FFFC thread

sam19

GO! And make em juicy.

SharonWantsABaby

Morning!

I have one, not very juicy, though.

I think small bows on headbands for girls are fine (though I don't own any), but those HUGE flower ones look ridiculous to me.

I keep wondering why people still have their Halloween pictures up and why all the girl babies dressed as Carmen Miranda.

rinny627

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC) 

egsquared

We've only had sex once since DD was born 5 months ago. 

It didn't really hurt or anything.  I'm just too tired all the time and not in the mood.  I feel bad for DH, but I really have no desire. 

sammiekc

1. Yesterday, I was holding C on my side and as I was walking into my room, he leaned back and hit his forehead on the doorway. I could have prevented it from happening if I had held his upper back instead of his lower back. Lesson learned.
2. I feel like since I am the one who stays home with DS all day, that I should be the one who comes up with the rules for when he is older, not J. (ex: only play video games on the weekends or do homework right after school.)
   

sam19

I got pregnant way too early. I had a miscarriage and wanted to have a child so badly though. I was on birth control but I didn't take it like I should. I also kept track of my periods and had sex on a day that I knew would most likely be my most fertile day. I didn't plan the sex but I didn't stop it knowing pregnancy could happen. I was selfish and thought another baby would take away the pain of my previous miscarriage.

I love my daughter but I definitely regret not waiting longer to get pregnant.

Mabzie

Not baby related. 

I can't stand heartless people.  End of story.

carolinaem

DS gets bathed once a week.  My toddler gets a bath every night.  Once my dd is in bed ds is already screaming and tired and ready to go to bed- hence no bath.  

water-fairy

This is probably more of a vent than a confession. I am at the end of the rope with this screaming baby. He fusses and screams for over 3 hours in the middle of the night and it's sucking the life out of me. Yay for crying my eyes out at 5 in the morning. Life sucks for me lately.

MrsBatty

SharonWantsABaby:

Morning!

I have one, not very juicy, though.

I think small bows on headbands for girls are fine (though I don't own any), but those HUGE flower ones look ridiculous to me.

I keep wondering why people still have their Halloween pictures up and why all the girl babies dressed as Carmen Miranda.

hahahaha.  I love the huge flower ones !   

Jacques715

I do not understand why people have such a problem with CIO.  I prefer that my child learn to soothe herself and in the process have a few nights of CIO than not learn to soothe herself and have endless nights of wakeful periods, crying.  I feel that all the missed sleep interferes with a child's development.  Not to mention the negative effects it has on baby's caretakers. 

fairychick77

Sometimes I get really angry at J for waking me up in the middle of the night with his screaming and crying. I know it's not anything he can help and I would never hurt him but I am so sleep deprived and just would like one night of uninterrupted sleep!!!

MamaSmurfette

Every bottle C took for the past 2 days was given propped up in her high chair.  I felt bad not holding her, but I had other stuff that I needed to do at the times she wanted to eat.  (tending to 3yo, pumping, etc.)

Jacques715

MrsBatty:

SharonWantsABaby:

Morning!

I have one, not very juicy, though.

I think small bows on headbands for girls are fine (though I don't own any), but those HUGE flower ones look ridiculous to me.

I keep wondering why people still have their Halloween pictures up and why all the girl babies dressed as Carmen Miranda.

hahahaha.  I love the huge flower ones !   

Me too!!

Mee83shell

rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC) 

 agreed

water-fairy

Oh yeah, and right now I HATE people who brag about their very STTN babies, like this post the other day where the gal was "just curious" if she was the only one with a very good napper and night sleeper. Fvck off lady. Or at least include an effing "AW" to the post title. Yes, I'm bitter and very sleep deprived for over 2 months now, I can't stand to read those things.

SharonWantsABaby

MrsBatty:

SharonWantsABaby:

Morning!

I have one, not very juicy, though.

I think small bows on headbands for girls are fine (though I don't own any), but those HUGE flower ones look ridiculous to me.

I keep wondering why people still have their Halloween pictures up and why all the girl babies dressed as Carmen Miranda.

hahahaha.  I love the huge flower ones !   

lol! That's okay, I'm aware that I'm the only one who doesn't like them.

Good morning!

fairychick77

water-fairy:

Oh yeah, and right now I HATE people who brag about their very STTN babies, like this post the other day where the gal was "just curious" if she was the only one with a very good napper and night sleeper.Fvck off lady. Or at least include an effing "AW" to the post title. Yes, I'm bitter and very sleep deprived for over 2 months now, I can't stand to read those things.

 I feel you there sister!

Jacques715

water-fairy:

Oh yeah, and right now I HATE people who brag about their very STTN babies, like this post the other day where the gal was "just curious" if she was the only one with a very good napper and night sleeper. Fvck off lady. Or at least include an effing "AW" to the post title. Yes, I'm bitter and very sleep deprived for over 2 months now, I can't stand to read those things.

I couldn't agree with you more!!

Jacques715

Another one..... I HATE babycenter developmental emails.  They always have me comparing my DD to other children and worrying that she is somehow behind. 

MrsBatty

SharonWantsABaby:

MrsBatty:

SharonWantsABaby:

Morning!

I have one, not very juicy, though.

I think small bows on headbands for girls are fine (though I don't own any), but those HUGE flower ones look ridiculous to me.

I keep wondering why people still have their Halloween pictures up and why all the girl babies dressed as Carmen Miranda.

hahahaha.  I love the huge flower ones !   

lol! That's okay, I'm aware that I'm the only one who doesn't like them.

Good morning!

morning!   

howa0155

water-fairy:

Oh yeah, and right now I HATE people who brag about their very STTN babies, like this post the other day where the gal was "just curious" if she was the only one with a very good napper and night sleeper. Fvck off lady. Or at least include an effing "AW" to the post title. Yes, I'm bitter and very sleep deprived for over 2 months now, I can't stand to read those things.

I was way too nice to her.  I told her she needed an AW in her title.

BlairWaldorf

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc.  GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid.  I feed on demand.  I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn).  But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous.  I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat.  He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee.  He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep.  He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense.  You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

AppleMomma

I fall asleep on the sofa while nursing my baby (laying on my side) during the day. Never had an issue. I may "sleep" but I'm very aware of everything, and I always have an arm around him.

howa0155

I did Ferber - and it worked.  Instead of getting up every two hours (on a good night) DS sleeps from 7ish until about 5am.  I don't regret it at all.

Sorry WF

water-fairy

howa0155:

water-fairy:

Oh yeah, and right now I HATE people who brag about their very STTN babies, like this post the other day where the gal was "just curious" if she was the only one with a very good napper and night sleeper. Fvck off lady. Or at least include an effing "AW" to the post title. Yes, I'm bitter and very sleep deprived for over 2 months now, I can't stand to read those things.

I was way too nice to her.  I told her she needed an AW in her title.

Yes, WAY TOO nice. I wasn't as mean as I wanted to be because I held off. Told her I had nothing nice to say since my DS is up countless times a night.

blushingbrideoct07

Although I have taken care of children most of my life there are many days where I feel like I don't know what the heck I am doing with my daughter. ?

(Am I doing her naps correctly, should I still be?swaddling, am I playing with her enough.) ?The list goes on and on.?

Jacques715

BlairWaldorf:

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc.  GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid.  I feed on demand.  I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn).  But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous.  I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat.  He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee.  He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep.  He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense.  You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

I heart you, Blair!

water-fairy

howa0155:

I did Ferber - and it worked.  Instead of getting up every two hours (on a good night) DS sleeps from 7ish until about 5am.  I don't regret it at all.

Sorry WF

nothing against you hun, I know how hard it has been with N, you deserve some sleep! My problem is with totally unnecessary bragging from people whose babies have been STTN since 6 weeks. Do they really need company as in "misery loves company"? Come on!!!

howa0155

water-fairy:

howa0155:

I did Ferber - and it worked.  Instead of getting up every two hours (on a good night) DS sleeps from 7ish until about 5am.  I don't regret it at all.

Sorry WF

nothing against you hun, I know how hard it has been with N, you deserve some sleep! My problem is with totally unnecessary bragging from people whose babies have been STTN since 6 weeks. Do they really need company as in "misery loves company"? Come on!!!

Those really are AW threads.  There was no question - she just wanted to brag.

howa0155

BlairWaldorf:

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc.  GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid.  I feed on demand.  I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn).  But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous.  I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat.  He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee.  He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep.  He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense.  You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

Blair = awesome.

leslielou22

rinny627:

I don't usually do these but I definitely have one today.

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC) 

 

I agree with this.

 

Also my babysitter only charges $1.50/hour....and they were worried they were charging us to much. 

BlairWaldorf

rinny627:

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC) 

oh, for serious.

Once H could kick open the blankets or get an arm out, the swaddle was done.  We didn't use any Miracle Blankets or Swaddlemes to keep him swaddled outside of a plain flannel blanket.  We just simply put him down without one, starting around 8 weeks.  & thus had ZERO issues with de-swaddling.

TashaLee

BlairWaldorf:

Here, I've got one that will totally piss off a ton of people:

I want to write hate mail to every single overly-obsessive attachment parenting person, book, author, expert, etc.  GET F*CKED.

I wear my kid.  I feed on demand.  I do a lot of the "attachment parenting" ideals (which to me, are more common sense with a newborn).  But the guilt that these books & "experts" impose on us should we fall asleep while our baby cries, or we just need 2 F*CKING SECONDS TO MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE, SO YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SCREAM IN YOUR SWING KID is ridiculous.  I'm not pulling over my f*cking car on my morning commute because the kid is pissy in the backseat.  He's not choking on vomit, strangled by the carseat, or being poked by the devil himself, so he can deal another 20 minutes until we make it to daycare.

My kid is not going to blow up a village when he's 30 because Mommy let's him cry for 15 minutes in the morning because she needs to put in her contacts, brush her teeth, & drink a cup of coffee.  He's not going to turn to me when he's 18 & tell me that the problems of his life are because I let him fuss it out for 30 minutes in his crib to fall asleep.  He's not going to tell me on my deathbed that he felt abandoned or neglected at 3 months because ::gasp:: I let him scream during tummy time.

I wish people would just regain their sanity & common sense.  You let your kid become the sole center of your existance, marriage, goals, etc and I think that causes far more problems than a few nights of CIO so Mommy can have a cocktail.

This is great! 

I've let DD fuss and cry before with no problems. I don't have a problem with it once and a while and if she's not hysterical, and just fussing because she's fighting going to sleep or something then it's fine. Like the other morning I was in the shower and she was in her bouncy seat on the bathroom floor, as soon as I got the shampoo in my hair she started fussing and crying. I knew there was nothing wrong with her, she had just been fed, changed, and burped so she was fine. She just didn't want to be in the chair. Well I'm sorry but I did not jump out of the shower my head full of shampoo! I just started singing one of the songs I know she likes and after a couple minutes she was fine! I think sometimes you just need to take a minute for yourself every now and then. And if you know there is nothing wrong with them, and they're just being fussy and you need to use the bathroom or eat or get a drink or something like that, I think it's all right to do it. I'm sorry if that makes me a horrible parent, but I don't really think it does. Sophia is a happy, great baby and I don't think she'll be permanently scarred if I let her cry for a couple minutes every now and then!! Sorry!! 

BlairWaldorf

oooh, I have another one.  I'm full of juicy ones.

Sometimes I feel bad for people that breastfeed, especially after reading a lot of the posts on here complaining about BFing.

I get to drink alcohol.  & 3 cups of coffee in the morning.  & due to Harrison's allergies, I still get to eat cheese.  & wheat.  & whatever the hell I want.  & at night, Nate gives Harrison his bottle so there is absolutely nothing Harrison relies on me 100% for.  Which doesn't make me feel like a trapped milk cow at 3am.  I don't have to worry about a dry vag & lack of sex drive, or leaking boobs in the mall, or tacky nursing bras & tanks.  My nipples aren't cracked, raw, or bleeding.  The only massaging required is when I'm getting frisky with my husband.  I don't have to worry about rinsing out a pump in the public work bathroom, or putting it in the office fridge.  Or worrying if the janitor will walk in while it's sucking the milk out of me.  & if I'm at Starbucks having coffee with a girlfriend & Harrison gets hungry, I don't have to seek cover or worry about offending anyone.

and my kid still loves me.

yeah.  It's good to bottlefeed.

RAWR.  and....go!

MrsBatty

BlairWaldorf:

oooh, I have another one.  I'm full of juicy ones.

Sometimes I feel bad for people that breastfeed, especially after reading a lot of the posts on here complaining about BFing.

I get to drink alcohol.  & 3 cups of coffee in the morning.  & due to Harrison's allergies, I still get to eat cheese.  & wheat.  & whatever the hell I want.  & at night, Nate gives Harrison his bottle so there is absolutely nothing Harrison relies on me 100% for.  Which doesn't make me feel like a trapped milk cow at 3am.  I don't have to worry about a dry vag & lack of sex drive, or leaking boobs in the mall, or tacky nursing bras & tanks.  My nipples aren't cracked, raw, or bleeding.  The only massaging required is when I'm getting frisky with my husband.  I don't have to worry about rinsing out a pump in the public work bathroom, or putting it in the office fridge.  Or worrying if the janitor will walk in while it's sucking the milk out of me.  & if I'm at Starbucks having coffee with a girlfriend & Harrison gets hungry, I don't have to seek cover or worry about offending anyone.

and my kid still loves me.

yeah.  It's good to bottlefeed.

RAWR.  and....go!

I am going to frame this and put in on my wall.  LOVE IT.

Aliliv

BlairWaldorf:

rinny627:

I think it's kind of crazy to have your child still swaddled 4 months out. People are starting to talk about de-swaddling and it being so hard. Well if you started a while ago, you wouldn't be having this issue. DS has been de swaddled since week 3 and has never startled himself awake and he's STTN now. I don't understand why you think you need to swaddle your baby for so long. The End. (I'm definitely glad it's FFFC) 

oh, for serious.

Once H could kick open the blankets or get an arm out, the swaddle was done.  We didn't use any Miracle Blankets or Swaddlemes to keep him swaddled outside of a plain flannel blanket.  We just simply put him down without one, starting around 8 weeks.  & thus had ZERO issues with de-swaddling.

I don't get de-swaddling at all, either (but, maybe for different reasons...).   Why is it such a problem?   Why do babies even have to get "used" to not being swaddled?   I honestly don't get it.   If your baby kicks off blankets that's a pretty good indication that they don't want to be swaddled any more.  And........ Natalie is partially swaddled at  5+ months - big deal.    I wrap her up from the arm-pits down.   When she starts consistently kicking the rest of the blankets off, I'll take the swaddle away.   With no problems.  This is how it was with my first (at 6 months I took it completely away, with no problems and she didn't care).       I just don't see what the hurry is or what the deal is with actively "de-swaddling."  Why not let the baby decide, it doesn't hurt anybody...

fairychick77

BlairWaldorf:

oooh, I have another one.  I'm full of juicy ones.

Sometimes I feel bad for people that breastfeed, especially after reading a lot of the posts on here complaining about BFing.

I get to drink alcohol.  & 3 cups of coffee in the morning.  & due to Harrison's allergies, I still get to eat cheese.  & wheat.  & whatever the hell I want.  & at night, Nate gives Harrison his bottle so there is absolutely nothing Harrison relies on me 100% for.  Which doesn't make me feel like a trapped milk cow at 3am.  I don't have to worry about a dry vag & lack of sex drive, or leaking boobs in the mall, or tacky nursing bras & tanks.  My nipples aren't cracked, raw, or bleeding.  The only massaging required is when I'm getting frisky with my husband.  I don't have to worry about rinsing out a pump in the public work bathroom, or putting it in the office fridge.  Or worrying if the janitor will walk in while it's sucking the milk out of me.  & if I'm at Starbucks having coffee with a girlfriend & Harrison gets hungry, I don't have to seek cover or worry about offending anyone.

and my kid still loves me.

yeah.  It's good to bottlefeed.

RAWR.  and....go!

I pph this post even though I am jealous of all the things you can do that I can't! ::pouts::

jonsdeedee

I don't get people who say they haven't had a shower in 3 days (or whatever) because their LO is always crying, needs to be held etc.  One day I didn't go to the bathroom because I felt DD "needed" to be held.  Then the sane part of my brain kicked in and I put her in her swing and peed and showered.  Guess what she was fine. She fussed for a minute or two but was fine in the end. I have showered everyday but 1 since DD has been home and that one was a pj day after the holidays because I was too lazy to get out of my pjs.

Kristinmo

I have 3:

1.  I stopped EBFing when I went back to work 3 weeks ago.  DS now gets formula during the day and I was BF'ing when at home.  My supply has tanked and I think that in another week of so I won't be able to nurse anymore at all.  I'm excited and don't feel guilty about it at all!

2.  DH and I have only had sex twice since DS was born.  DS is difficult to get to sleep until 10-11 and we are both too tired once he's down.  I have no desire and I don't feel guilty about that either!

3.  My friend has a LO a couple weeks older than DS.  I secretly love anytime she asks if DS has hit a certain milestone and he has while hers hasn't.

BengalBelle

I'm stifling my child's voice.  I woke up at 3 a.m. to the sound of babbling in the monitor.  Not fussing, not crying, just chatter.  I couldn't sleep with all of those adorable sounds being piped into our room.  I tried turning off the monitor (his room is so close that even without it, I can hear him cry) and the babble still was keeping me awake.  After 30 minutes, I went in and offered him his pacifier.  He took the hint.

I like that he likes to voice his opinion, but I don't need him voicing it in the wee small hours of the morning.

And I love formula feeding.  The doctor told me that even though BFing didn't work with this baby, it was quite possible it would with the next.  I don't plan on even trying.