Now I know why I keep my mouth shut...

JakesBride07 · January 2010

DH and I met with our new RE for the first time last night. And I must say that he gave us a lot more information then our old RE...I feel a lot more comfortable and feel like for the first time that maybe we are on the right track.

So, I was just talking to a coworker (who knows about our IF) about our appointment last night and how the RE was explaining that with someone of my age there is a greater risk of over stimulation which then results in multiples when doing IUI; where IVF is a much more controlled enviroment. Well said coworker then decides to add her two cents, and responsed, "And did he bother talking to you about waiting for five years before doing treatment to have kids?"

Um WTF???? What exactly am I waiting five years for? Indifferent

So I guess I've learned my lesson...and I will keep my issues to myself I suppose.

PinkHope · January 2010

Why would you torture yourself for 5 years without seeking help!? People are crazy and obviously don't understand how hard it is! Grr...we've kept everything pretty private so far, and we plan to be more open about our struggles in the coming months. One one hand, I feel like it's so important to make people aware of IF, but on the other head, I'm dreading comments like that!

JakesBride07 · January 2010

Yeah I haven't a clue why I'd wait that long...

We are private to some degree...and there are some that I for sure will not mention anything to, that's part of why I love being a part of this board. DH's parents know if are struggling with IF, but they do not know that we are seeking treatment this go round and we plan to keep it that way because of some of their negative comments in the past.

After we are pregnant we may tell them about what/how but only if it comes up in coversation some how...we don't plan to be as open with them as we are with my mother about our struggles.

It's just a select few right now that I turn to for support, and so far they've been pretty good to me...

wishingforpositive21 · January 2010

huh? Was this lady serious?? In what universe does that even make sense? Wow, she gets the dumb quote of the day award!

grazy · January 2010

I really don't get some people! So rude!!

Marie6 · January 2010

I learned that lesson yesterday. People have no common sense and say the first thing that comes to mind. Did she tell you to relax too? Stick out tongue