FFFC thread

ashy22lou · January 2010

Homeschooling pisses me off. I am the product of a public school teacher. I have an excellent education. You think the education your kid gets isn't good enough in public (or, hell, even private school), then work with your kid some more at home. But I think it's detrimental to deprive a child of the educational aspects that come from GOING to school --- and I'm not talking about book lessons; I'm talking about life lessons, social norms, cause & effect.

jonsdeedee · January 2010

ashy22lou:
Homeschooling pisses me off. I am the product of a public school teacher. I have an excellent education. You think the education your kid gets isn't good enough in public (or, hell, even private school), then work with your kid some more at home. But I think it's detrimental to deprive a child of the educational aspects that come from GOING to school --- and I'm not talking about book lessons; I'm talking about life lessons, social norms, cause & effect.

My SIL is planning on homeschooling and I am scared, very very scared. This is a woman who barely passed high school and took 6 years to get an associates degree at college because she could not handle all the work (she did not work outside of college). She was horrified when she heard that the public schools were showing a movie called janie has 2 daddys or something like that. And I should not put DD in school because she will learn unChristian things. Um yeah - my BFF is gay. I think we will have addressed that long before the Janie movie.

SanFran80 · January 2010

BlairWaldorf:
a trapped milk cow at 3am

LOL. This is me.

Mrs.21 · January 2010

BlairWaldorf:
Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:
I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc. GET F*CKED.
I wear my kid. I feed on demand. I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn). But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous. I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat. He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.
My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee. He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep. He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.
I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense. You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

::golf clap::

Blair, will you marry me?

suscq · January 2010

I secretly wonder if some of the bumpies who were know-it-alls on the tri boards are thinking they should have kept their mouth shut more now that they are actually a parent. I wonder if they have realized that we are all fumbling through this in our own way and maybe they shouldn't have told other pg women that they were going to be bad mothers.

(FWIW--no one ever told me that, I'm not holding on to a grudge. But I have noticed that the know-it-alls from the tri boards have mostly dropped off the boards. Is it because their life is perfect and nothing is ever wrong with their child or because they're experiencing a world class case of foot-in-mouth)

Yes I b!tchy this morning. I've not been to bed because DD was gasping really bad last night and I was afraid to go to sleep.

jenna0627 · January 2010

I miss having zero responsibilities.

I remember what is what like to lie on the couch and watch tv or read a book, sleep in, and randomly decide that I wanted to go to the mall or store and just doing it not planning it two hours in advance. I think that people who say they don't even remember what is what like before having kids are lying, I remember clearly and although I don't want to be childless I do love to remenise about those days.

Kristinmo · January 2010

ashy22lou:
Homeschooling pisses me off. I am the product of a public school teacher. I have an excellent education. You think the education your kid gets isn't good enough in public (or, hell, even private school), then work with your kid some more at home. But I think it's detrimental to deprive a child of the educational aspects that come from GOING to school --- and I'm not talking about book lessons; I'm talking about life lessons, social norms, cause & effect.

I agree with this. 100%.

CalinsBride · January 2010

I'm an AP mama, but I still let DS cry sometimes. I do not pull my car over to the side of the road if he's crying because I know that if I calm him down, I'm just going to put him back in the carseat and he's going to freak out again. It's less cruel, IMO, to just get where we're going so he can be out of the carseat for good. I also let him cry while I eat my lunch yesterday. If I pass out from starvation it won't be good for either one of us.

Also:

I hardly ever have people over because I'm embarassed of my building. Our apartment is fine, but our farking neighbours are always yelling and screaming at each other like it's Jerry Springer. The police have been here for them four times, social workers are always rolling up, it's embarassing.We would move, but the rent is scandalously cheap and we're poor.

heatherlane · January 2010

1. My pants have a broken zipper and a (tiny) hole in the back.

2. I took a whore's bath this AM for work so that I could sleep until 7AM.

3. I was late anyway b/c I needed to stop by Burker King.

4. I kind kind of upset, but kind of amused when I asked at the drive-through for a slice of tomato on my Croissan'wich but instead found a side of bacon in the bag when I got to work. I should really learn espanol.

majors31 · January 2010

i think a lot of the people on here that have so many issues BF and complain about it, don't do enough research to get all the information. BF is a challenge, but the incessant worry and questions, makes me wonder sometimes.

i write people off that give tax advice on here that is just wrong. you are the reason i get calls from clients asking the most off the wall questions. they "read/heard" it somewhere. i have to "walk away" some days.

SAMANTHAGP · January 2010

heatherlane:

1. My pants have a broken zipper and a (tiny) hole in the back.

2. I took a whore's bath this AM for work so that I could sleep until 7AM.

3. I was late anyway b/c I needed to stop by Burker King.

4. I kind kind of upset, but kind of amused when I asked at the drive-through for a slice of tomato on my Croissan'wich but instead found a side of bacon in the bag when I got to work. I should really learn espanol.

I almost peed my pants reading that! I did the same thing this morning, I slept until 8:10 and was to be at work by 8:30...I was still late Embarrassed

MNieds · January 2010

BlairWaldorf:

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc. GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid. I feed on demand. I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn). But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous. I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat. He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee. He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep. He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense. You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

I am not a frequent poster, but I had to come out of the woodwork to applaud this post.

johnsoar · January 2010

rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC)

I'm glad your DS can sleep unswaddled but until you have a screaming baby that won't sleep without it you will not understand.

DD was swaddled for naps and bedtime until she was 9.5 months. She screamed and screamed until I swaddled her up. Now at 21 months she sleeps 12 hours at night so I don't see why swaddling her so long was so bad.

DS has gone between being wanting to be and not wanting to be swaddled. He is never swaddled for naps but won't currently won't sleep without being swaddled at night.

Shlei · January 2010

I am secretly very happy the FI's father is still in jail and unable to attend the wedding. The man is a raging alcoholic that is also quite racist. He's addicted to meth and is just not pleasant at all. When FI asked me if we could push the wedding date back I said we couldn't (which was partially true).

SAMANTHAGP · January 2010

johnsoar:
rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC)

I'm glad your DS can sleep unswaddled but until you have a screaming baby that won't sleep without it you will not understand.

DD was swaddled for naps and bedtime until she was 9.5 months. She screamed and screamed until I swaddled her up. Now at 21 months she sleeps 12 hours at night so I don't see why swaddling her so long was so bad.

DS has gone between being wanting to be and not wanting to be swaddled. He is never swaddled for naps but won't currently won't sleep without being swaddled at night.

We swaddled DS for bedtime until he was about 3 months old. He started getting mad about it and we stopped.

BUT, I don't see why people swaddle for naps. We always put DS down when he was tired, swaddling for a nap makes me think you're forcing them down for a nap. I don't know...

notelizabeth · January 2010

i have a lot of the same ones as you guys. think i'm just gonna use this to vent a bit.

1. we've only had sex once. around the 3 week post-baby mark. it was awful. the IUD screwed stuff up for a long time after that. i'm tired, resentful and just not in the mood. and the post baby body image is HORRIBLE.

2. i feel guilty when i say i wanna try to make it to the 6 mo. mark pumping and feeding. like that makes me a bad mommy for not wanting to go longer. but i would like my boobs back.

3. bump badges irritate me. i don't feel bad b/c we supplement w/formula and don't ebf. or we sometimes use disposables instead of cloth. i don't brag about having a c-section (and i totally would've said yes to drugs if we did a vag birth).

heatherlane · January 2010

fairychick77:
Sometimes I get really angry at J for waking me up in the middle of the night with his screaming and crying. I know it's not anything he can help and I would never hurt him but I am so sleep deprived and just would like one night of uninterrupted sleep!!!

I know how you feel. I try not to participate in "selfish prayer" so when I pray at night I try to pray that God will give me the patience to be a good mom at 3AM, but some nights I pray instead that God will just let the baby sleep all night.

johnsoar · January 2010

SAMANTHAGP:
[We swaddled DS for bedtime until he was about 3 months old. He started getting mad about it and we stopped.
BUT, I don't see why people swaddle for naps. We always put DS down when he was tired, swaddling for a nap makes me think you're forcing them down for a nap. I don't know...

We swaddled DD for naps because without it she would sleep only for max 10 minutes after laying her down. She really fought sleeping and spent the majority of her awake time crying or fussing. She was never happy. Now she begs to go to bed...see swaddling is not bad. I will swaddle DS that long if it means I get another good sleeper.

Daisy525 · January 2010

BlairWaldorf:

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc. GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid. I feed on demand. I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn). But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous. I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat. He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee. He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep. He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense. You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

AMEN!!!!!

TELove · January 2010

johnsoar:
rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC)

I'm glad your DS can sleep unswaddled but until you have a screaming baby that won't sleep without it you will not understand.

DD was swaddled for naps and bedtime until she was 9.5 months. She screamed and screamed until I swaddled her up. Now at 21 months she sleeps 12 hours at night so I don't see why swaddling her so long was so bad.

DS has gone between being wanting to be and not wanting to be swaddled. He is never swaddled for naps but won't currently won't sleep without being swaddled at night.

Thank you for this. I felt terrible that we still swaddled at 4+months. That is why I requested help "de-swaddling." However, we are first time parents and going on advice from our pedi, who suggested we continue to swaddle as long as DD would allow. DH and I were selfish and needed sleep....we are now well rested and hoping to break the trend Big Smile

Well, not WELL rested, but BETTER rested

TarheelsInNJ · January 2010

I went back to work this week and I was surprised to find that during the day it felt... well, normal. There were times during the day that I did not think about my baby. Contrary to what I expected, I did not miss him every second of the day.

Granted, he's with DH during the day so I know he's well taken care of... if he was at daycare I may have just naturally worried a little more. Or maybe not.

ETA: I just realized that made it sound like he would not be well taken care of. He totally would, and I have no problem with daycare - it's just a different feeling for me since he's with his daddy.

johnsoar · January 2010

TELove:
johnsoar:
rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC)

I'm glad your DS can sleep unswaddled but until you have a screaming baby that won't sleep without it you will not understand.

DD was swaddled for naps and bedtime until she was 9.5 months. She screamed and screamed until I swaddled her up. Now at 21 months she sleeps 12 hours at night so I don't see why swaddling her so long was so bad.

DS has gone between being wanting to be and not wanting to be swaddled. He is never swaddled for naps but won't currently won't sleep without being swaddled at night.

Thank you for this. I felt terrible that we still swaddled at 4+months. That is why I requested help "de-swaddling." However, we are first time parents and going on advice from our pedi, who suggested we continue to swaddle as long as DD would allow. DH and I were selfish and needed sleep....we are now well rested and hoping to break the trend Well, not WELL rested, but BETTER rested

Your welcome. I talked to DDs pedi too since I felt like she sould be sleeping without it but the pedi said some babies feel more comfortable being swaddled. People with "perfect" babies just don't get it.

dottymobo · January 2010

I don't think that everyone knows what is best for their child, or does what's best for their child. People in general are stupid and do a lot of stupid things, and I don't know why being a parent would change this. I have to roll my eyes every time I read a post saying that no one should judge because "X knows her child best," like that's all you need to be a good parent.

I hate when people act like it's a choice between CIO and being a slave to your kid and never getting what you want.

There are fur balls drifting across the floor, but I'm on the computer instead of sweeping.

DS still sleeps in his swing, and it's hard to get motivated to switch him over to his crib.

T_&_A · January 2010

Jordan is still swaddled at night. He sleeps 8 hours then wakes up to eat and goes back to sleep for another 2+. I don't want to get less sleep, but from reading HBOTB he will be ready to de-swaddle when he stops crying when we start to wrap him up.

I bf mostly, but supplement, and have not thrown away a can of formula because it expired. It usually is gone within a week after that 30 day mark.

We've had sex once since J was born, and I don't really feel guilty about it. I still hurt down there. The whole area hurts. It hurts to go to the bathroom. My h understands though and hasn't really asked for it because he knows i'm hurting.

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