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my family really pisses me off sometimes

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I'm not a perfect daughter or sister by any means, but I try to stay involved in my families' lives & be supportive of them and know them. my sister is a lost cause, my mom, who is super sweet and here if I "need" her, never makes an effort to be in my life. just today, she was next door at my grandma's house and didn't even come by to see us. I'm not above going there, but I didn't know she was there until she was leaving. then, I ask my brother and sil if they want to meet half way between there home (ft lauderdale) & ours in the next couple months. they say no bc of money, yet I just read on fb that they booked a cruise! I mean, he's never even met his niece and the last time they were in town only happened because I got together with my mom & grandma to pay for their flights. I'm tired of being the only one who makes an effort here. no real reason for this post, just b*tching.
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  • C.P.C.C.P.C.
    Love your siggy :)
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  • MCMoo23MCMoo23

    I also love your siggy...Go Saints!! 

    As for your family...I'm sorry Sad sending you hugs, and a mock-tini for tonight Stick out tongue 

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  • J+OJ+O
    That's not cool your mom didn't stop by!

    And I guess I can see your bro's side and yours.  My sis moved states away and keeps saying she wants us to visit, but I *really* want and need to get away with DH too.  We also have family out West who have been begging us to fly out since DS was born, but I really don't want to... I mean, I've never met them and don't really know them, and right now that's a lot of money for us that I'd rather go on a cruise then stay a week there, DH also agrees.  I know every situation is different though... I'll probably find a way to visit my sis this summer, we're close and I feel like I need to make that effort. 
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    That's not cool your mom didn't stop by!

    And I guess I can see your bro's side and yours.  My sis moved states away and keeps saying she wants us to visit, but I *really* want and need to get away with DH too.  We also have family out West who have been begging us to fly out since DS was born, but I really don't want to... I mean, I've never met them and don't really know them, and right now that's a lot of money for us that I'd rather go on a cruise then stay a week there, DH also agrees.  I know every situation is different though... I'll probably find a way to visit my sis this summer, we're close and I feel like I need to make that effort. 
    I know, its not like I expect my family to be their top priority, but I don't see how they can't afford a 3 day weekend 6 hours from their house to see k for the first time (especially since we've done SO MUCH for them) yet they can go on a cruise...and they live practically on the ocean, ffs!! sure, my hormones are making me overreact some, but I am feeling really hurt right now.
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  • anna7602anna7602 member

    My SIL comes to NY all the time and only came to see DD when she was first born. Every time after that, she has either not called at all when she's here or worse, she has called her last day in town and said "I'm having brunch at XYZ place at noon, meet me there in an hour" when it's just not that easy for us to be spontaneous with DD.

    When we go visit DH's parents (who live near SIL), she grudgingly comes over at MIL's insistence. It suuucks.

    Anyway, I hear you. But if someone's just not interested in being part of DD's life, it's their loss, not yours.

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  • MnqMnq
    Can you talk to your mom and tell her how hurt you felt? As far as your brother & SIL, you and your daughter are clearly not a priority I'm sorry to say. I could see if they had already met their niece but come on?! I wouldn't go out of my way anymore cause it sounds like you would be setting yourself up for heartbreak. 
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  • disbride061103disbride061103 member
    My brother had never made an effort to meet DS. Last year at Christmas he was 15 minutes from our house. He was supposed to stop by to meet DS bit cancelled 90 minutes after he was supposed to arrive because he and his gf decided to hang out with some people she hadn't seen in a few months. This year he was in my town again. He told my mom that he was sick at home on Christmas. Too bad he is an idiot and posted on Twitter where he was. I don't really talk to my brother and have decided that it is his loss if he doesn't care to meet DS.
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