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f/u on Dad and LO in the swing....

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So- should I just take her to DC?  It doesn't happen all the time- but when I left this morning and he was on the couch (with the covers over his head) and she was in the swing wide awake watching BE. 

WWYD?  Do I need to put on my Big Girl Panites on and MAKE a big deal. Tell him its not okay.  He'll say it doesn't happen.  I will be the bad guy. We will fight and not talk for a while.

I don't know how to approach this with him getting defensive and it turing into a huge fight. But if thats what has to happen, thats what has to happen...... I agree its NOT okay- and it has been a thing for a while now.

Thanks for your help ladies.  My blood is boiling right now, b/c he won't answer his phone.  AHHHHHH

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Re: f/u on Dad and LO in the swing....

  • GASuzukiGASuzuki member
    What is BE? Sorry... And is the problem that he puts her in the swing in front of the TV so he can sleep? 

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  • grettazgrettaz member

    I would say this:

    "Babe, I know you're tired and I've noticed that some days you put DD in the swing and take a nap on the couch. I don't think it's okay for her to be watching tv instead of playing and interacting. If you are really tired in the morning, maybe I could take her to daycare and you can go get her after your nap. Do you have any other ideas?"

    Expressing your concern for a situation that makes you uncomfortable should not cause a huge fight as long as you do it respectfully. If it does, then you guys need to seriously work on your communication skills.

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  • PregoCCPregoCC

    I dont know how you do it... I wouldn't be able to walk out the door!

    You need to FREAK THE EFF OUT on his a$$!  

    I'd even get a baby sitter for that talk if you know its going to blow up into a huge fight. (Well, we make a point to not argue or yell in front of Alex, that's why I say that!)

    That needs to be solved ASAP.

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  • GASuzukiGASuzuki member
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    I would say this:

    "Babe, I know you're tired and I've noticed that some days you put DD in the swing and take a nap on the couch. I don't think it's okay for her to be watching tv instead of playing and interacting. If you are really tired in the morning, maybe I could take her to daycare and you can go get her after your nap. Do you have any other ideas?"

    Expressing your concern for a situation that makes you uncomfortable should not cause a huge fight as long as you do it respectfully. If it does, then you guys need to seriously work on your communication skills.

    Great answer. Ditto. 


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  • jenn_darrin1515jenn_darrin1515 member
    I would put your big girl panties on and tell him it's not ok.  Does he not have to ever get up in the mornings for work?  Not like it matters...the point is it isn't ok for him to be sleeping when LO is awake.  End of story.  You need to put your foot down.
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  • kit443kit443 member
    imagegrettaz:

    I would say this:

    "Babe, I know you're tired and I've noticed that some days you put DD in the swing and take a nap on the couch. I don't think it's okay for her to be watching tv instead of playing and interacting. If you are really tired in the morning, maybe I could take her to daycare and you can go get her after your nap. Do you have any other ideas?"

    Expressing your concern for a situation that makes you uncomfortable should not cause a huge fight as long as you do it respectfully. If it does, then you guys need to seriously work on your communication skills.

    grettaz is so smart

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  • carlab44carlab44 member
    Yes, you need to make a big deal out of this. I can understand napping if she goes back to sleep, but it is not okay to sleep for hours while your 6 month old is watching tv. And pretty soon your LO is going to be mobile, what is he going to do then?
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    imageGASuzuki:
    imagegrettaz:

    I would say this:

    "Babe, I know you're tired and I've noticed that some days you put DD in the swing and take a nap on the couch. I don't think it's okay for her to be watching tv instead of playing and interacting. If you are really tired in the morning, maybe I could take her to daycare and you can go get her after your nap. Do you have any other ideas?"

    Expressing your concern for a situation that makes you uncomfortable should not cause a huge fight as long as you do it respectfully. If it does, then you guys need to seriously work on your communication skills.

    Great answer. Ditto. 

    Tritto.
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