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T & P for my friend please...(sad)

JanacashJanacash
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I just received a call from a good friend about our friend and her little sister. She went in for her 36 wk appointment and the doctor could not find a heartbeat for LO. They sent her for an ultrasound and were unable as well. They then induced her and she gave birth to an 8 pound 1 ounce 20 inch long little boy Taven. He had no knot in his cord or any clear signs as to why he was not breathing with no heartbeat. They are now performing an autopsy to determine cause of death.

I am just so so sad for her and the family. I cannot even imagine the situation. To make matters worse MIL (through her crying in the room) said "my poor sons baby, what did she do to make this happen?" I was completely shocked and appauled that she would say that when it was clearly not her fault!!! I just feel so deeply for her right now. Please remember her in your thoughts and prayers..thanks

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  • mlf625mlf625

    That is so awful.  :(  

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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    That is so sad and horrible.  That being said, that MIL is something else.  Grieve, absolutely but to BLAME?  Uncalled for and hopefully it doesn't cause even more issues that what this poor family is already going through.
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  • JKB1986JKB1986 member
    This makes me so thankful that my MIL isn't terrible...not wonderful..but not terrible and that I'm still in pain from a wiggling baby shoved up into my ribs!  T&P's definitely!!  So sorry for them!
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  • miaomimiaomi
    I hope someone throat-punched MIL.  Who would ever say that?  What a b*tch!!
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  • ABAMomABAMom
    Prayers her way and your way too. She will need the support.
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  • MelonieKMelonieK

    imagemiaomi:
    I hope someone throat-punched MIL.  Who would ever say that?  What a b*tch!!

     Throat punch my arse!  I'd throw the stupid bytch out the nearest window.

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  • jessd82jessd82
    imageMelonieK:

    imagemiaomi:
    I hope someone throat-punched MIL.  Who would ever say that?  What a b*tch!!

     Throat punch my arse!  I'd throw the stupid bytch out the nearest window.

    this x a bazillion.

     how horrible.

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  • erinkate23erinkate23

    That is so incredibly horrible.  What a terrible, terrible nightmare.

     

    And I sure hope someone has a SERIOUS conversation with MIL about how hurtful, horrible, and cruel that comment is.  That is the worst possible thing to say to a grieving family.

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  • baby_soon_31baby_soon_31

    T & P to the family....

    Just wanted to add - I have been through this unfortunately....  lost DD at 34 weeks almost 3 y ago.  Therefore i would not be so rush and call MIL names - what she said  is all part of the grief process. She also lost a dear grand child, and since she had no control over the pregnancy, the first thought unfortunately is to blame the mother.... I am sure she is simply in shock and does not seriously mean it that way.

    I went through many cycles of disbelief, anger, blaming myself, and a lot of other people and random things. It never goes away, but does get more manageable with time.

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  • blissfully_caffeinatedblissfully_caffeinated
    That is absolutely terrible. I feel so bad for that family. I would never be able to forgive my MIL if she said something like that to me. To be honest, I don't know if I could ever look at her again.
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  • Luv2dnce81Luv2dnce81
    This is so sad! T&P for sure!!! And what on earth is wrong with that MIL?!? My heart goes out to your friend!
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  • MrsJax09MrsJax09
    How horrible!! Tons of T&P to your friend and their family during this terrible time. I couldn't imagine.
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  • ditzydi_2000ditzydi_2000
    How sad.  Your friend and her family will be in my thoughts.  As for the MIL, that so heartless of her to blame your friend.  Did your friend's DH say anything to her when she made that comment? 
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