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jenerally?
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I'm over it. Are you over it?
jenerally?
member
Since when did it become a crime to belong to another board**? Do you
disclose every website you frequent? No, of course not. Mostly, no one
cares, except the ones who clutch their pearls and squeal, "oh noes!
the sanctity of the bump has been violated!" Massive eye roll.
If
you didn't know there are off shoot boards, you are naive. This is NOT
a new phenomenon and there are more than you (or I) can even guess.
There are at least 2, possibly three on BOTB. 12-24 has their own
(which has imploded more than once). There are the cat rave girls from
6-12. There is the lerxie/merks group. Neither might have a fancy name,
but they still talk off-bump very regularly. There is Hab and there is
Haven. There are the muu muu mamas. There are those Michigan dudes who
thought it was funny to come here and start shiit. There is even a
group going through the tri boards right now -- headed up by "dragon
slayer" nannyannie. (dude. talk about bsc)
Being a part of an off shoot board does
NOT make you bsc. Having a group of ladies you've become close to
doesn't change who you are. The only thing "bsc" about it is how much
some people care around here. It's the fvcking internet. Get a grip.
**I feel at this point that I should disclose that I also have OTHER groups I ALSO belong to. Happy New Year!
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Re: I'm over it. Are you over it?
Agreed, 100%.
Dudes, private boards are nothing new. I've been in several (hell, I even made one when I was on the tri boards), including the massive implosion of BOTB that occurred. Over ninjas. lolz.
I digress.
I completely agree on BSC being how much people care. On all sides of the coin -- both members, former members, & non-members. ::shrugs:: It's just really no big effing deal either way.
exactly, mavila. You, of all people, should understand.
I'm still lost.
I think you all think that everyone on here cares a lot more than they actually do.
Not everyone. Not by a long shot. Just certain people who keep bringing it up. And other certain people who can't seem to get past the idea that there might be people who talk IRL.
I was never under it.
here's the deal: Nobody cares about your board except to see a little bit of drama go down. I talk to people regularly on FB from the bump no problemo. The difference is that we are not creating AEs, we are not causing drama on the bump. If you don't want people to comment on your inner group problems, don't post about them on the bump.
I just don't like to see one person getting ganged up on by a group of women. I get it. She hurt some of your feelings, she brought drama back to the this board. But you guys are perpetuating the drama by always following (and yes, it does look like you guys just stalk her) what she posts. You don't want people to think your group is hateful? Then don't act hateful when you are on the bump.
That's my job!!!
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the honesty.. and its exactly how I feel also
For those of us HAB's that were here today, it was not just to seek out Lilly. We posted some PIP's and had other, non-secret-board related fun. Some of us have even been replying to posts for awhile now to help other moms. Some choose not to come on the bump at all anymore. It is not all about the drama of members versus former members.
I agree, the drama is delicious. I get that. I would LOVE for people to stop commenting on the inner group problems, but the problem is that certain people with a vendetta against the group keep bringing it up and sowing seeds of malcontent. Some are flat out spreading lies and when we come out to defend ourselves, that seems to solidify the "bsc" label.
And frankly, what I'm talking about and what you are talking about are two different things. Lily came on the bump the night before we were outed and wrote "neener neener neener" and said she had a juicy secret that would make this board implode. The next day, the hab list was posted. Perhaps she was not the one to actually hit the post button. But where there is smoke, there is fire. How can we not be bitter about that?
and I hope by me speaking openly about this ... instead of in PMs ... that I can help clear the air and fix any misconceptions. If hab was originally intended for a place to talk about the bump, it is a FAR cry from that today.
If its not such a big deal then why would you be bitter?
I think it has more to do with the AE bank than the private board.
The AEs that the HABs had access to were used for some pretty hateful comments against other bumpies ~ BKL, JCM and brown mouse....just to name a few targets.
You think that is the issue? I never thought it was you.
I would love to hear the truth. PM me, please.
I sent you a message. If you want to talk, we can talk.
Some AEs were used in mean ways. Some AEs were funny. We are not the first, nor the last, group to have access to AEs.
The AE bank was a single thread on a board that otherwise has nothing to do with AE's. And it doesn't exist anymore.I know that. I've gotten a lot of helpful advice from HAB members. I admit, the PIPs were kind of annoying. They all seemed like a giant inside joke that a lot of people weren't in on. I'm sure HAB isn't all about drama but when you see some people that come out ONLY for the drama, it kind of sticks. And people are a lot more likely to remember the bad then they are the good. Just sayin'.
Hatin' Ass Biitches
Ok Ms. Silver Poster.
Don't be hatin'! It's taken me over two years for that bling, and most of that was while I was being paid, waiting 41 weeks for this baby to pop out, and now again being paid. The only time I'm usually on at night is after LO goes to sleep and when DH is out.
Like who? I'm always fascinated by this rationale.
comments like this are what make hab members come out of the woodwork. comments like this are what make people want to go create other boards that are more private where they know they can get support without fear of running into people that question how they are raising their children. comments like this make me realize how awesome it is to be a part of HAB. i have 3 children that get all my attention and are just FINE ... thank you so much your concern though. obviously you weren't talking about "me" because i choose not to post here any more for the most part, but I know with 100% certainty that all the HAB moms are loving & caring mothers.