When did you relax?

firsttogo · February 2010

Ok, well I know that the answer really to that is when you held your baby, but when in your pregnancy did you feel like there was more than likely a great outcome in your future?

doubling betas?

BFP?

Seeing the HB?

NT scan?

V-day?

40 weeks?

LCB34 · February 2010

I think I will relax when I know this baby has a good chance of surviving on the outside - so no earlier than 28 weeks.

After everything I have been through, seeing a heartbeat multiple times means nothing to me.

ladychicago · February 2010

The NT scan helped A LOT, but I honestly didn't believe it was really going to happen until I started to feel the baby move. That hourly/daily reassurance is sooooo nice. I relaxed even more after our big 20 week ultrasound when we learned it was a girl (that helped make it a lot more real!), and we saw she was developing normally.

itsmyangel · February 2010

LCB34:
I think I will relax when I know this baby has a good chance of surviving on the outside - so no earlier than 28 weeks.

After everything I have been through, seeing a heartbeat multiple times means nothing to me.

I have to agree here. I will feel so much better when I have a baby that is able to survive outside

JGirl2005 · February 2010

I felt slightly more relaxed at 24wks. I agree with LCB, a h/b doesn't 'guarantee' anything.

smeyer · February 2010

I also think I won't be able to relax until the 28-29w range. Despite making it father than we have with our previous pregnancies, I'm too aware of everything that could go wrong in a high-rsk multiple pregnancy.

beebe929 · February 2010

I was still prepared for a bad outcome at the c/s. So really when I held her for the first time.

hannah&ben · February 2010

doubling betas? no, numbers weren't terribly high

BFP? no, still worried

Seeing the HB? no, been there before

NT scan? nope, have had losses past that point

V-day? maybe a little but my pregnancy had gotten kind of complicated with the fluid around the heart and lungs and all that business so we were still pretty on edge

40 weeks? for like 24 hours we got to relax were so relieved to have a baby in our arms but that got shot to hell when he got diagnosed and we found out the PGD had failed...that he wasn't healthy

I realize our situation is a little different though... I'm starting to feel better and more confident now, for the last month or 2... since things have gone pretty well with his heart stuff I feel like he's going to be more like my DD and be ok.

mrsolsenk12 · February 2010

At 36 weeks when he came into the world via c-section! I was a nervous wreck during my pregnancy and the internet caused a lot of it. Saw too many sad stories of late term problems to make me relax.

BelleBaby · February 2010

I kind of relaxed around 28w, but then got nervous again because I started having some contractions around 31w. I was freaked out until we made it to 35w and they took me off my meds. Then I didn't have another contraction until the boys were born at 38w2d. At that point I think I would have delivered them myself if it weren't for my c/s!

And to better answer your question, I didn't relax until they told me their weights and I got to hold both of them and take them back to recovery with me.

Mouseygail · February 2010

i can't see myself relaxing until at least v day...when there is a hope in hell of this baby surviving if it comes early

beverlybride · February 2010

I am a worrier by nature so I have 27-28 weeks in my mind as a time I might be able to exhale, but I am sure that will change. This whole thing is a roller coaster and a very big blessing at the same time.

LuluK1102 · February 2010

Honestly, I don't think I will relax until I hold the baby for the first time. Even then though, I know I am going to be an anxious first time parent; checking on his breathing while he's sleeping, etc.

qtpa2t · February 2010

Oh, you don't relax when you hold your baby. That just opens a whole new bag of worry! But each step in the pregnancy I relaxed a little more. Doubling betas. Seeing the heartbeat. Hearing the heartbeat and being told that my miscarriage rate was now down to 3%, etc. But most of all, feeling the baby kick and move regularly.

samk213 · February 2010

Today is V-day for me! While I feel a little better then when I first saw a heartbeat, I won't fully relax and breathe until I take this baby home with me alive!

rispergirl · February 2010

I relaxed when I could feel them moving regularly. It was very reassuring and I couldn't help myself.

naflmj · February 2010

I think I relaxed a little bit when I saw a HB and then probably at the NT scan, at 13 weeks.

gringa78 · February 2010

Being able to feel her move everyday helps...but when she has a lazy day, I start to worry again. I think I might chill out a little more at 24 weeks.

AvaLikeLava · February 2010

Honestly, for me? Not yet.

I was worried about m/c, then premature birth, then issues w/ delivery, then after birth, SIDS, now running into oncoming traffic, later drugs & falling in with a dangerous crowd...

Nope, doesn't stop. Call me neurotic!

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