doctor is there is something to "relaxing" and they'll tell you no.
I was relaxed for two out of the three years we were trying. Funny enough - I got pregnant on my most stressful cycle in three years.
Don't speak of topics which you have no clue about.
::runs to tell everyone who's having trouble TTC to just take a vacation::
GENIUS!!
I'm confused. ??
It's called probability, not relaxing.
This exactly.
Because they happen to have sex on vacation and hit the 20% chance of getting pregnant that cycle.
The idea that relaxation is a diagnosis for IF is extremely ignorant and rude.
WOW.
FFS.
Seriously.
I really wouldn't argue with the women who have gone through Infertility. It's the most agonizing thing you could ever deal with.
I'd just back gracefully out of this one.
But how many women have had IF issues and you DON'T hear these stories? You only remember the stories that are amazing like your friend randomly getting pregnant on vacation. Your comments are hurtful to those that have dealt with IF and those that will never have children because I guess "they didn't relax enough"
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So why are you asking about women's fertility? I was always under the impression that it too two people to make a baby? About half of couples going through infertility have male factor as an issue.
This from a woman who had to "try" for 3 months to have her first child and then not at all for her second? WOW. YOU'RE AN EXPERT ON INFERTILITY.
You get 2 points for ignorance.
Those of us who had trouble getting pregnant - yeah we were as relaxed as anybody else in the beginning. It's just that after having your sex life revolve around baby making for a few years it does tend to get kinda stressful.
And as far as why some women get pregnant on vacation - um, hello, statistical chance. Unless someone has a physical deformity that 100% prevents them from conceiving, there is some chance every month - including when they're on vacation.
Please don't ever say this to an infertile. You will get your head bitten off!
That must be why I'm not pregnant again yet.....I just need a vacation!
To the OP: good question, I wish they could find the answer
to the great advice about "trying too hard"..1. you better pray this post doesn't get out to all the other infertility and TTC and loss boards because 2. you shouldn't talk about things you don't understand and obviously have no clue about
Because the universe hates me.
Oh, no, wait. That's "Why are some women who smoke and mistreat their bodies in unbelieveable ways more likely to have dozens of children they serve rootbeer to out of a bottle and they ignore or match up with their other children so they don't have to bother with caretaking for them." My mistake.
I think the other poster, who said "Luck" was right.
Or, if I were trying to be a stupid lousy fertile person, I'd say "God's will" and "God's blessings!" an "I just relaxed" and "All we did is have sex every other day and whammo!"
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Hmm... that's stupid!
My mom was very fertile (got preg with me on the pill) and it took me awhile to get preg.... I don't even know what to say....
BFP 12/18/2009. HB 1/4/2010. NO HB 1/18/2010. D&C 1/19/2010
April 2011 IUI #1 BFN. High FSH and other issues.
May 2011 Chose to build our family through adoption
September 2011 Actively waiting for a match
11/26/11 Surprise BFP * DD born 7/23/12